Advice Needed: Should I?

[tonychat]

Quite an essay. But as you are not female, your imagination is equally commendable .. or you have stolen passages from some girly novels. Ha Ha.

Exactly!!! it is very puke-inducing.

 

[Claire]

Then have you found a solution to your question?

Sort of.

Aside from getting rid of the butterflies in my stomach, I wrote this thread to get a feel of how men will think, just to get a view of the psychological makeup of this man I am with for a week.

Putting aside the nonsensical posts from some, I guess the general view of those who have given me good advice (like eatshtndie) is not to haste and regret but proceed with caution as he has antecedents.

Unless someone can come up with an ingenious solution through this crowdsourcing thread, I believe that is the course of action I will take.

 

[tonychat]

I am in 30s and not late 30s.

Is this even an affair? I am not attached and neither is he married.

I have no expectations to be honest with you.

I don't even think of marriage at this very moment.

All I want is someone who is there to care for me when I am down, someone I can relate to, someone to advise me when I am confused, someone with a shoulder I can lean on when I am tired and someone who can enjoy happy moments together, whether in a mudane working world or during holidays.

You are looking for a stupid mangina who takes time to give a shit on your emotional bullshit..dun worry, in sinkieland.. there are loads of such losers.. just take your time to pick one.

 

[Claire]

It's Nelson.

Are you Sadplumpgirl ?

Get a life. After all these while, you both still cannot accept a woman writing better and participating in this forum? Your medieval mind set have got to change, unless of course you are just innately vacuous individuals in real-life.

 

[zhihau]

Get a life.

Grab your friends in, we need diversity

 

[looneytan]

I wrote this thread to get a feel of how men will think, just to get a view of the psychological makeup of this man I am with for a week.

So far has he ever asked you to wear Japanese school girl uniform?

 

[looneytan]

You have made my day. Please get your friends to join too.

Her friends are SadPlumpGal and Lolabunny

 

[looneytan]

Grab your friends in, we need diversity

Please see post 67

 

[Thick Face Black Heart]

Nothing lasts forever, just enjoy the ride

I thought you would be like "althogether now, huat ah!" but I guess the huatting is done by someone else and not sammyboy forummers, so I guess not.

 

[Wunderfool]

Let me ask you, what do you like about him that you would want to move in to stay with him ?

If both of you are in love, go and love courageously. If you don't love him, stay out of the fire.

 

[Charlie99]

TS, it's a matter of managing expectations. He's a divorcee with a serial history of getting in and out of relationships. It's obvious that you're just another notch in his belt – he wants a relationship with you for the sex and companionship, but without the long-term commitment (nor is he likely to consider marriage again). Until the magic fades, or someone else better comes along.

If you're OK with that, then go in with your eyes wide open. Just don't expect this to end down the aisle with both of you living together happily after. These days even marriage is no guarantee of a lasting relationship.

G'luck.

Good suggestion.

 

[Charlie99]

Whilst my brain is largely in agreement with both of you, the same applies for me. Maybe I will dump him before he does to me. I have done it twice before previously.

I am surprised you were so decisive to spend that night with him,
and the action.

 

[looneytan]

Maybe I will dump him before he does to me. I have done it twice before previously.

I don't mind being a forth guy you dump provided that 3 guys don't give me herpes

 

[Poomer]

In all forums which I have read, I have seldom participated. I have chosen to participate here and believe this forum for its maturity and anonymity.

Agreed, i feel the 3 major forums are here, EDMW and sgforum. sgforum looks like shit, EDMW so many kids congregate there till they can't talk properly.

 

[Poomer]

Honestly, I agree with you it is not the right time to move in. My concerns are if things don't work out, my parents will be saying ~ see, didn't we tell you he is a jerk and all sorts of nagging like 不听老人言，吃亏在眼前 blah blah blah which will probably drive me into a nutcase when I move back to stay with them again.

Aiya, take it slow la... You tell the fella you are not mentally prepared la (you feel like a lok kway if you move in with him a week after a ONS) Get to know him more, if he is really a wolf, you might get more telltale signs. Anyway, if he really pressure you to move in, I'll be a lil wary.

 

[Claire]

Good suggestion.

I am surprised you were so decisive to spend that night with him,
and the action.

Hi Charlie, how have you been?

Sorry, I guess I just logoff just now as you replied just now. You must be having your healthy lunch again

Just back home now after dinner with him.

Yep, I do agree with yellowarse as well.

As for your comment, all I can say is ~ it just happened. I did not plan it nor I roll myself into it.

 

[Claire]

I don't mind being a forth guy you dump provided that 3 guys don't give me herpes

Long, cut your crap if you are here to make a joke out of the whole matter.

However, I am more "irritated" by your grammar.

The word forth (without u) is an adverb meaning forward or onward (e.g., from this day forth, bring forth, go forth). It can also mean come out into view (e.g., Come forth from the crowd). The correct word is "Fourth".

Having said the above, I have absolutely no interest in you.

 

[harimau]

Show him this picture, and say you have STD!

He will stop bugging you forever!

 

[Claire]

Aiya, take it slow la... You tell the fella you are not mentally prepared la (you feel like a lok kway if you move in with him a week after a ONS) Get to know him more, if he is really a wolf, you might get more telltale signs. Anyway, if he really pressure you to move in, I'll be a lil wary.

Thanks Poomer for your advice. I agree.

In fact, over dinner with him a while ago, I sort of spell out a "compromise" position with him, i.e. I will most likely spend my Friday and Saturday nites at his place.

I didn't want to reject him with a flat "No", as I do not want to hurt his ego.

 

[Claire]

Agreed, i feel the 3 major forums are here, EDMW and sgforum. sgforum looks like shit, EDMW so many kids congregate there till they can't talk properly.

I agree in general as well, though there are still a couple of dullards here in this forum. Without even mentioning names, you can see for yourself who they are.