Sinkie bride asked wedding guest why only $100 red packet

[cass888]

People who need to recoup their cost from Ang Pows usually lose money. Those who are prepared to write off the entire $50k usually make money.

The wedding couple are crap for spending above their means. Nowadays, high-end weddings mostly lose money. its expected. how to possibly recoup? unless you dam CB and invite only your rich frens and relatives. even then, I had rich relatives and frens who gave $50 per pax. rich also can be stingy. Furthermore, the groom has to "give" tables to the bride's family. Net loss for me was $10k but it was expected. anyway its a once in a lifetime thing. whats most important is that everyone went home happy.

The friends were also cheapskate for giving $100 only. so what if they are in debt? in sg, almost everyone is in debt. now the whole world knows that they are cheapskate and have no money.

personally, I dislike going to wedding dinners. have to give money and sit with a bunch of ppl I dunno, and still hafta make small talk. waste time. I rather give $100 ang bao, dun go, stay at home and play with my dog. at least, I dun hafta make meaningless small talk.

 

[cass888]

From what I understand, not really since he is so low down the food chain it doesn't matter. He was a bit paisey about being pedantic about halaal food and somehow feeling that the 5-star restaurant's Muslim food may be suspect. Anyway he got the money back at CNY so alls well that ends well.

ok it sounds like a good malay but still i have to ask this question. You called him a peon which means he's obviously someone lower down the food chain so does this mean his job is dependent on making the boss happy? I mean he could have given money so as not to offend the boss.

 

[cass888]

Actually depends on your standing. Some people feel embarrassed about giving only a $200/head ang pow. But the couple should not have planned on recouping - should have taken recouping/profit as a bonus.

Don't blame the rich. In fact the more people start giving $50 ang pow for weddings, the more it will put downward pressure on the wedding banquets, which frankly, I think has spiraled out of control.

 

[cass888]

Because the expectation is for invited guest to pay ang pow money accordingly. The really rich ones will hold at high end hotels, and openly tell all invited guest ang pow only for good luck, no need to write name.

There are some guests who think it is too low class to give money. There was this mixed (Ang Mo-Chinese) couple who got stuck with 4 crystal decanters each worth between $300 to $1,000. They were too paisey to sell the extras so they have all 4 to this day.