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How to get out of a vicious circle?

can you be specific on what kind of vicious cycle?

my vicious cycle reminds me of the times when I opened Cognac or whisky at KTV, after leftover, I will re-visit again cos' there is leftover,finish again order another one,this went on and on, and money not well spent...:D:D:D:p

I seem to be in one recently. And how to get into a virtuous circle?

Pls advice.
 
can you be specific on what kind of vicious cycle?

my vicious cycle reminds me of the times when I opened Cognac or whisky at KTV, after leftover, I will re-visit again cos' there is leftover,finish again order another one,this went on and on, and money not well spent...:D:D:D:p

If you belanjah me, I'd have ended your vicious cycle by helping you finish off the bottle the same night. :D
 
I seem to be in one recently. And how to get into a virtuous circle?

Pls advice.

Bro,you have to let us know that know what happen,i am sure there are many bros here who would like to help you in advise or advice...

we dun want to be ended up like an idiot ourselve in replying to some mad monkeys who post recently saying his dad just passed away,and we would ask him to stay strong,itsnot the end of world or where can we give the hell/heaven monies and the next thing he we know he says wants to kill his parents and another idiot says he wants to get a girlfriend and next thing we know he says he's a homo..;)
 
heh...heh...expensive not now! just got fined in court yesterday,thanks to NEA!

If you belanjah me, I'd have ended your vicious cycle by helping you finish off the bottle the same night. :D
 
I seem to be in one recently. And how to get into a virtuous circle?

Pls advice.

if u were not the CAUSE, then u could be the EFFECT.

understand the cause, put in effort to avoid it and stop the CONDITIONS so that u won't end up as the effect which u r in now.;)
 
If you belanjah me, I'd have ended your vicious cycle by helping you finish off the bottle the same night. :D

i belanja u b4 but the effect is a feeling of much regret.

my dr pal's is very right and accurate about u.

treat a good dog, it can wag it's tail. treat a wrong pariah and it bites u back with gratitude.:o
 
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Common abusers of older people

An abuser can be a spouse, partner, relative, a friend or neighbor, a volunteer worker, a paid worker, practitioner, solicitor or any other individual with the intent to deprive a vulnerable person of their resources. Relatives include adult children and their spouses or partners, their offspring and other extended family members. Children and living relatives who have a history of substance abuse or have had other life troubles are of particular concern.

Perpetrators of elder abuse can include anyone in a position of trust, control or authority. Family relationships, neighbours and friends, are all socially considered as relationships of trust, whether or not the older adult actually thinks of the people as "trustworthy". Some perpetrators may "groom" an older person (befriend or build a relationship with them) in order to establish a relationship of trust. Older people living alone who have no adult children living nearby are particularly vulnerable to "grooming" by neighbors and friends who would hope to gain control of their estates.

The majority of abusers are relatives, typically the older adult's spouse/partner or sons and daughters, although the type of abuse differs according to the relationship. In some situations the abuse is "domestic violence grown old", a situation in which the abusive behaviour of a spouse or partner continues into old age.

In some situations, an older couple may be attempting to care and support each other and failing, in the absence of external support. With sons and daughters it tends to be financial abuse, justified by a belief that it is nothing more than the "advance inheritance" of property, valuables and money.

Within paid care environments, abuse can occur for a variety of reasons. Some abuse is the wilful act of cruelty inflicted by a single individual upon an older person. In fact, a case study in Canada suggests that the high elder abuse statistics are from repeat offenders who, like in other forms of abuse, practice elder abuse for the schadenfreude associated with the act. Nick Klassen, a practitioner of elder abuse involved in the study, described somewhat of an ecstasy, high, or sense of satisfaction while performing acts of abuse on the elderly. More connoly, institional abuses or neglect may reflect lack of knowledge, lack of training, lack of support, or insufficient resourcing. Instititional abuse may be the consequence common practices or processes that are part of running of a care institution or service. Sometimes this type of abuse is referred to as "poor practice", although it is important to recognise that this term reflects the motive of the perpetrator (the causation) rather than the impact upon the older person.

With the aging of today's population, there is the potential that elder abuse will increase unless it is more comprehensively recognised and addressed.
 
Thanks guys for your advises. :)

I'll not go into details here.

I guess it's still up to myself to get out of it. This too shall pass. :D
 
can you be specific on what kind of vicious cycle?

my vicious cycle reminds me of the times when I opened Cognac or whisky at KTV, after leftover, I will re-visit again cos' there is leftover,finish again order another one,this went on and on, and money not well spent...:D:D:D:p

You must have reflected upon your sinful folly now.
 
Sam will tell you it should be: "Thanks for the advices" :D:D:D
Should be "Thanks for the ADVICE...".

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) and take the test.
 
Should be "Thanks for the ADVICE...".

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) and take the test.

:p:p:p thanks for the advice :p:p:p
 
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