Sad to see such in Reddit website. The insignificant nobody me do not go there, but since it had been posted here on SBF, I thought to share with others whom are in such predicaments.
1. Always remind yourself, that you are NOT alone. Others too had gone thru the same and found success in life and love.
2. You had done no wrong in the name of love, as each Human only seeks to love and be loved in return. It is your boyfriend that would have to bear the burden of Guilt consciousness for the rest of his miserable life, as he had cheated you of your feelings, and worse, he ABANDONED his own flesh blood - his child with you,
3. You are a NOBLE lady, as you chose to courageously bear the child than to do the same with your beastly boyfriend. You did not abandon your child, and knew FULL WELL the consequences, as well as the joys you will find in your life with that vulnerable kid. You are a good lady, and GREAT MOTHERS have that mettle in you.
4. As you had managed to gain entry to tertiary education, it shows you DO HAVE the STEM knowledge in you as well as the discipline in academic studies during secondary school, even if you did not complete the Poly course.
Thus, do not SHORTCHANGE yourself. You are meant for better career in life.
We Singaporeans will LEAVE NO ONE BEHIND unless they choose to. We taxpayers do not just mouth motherhood statements, but had ALLOCATED funds in SKILLS UPGRADING Programs so that you can find a course that you may be interested in, and be funded till you achieve the necessary knowledge and skills qualifications to get a better job, than mere clerical work.
5. Resign from your present job, as YOU HAD BEEN TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF by a beastly boss, who is leading you into the dead end that you feared. Visit jobs and careers fairs, especially in Civil Service or Singapore's Statutory boards for a stable career.
Although the salary may be lower than private firms, but should you obtain the necessary qualifications thru Skill Upgrading Program, you can be assured that a career path would had been planned for you. There is no or little hanky panky in such organizations, career advancement is based upon KPI - key performance index, and none would want to mess their future with thoughtless actions....
6. As you had to work long hours in your present job, away from your child, it is evident that there is someone else who is looking after your kid, probably either your mother or siblings. Such is why Civilization progress, as it begins with the family, and your family will not abandon you, no matter what you had done. It shows that YOU ARE LOVED. Thus, do not take such for granted, but to honor those who truly love you and always be there for them in the often roller coaster journey of life....
7. Find part time jobs with flexible working hours, so that you can focus on skill upgrading to gain a job with dignity and career advancements, and build up your savings. You will need such as the costs of living can be a strain for families, more so for a young mother....
This is Singapore. We will leave no one behind. Stay strong and have courage. All the best to you, your child and your family.
