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[h=2]23-year-old security guard feeling hopeless and suicidal in
life[/h]
Number of View: 3214

Hi Sir
Im not too sure if you remember me.
My name is Steven
I have emailed you regarding my job as a security guard and the challenges I
faced.
I am currently facing more problems than before and have thought of suicide
as a way out.
I would like to share my story with you but is it ok if you dont publish
it?
If it needs to be published I’m ok just hope you can edit it thanks.
I am looking for online counselling with you so that you can help me out.
Here is my story:-
I have worked in this security company for more than 3 years
I believe they have underpaid me by $400 every month.
Most security companies nowadays offer at least $1700 to $1900 but all I am
getting is only $1550 – which is way below the standard pay.
I feel very lost in life as I am only 23 now – how can one be optimistic when
he is working as a security guard at such a young age?
Many of my friends have already succeeded in their career at 23.
I am intrested in upgrading myself but I am having problems knowing what I
want.
I like this course called hotel management but thinking about it makes me
feel sad.
Firstly it costs $15k for the whole course. And secondly when I graduate it
dosen’t mean I can get a job in there due to the foreigner overload in this
industry or any other industry for that matter.
Gilbert could you advice me on how do I succeed in life?
I have asked many people on how do I go about doing it but many of my friends
and so called job counsellors only ask me go get a course and work hard at
it.
Their talk is easy. As for me now I heard that I can be a Supervisor and
after that Security OE but I am currently having problems.
Firstly, I dare not face up to hardship like for example when I am faced with
a new job that is tough I would give up easily then second thing is I always
face problems no matter where I go.
I wish you can help me in person.
I remember you asked me to meet you last time which I cant due to so much
stress at work that I did not even have an off day for a month.
I feel suicidal right now. Do you offer counselling over the phone?
Regds,
Steven
*****
Hi Steven
Thanks for your mail and sorry to hear of your predicament.
Its true that making a living nowadays is tougher as say compared to twenty
years ago.
We now have to compete with cheaper foreign workers and there is nothing in
legislation to protect the home-grown local worker here.
I am glad that after receiving your first mail three months ago, you are
still in the same job as before and this shows that you are also tough and
hardy.
Life is tough and there is nothing to suggest that it will be easier.
However, the tough gets going and over time one gets better in managing tough
situations as we are always place in the mill.
I am ok to meet up with you in person if possible for a chat in the near
future.
Taking out one’s life isn’t the solution as firstly it does not resolve the
situation one bit and secondly it will leave behind a trail of misery for our
loved ones who will miss us alot.
Thanks and stay positive.
We are here for you.
Gilbert Goh
Editor’s Note: We have communicated with the reader via phone and
have make an appointment to see the person soon for a session.
life[/h]
Number of View: 3214

Hi Sir
Im not too sure if you remember me.
My name is Steven
I have emailed you regarding my job as a security guard and the challenges I
faced.
I am currently facing more problems than before and have thought of suicide
as a way out.
I would like to share my story with you but is it ok if you dont publish
it?
If it needs to be published I’m ok just hope you can edit it thanks.
I am looking for online counselling with you so that you can help me out.
Here is my story:-
I have worked in this security company for more than 3 years
I believe they have underpaid me by $400 every month.
Most security companies nowadays offer at least $1700 to $1900 but all I am
getting is only $1550 – which is way below the standard pay.
I feel very lost in life as I am only 23 now – how can one be optimistic when
he is working as a security guard at such a young age?
Many of my friends have already succeeded in their career at 23.
I am intrested in upgrading myself but I am having problems knowing what I
want.
I like this course called hotel management but thinking about it makes me
feel sad.
Firstly it costs $15k for the whole course. And secondly when I graduate it
dosen’t mean I can get a job in there due to the foreigner overload in this
industry or any other industry for that matter.
Gilbert could you advice me on how do I succeed in life?
I have asked many people on how do I go about doing it but many of my friends
and so called job counsellors only ask me go get a course and work hard at
it.
Their talk is easy. As for me now I heard that I can be a Supervisor and
after that Security OE but I am currently having problems.
Firstly, I dare not face up to hardship like for example when I am faced with
a new job that is tough I would give up easily then second thing is I always
face problems no matter where I go.
I wish you can help me in person.
I remember you asked me to meet you last time which I cant due to so much
stress at work that I did not even have an off day for a month.
I feel suicidal right now. Do you offer counselling over the phone?
Regds,
Steven
*****
Hi Steven
Thanks for your mail and sorry to hear of your predicament.
Its true that making a living nowadays is tougher as say compared to twenty
years ago.
We now have to compete with cheaper foreign workers and there is nothing in
legislation to protect the home-grown local worker here.
I am glad that after receiving your first mail three months ago, you are
still in the same job as before and this shows that you are also tough and
hardy.
Life is tough and there is nothing to suggest that it will be easier.
However, the tough gets going and over time one gets better in managing tough
situations as we are always place in the mill.
I am ok to meet up with you in person if possible for a chat in the near
future.
Taking out one’s life isn’t the solution as firstly it does not resolve the
situation one bit and secondly it will leave behind a trail of misery for our
loved ones who will miss us alot.
Thanks and stay positive.
We are here for you.
Gilbert Goh
Editor’s Note: We have communicated with the reader via phone and
have make an appointment to see the person soon for a session.