Toxic family environment at home/Having suicidal thoughts

[no_faith]

If you sincerely want to die, plse make it a clean one, not so troublesome.

There are many out there living hell dont even know if there is tomorrow, yet you can still write so long online, what more you want

 

[Kopi0Kosong]

If you sincerely want to die, plse make it a clean one, not so troublesome.

There are many out there living hell dont even know if there is tomorrow, yet you can still write so long online, what more you want

He is good, thinking undergraduate, and should be able to act responsibly.

 

[Whitehole]

Tell yr dad how much the university course means to you and do tell him about yr suicidal thoughts. If he doesn't respond positively perhaps you need counseling to help you cope with the situation. If it's at all possible, moving out might be an option but will be a huge financial strain on you. Any of your trusted friends can help you out, with your lodging perhaps?

This story is a bit tall,,,,younger brother ask to sacrifice for older brother and these parents are just trailer park trash. Anyway if its true, than all the more breeding licences should be implemented and enforced to prevent the unworthy from breeding. Only selfish ppl breed when they themselves have issues and want to bring their kids to a worse place than them,

As you have made it to university, it would be a waste if you were to stop your studies because of 'hardship'. Focus on the 'financial hardship to pursue your higher education' rather than 'differences among family members'. There is no harm in seeking help from your constituency MP, especially when it's pertaining to education. A caring and competent MP should be able to assist without much issue, if your case is genuine. Surface your problem [having to leave the course] to your lecturer and/or Dean. There are financial study bursaries from well-wishers and organisations, especially the foundations. In a worse case scenario, seek a one-year deferment for your degree course. If intention is to break off ties and stay away, although this needs very serious thinking and re-consideration, then consider staying at a university hostel.
Life is transient. Remember there are many solutions to a problem, and a problem is not a problem when there is a solution. There are many others out there in different parts of Singapore with problems worse than yours.

Food for Thought:

Resent not your family members. Resent those who created problems for the family?
Aggressive behaviour - read up to understand people better.

Life continues whether you have money or no money. Remember to love yourself.

Bro, you are not a victim you are a survivor. You are capable, motivated and resourceful. The perfect family is ideal but often it's not so. Most families are dysfunctional in their unique way. A fuck up son, an arsehole parent, a useless daughter, a cheating parent, etc etc. Once we know the root of the problem, we can take steps to deal with it. I noticed you did not mention your mother, or other siblings. If you have them and love them, they will be affected if you choose to abundant the family. So the best option is to seek financial assistance with the government or a religious organisation if you are a member of one.

Stay on and seek financial help, or get away from your mad brother and useless father, will depend on how the ones you love will be affected.

Thank you, everyone. It has been a tough week. Yes, life still continues. Hopefully, it will be better one day.
Till then, I will continue to do whatever I can.

 

[JohnTan]

When I was little, my brother would hit me until my face bleed. My father would do nothing about this. He reasoned that he had no control over this because my older brother mental condition and he always had his right of way. That continued until secondary school. I decided to cut off all communication with him.

Family gathering wasn't at a thing in my household. There was no visiting during Chinese New Year despite having many relatives (or maybe they just hate my family). Financially my father did no better. There wasn't not cash to go around and he would consistently blame our relative for his failed business. The family environment was toxics. Daily arguments over money and my older brother. Broken plates and glassware was a constant sight in the household. There was no positivity within the family. I thought it would get better when I entered university. But no, I was dead wrong.

I am currently in my second year in NTU and I am funding my know tuition fee and my own personal expenditure by tutoring. Recently, my dad wanted me to quit school and support the family financially because he was unable to pay his expenditure (house, bills, grocery.) and to help out pay for my brother private university fee (the one that beat me).

I feel used. I feel tired. I see no purpose to continue anymore. And life is going to get tougher. I am already at the breaking point.

Come see your MP or grassroots adviser at our Meet-the-People's session. If it is urgent, seek help immediately from your nearest RC. Our grassroots volunteers are always willing to help our residents.

 

[Leongsam]

Thank you, everyone. It has been a tough week. Yes, life still continues. Hopefully, it will be better one day.
Till then, I will continue to do whatever I can.

Take control of your own destiny and do not allow toxic environments that are not of your creation to permeate your day to day life.

 

[Kopi0Kosong]

Thank you, everyone. It has been a tough week. Yes, life still continues. Hopefully, it will be better one day.
Till then, I will continue to do whatever I can.

Do pop by this courtyard whenever available. Kopi on Bossy Sam. Let us know you you get your KUNgineer honours degree. Best wishes.

 

[ToaPehGong]

Didn't mention guy or girl. Advice may vary according to gender

 

[borom]

Didn't mention guy or girl. Advice may vary according to gender

Agree.
If guy can sign up for one of those SAF/Police scheme where they pay you to study and you sign for 6 years. Not sure available for women .
Uniform groups not for everyone and although I struggled financially thru university, I did not sign on.
I managed to scrap through via bursaries and working during vacation.
Having a "understanding" girlfriend helps as she insist on paying for all meals and tickets when we date-otherwise I cannot afford to go out leh!

 

[rushifa666]

If shithole is misery, leave shithole. I understand thats like suicide for most sinkies. Hence sinkies