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Stressful Family Situation
Dear all, I just want to rant.
I have two younger brothers, K and X.
K is 31 years old this year. When K finished JC and then NS, he aspired to be a doctor/dentist. K didn't manage to get a place in medicine/dentistry but he managed to get into SMU Law. K dropped out halfway through Year 1. I suspect it is because K is not the most eloquent person (all three of us have really bad social and communication skills) and it was difficult to survive in SMU. K then tried to become an entrepreneur and stays in his room all day, coming out for only food, water and toilet. It has been 9 years. People send their watches to our apartment and K repairs them. There are lots of rubbish (food wrappers, empty drink cans) in his room and my mother cleans the room for him every now and then. Every few years, we get a pink letter from a debt collector and I don't see as many deliveries of watches these days. We don't communicate but I don't think K's business is exactly working out.
X is 29 years old. X graduated from uni during covid. X has not gotten a job since then and has been staying at home almost all the time. X spends all his time watching YouTube and mediacorp shows. X has been using Grabfood almost daily even though we live about 10 minutes from 3 coffeeshops. Recently, he has developed an extreme cleanliness streak. Twice a day, he spends 2 hour brushing and showering. He uses up an entire roll of toilet paper and a quarter of the shower gel bottle in the process. After that, he spends another 1 hour washing his hands, using about half a bottle of handwash. And another 1 hour applying copious amount of lotions to his face body and massages these parts (counting to around 100 for each body part). Our utilities bill is $600 per month for our family of five - no aircon.
My parents are in their 70s. My father is working as a petrol station attendant. They tried to talk sense into my two brothers for years but things have not improved. X has anger management issues and will raise his voice or says 'shhh' until my parents stop. My mother does all the housework. My two brothers don't help at all. I am a single male and working as a civil servant. I am extremely stressed about my family situation, especially the financial side of things.
