Advice Needed: Should I?

[chootchiew]

Are you Sadplumpgirl ?

 

[zhihau]

Are you Sadplumpgirl ?

It's Nelson.

 

[Claire]

And you've got your question answered. He's looking for a free fuck.

The ball is in your court, do you wanna be a free fuck?

Perhaps. But he has been in and out of relationships, and my brain thinks like you whilst my heart tells me to give him the benefit of doubt.

 

[eatshitndie]

I did think so earlier in the week when I am at work. But once we meet, it just didn't feel so.

he's a good actor and you're easily deceived. his history will tell you objectively what's gonna happen in the future. ask his prior conquests.

 

[wikiphile]

It's Nelson.

Of Freddy got fingered fame?

 

[zhihau]

ask his prior conquests.

Bet you some shillings he's a pretty good fucker

 

[eatshitndie]

I am usually careful about such matters.

there was a case of an extremely "careful" lady who insisted on protection but she contracted std and got pregnant anyway as the man outsmarted her with a jedi mind trick and slight of hand before entering. only when he got her all sticky below did she realize she had been duped. anyway it's your prerogative on how your joy tube is enjoyed in the heat of passion. firewall rules don't always apply in such human circumstances.

 

[Claire]

he's a good actor and you're easily deceived. his history will tell you objectively what's gonna happen in the future. ask his prior conquests.

Is history that important to judge a person? Most men I have met have "prior" conquests in this age and time. Even some of my fellow friends have their conquests on men.

We live in a much open society now than in medieval days. I am sure you have a couple of relationships before you finally settled on your wife. No?

 

[yellowarse]

TS, it's a matter of managing expectations. He's a divorcee with a serial history of getting in and out of relationships. It's obvious that you're just another notch in his belt – he wants a relationship with you for the sex and companionship, but without the long-term commitment (nor is he likely to consider marriage again). Until the magic fades, or someone else better comes along.

If you're OK with that, then go in with your eyes wide open. Just don't expect this to end down the aisle with both of you living together happily after. These days even marriage is no guarantee of a lasting relationship.

G'luck.

 

[Leongsam]

Affairs are fun but they can be roller coaster rides. You have to be emotionally prepared for the day the ride runs out of track and you have to disembark.

Based upon your description of your lover, he's not going to hang around forever. After a while he'll move on to new conquests.

If you repost your message at http://www.sammyboyforum.com , you'll probably get better advice. For all you know he may be a member of that forum and he'll give you a response from his vantage point.

 

[Claire]

there was a case of an extremely "careful" lady who insisted on protection but she contracted std and got pregnant anyway as the man outsmarted her with a jedi mind trick and slight of hand before entering. only when he got her all sticky below did she realize she had been duped. anyway it's your prerogative on how your joy tube is enjoyed in the heat of passion. firewall rules don't always apply in such human circumstances.

I feel perfectly fine this whole week if that is what you want to know.

 

[Claire]

TS, it's a matter of managing expectations. He's a divorcee with a serial history of getting in and out of relationships. It's obvious that you're just another notch in his belt – he wants a relationship with you for the sex and companionship, but without the long-term commitment (nor is he likely to consider marriage again). Until the magic fades, or someone else better comes along.

If you're OK with that, then go in with your eyes wide open. Just don't expect this to end down the aisle with both of you living together happily after. These days even marriage is no guarantee of a lasting relationship.

G'luck.

Affairs are fun but they can be roller coaster rides. You have to be emotionally prepared for the day the ride runs out of track and you have to disembark.

Based upon your description of your lover, he's not going to hang around forever. After a while he'll move on to new conquests.

If you repost your message at http://www.sammyboyforum.com , you'll probably get better advice. For all you know he may be a member of that forum and he'll give you a response from his vantage point.

Whilst my brain is largely in agreement with both of you, the same applies for me. Maybe I will dump him before he does to me. I have done it twice before previously.

 

[zhihau]

If you repost your message at http://www.sammyboyforum.com , you'll probably get better advice. For all you know he may be a member of that forum and he'll give you a response from his vantage point.

Boss,
You steady lah...

 

[zhihau]

I have done it twice before previously.

read post #2. Bwahahahahahahaa... Enjoy his riding while it lasts

 

[eatshitndie]

Is history that important to judge a person? Most men I have met have "prior" conquests in this age and time. Even some of my fellow friends have their conquests on men.

We live in a much open society now than in medieval days. I am sure you have a couple of relationships before you finally settled on your wife. No?

there's no issue with multiple test drives before one commits to a car. that's not what i'm referring to. i'm simply pointing out his deliberate game of deceit from his history. it's not about number of sex partners before a committed relationship. if you're willing to put up with antics of a serial two or perhaps three timer and treat it as an open relationship it's all your prerogative. don't bring up medieval bs with me. i'm beyond that. i'm into swinging now like one who wears pink.

 

[Claire]

there's no issue with multiple test drives before one commits to a car. that's not what i'm referring to. i'm simply pointing out his deliberate game of deceit from his history. it's not about number of sex partners before a committed relationship. if you're willing to put up with antics of a serial two or perhaps three timer and treat it as an open relationship it's all your prerogative. don't bring up medieval bs with me. i'm beyond that. i'm into swinging now like one who wears pink.

Honestly, I appreciate your advice. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

I am not trying to troll you or anyone here. My brains and my heart are not aligned and hence, my "argumentative" nature has overwhelmed my conduct. If I have offended you, I apologised unreservedly and unconditionally.

All I am trying to say is ~ no partner can be 100% committed even if he has no prior history of serial relationships.

 

[yinyang]

TS, some revelation. This is only a tryst (in a short space of time). Not opportune time yet, to shack up with him.
Cross the bridge, if and when you come to that.

You don't sound persuaded either.

 

[Leongsam]

Honestly, I appreciate your advice. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

I am not trying to troll you or anyone here. My brains and my heart are not aligned and hence, my "argumentative" nature has overwhelmed my conduct. If I have offended you, I apologised unreservedly and unconditionally.

All I am trying to say is ~ no partner can be 100% committed even if he has no prior history of serial relationships.

I find it very hard to believe that :

1. A sensible, well educated, intelligent woman like yourself would join this forum in the first place.

2. Having joined would pour her heart out in a forum populated by loonies, cynics, haters and losers.

Back in the early days it would have made sense as sammyboy was actually quite highbrow.

However in 2105 this forum is way past its glory days with only a handful of intellectuals who post sporadically. Most of the former stars are jaded, old, sick, dead or sorely disillusioned after being whipped by the 70%

 

[eatshitndie]

Honestly, I appreciate your advice. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

I am not trying to troll you or anyone here. My brains and my heart are not aligned and hence, my "argumentative" nature has overwhelmed my conduct. If I have offended you, I apologised unreservedly and unconditionally.

All I am trying to say is ~ no partner can be 100% committed even if he has no prior history of serial relationships.

agree that no one can be 100% committed unless he's a retard or a chc follower in blind faith. :p

if you think his crafty mastery of deceit is something you can live with when you move in then you're brave and stubborn enough to tame the tiger and get embroiled in his acting. if you're a player yourself, and you think you may break his heart one day instead of him breaking yours then go get it girl. i like to see for once the serial playboy getting his comeuppance and getting played out. but i won't hold my breath.

btw, no offense to me. i'm truly on a swing. it's a new lifestyle demonstrated by a dignitary.

 

[Claire]

I find it very hard to believe that :

1. A sensible, well educated, intelligent woman like yourself would join this forum in the first place.

2. Having joined would pour her heart out in a forum populated by loonies, cynics, haters and losers.

Back in the early days it would have made sense as sammyboy was actually quite highbrow.

However in 2105 this forum is way past its glory days with only a handful of intellectuals who post sporadically. Most of the former stars are jaded, old, sick, dead or sorely disillusioned after being whipped by the 70%

Your assumptions are usually flawed. I do not believe that the members here are as geriatric as what you have described. Just browsing through this thread will tell you who are the sane and contructive ones who cares about the well being of others.

In all forums which I have read, I have seldom participated. I have chosen to participate here and believe this forum for its maturity and anonymity.