Sinkie bride asked wedding guest why only $100 red packet

[LauCheeBye]

hmm, the wedding dinner got soursop juice?

You must as well ask if the bride is a Lau Chee Bye

 

[watchman8]

You think $1k chin choi lui ah?

You go geylang with $1000 can get the best mangoes in town. Yes, I think $1000 is a lot of lui.

 

[watchman8]

No money also want to how lian, throw big wedding dinner at hotels! That's the Sinkie bride nowadays.

If no money, can always have a small gathering at a friend's house or something. It's the spirit that counts.

Throwing wedding dinners at big 7 star hotels bound to lose money one, and this one is a true Sinkie - still want to cover her costs and make profits. Wtf!

As somebody said, might as well sell tickets to the dinner.

Because the expectation is for invited guest to pay ang pow money accordingly. The really rich ones will hold at high end hotels, and openly tell all invited guest ang pow only for good luck, no need to write name.

People who insist on ang pow money to write names are the cheapskates. I have refused to attend any wedding dinners for some years now due to this perverted social norm.

 

[winnipegjets]

She should have invited LHL and his gang ...maybe she could make a profit then.

Her friend should just write her off and spare the calculative bride the agony of attending their future wedding.

 

[whoami]

Red packet is against their religion. Try green packets, preferably those printed with a star and crescent.

Or just don't bother inviting Muslims. It is a logistical nightmare to set aside halal food for the few of them.

Stop spouting nonsense. Since when Red colour is against our religion? Stir shit again?

 

[Lestat]

Because the expectation is for invited guest to pay ang pow money accordingly. The really rich ones will hold at high end hotels, and openly tell all invited guest ang pow only for good luck, no need to write name.

People who insist on ang pow money to write names are the cheapskates. I have refused to attend any wedding dinners for some years now due to this perverted social norm.

Speaking of which, can anyone here advise when the tradition of writing names on the ang pow begin?

 

[Robert Half]

Chinese weddings in Singapore really show how fucked over the culture has become. A joyous occasion becomes one that looks to money as the pathway to happiness. Where the food is more important than the occasion. Celebrate your culture with French Cognac and western dances. Good luck to all you Chinkie types. Have fun.

Cheers!

Let us change and set the new standard rates (norm).

For wedding dinners hold at hotels - $30

For restaurants - $20

Others -$10

I hope all bros can follow the above set of ang bao rates

 

[tonychat]

when you live among the sinkies, that is what happens.

 

[Robert Half]

when you live among the sinkies, that is what happens.

We must bring down the wedding dinners ang bao prices

 

[Jah_rastafar_I]

My friend had his wedding earlier this year, he invited a couple of malay colleagues. Some never give, and some clown even give a $4 ang bao.

fucking cheebye malay cheapskates.

Btw can you attend malay wedding without giving any money?


I bet the malay colleages would have complained of racism if the host of the wedding mentioned it.

 

[cass888]

It's not that the guest is Malay. It's that the guest is cheapskate. My friend had a Malay guest (his office peon) who did not turn up and yet gave $80.00.

Unless you have 10 Muslim guests or for that matter 10 vegetarian guests, lagi siong because you pay double - table rate the same but have to pay another $200 for the Muslim meal.

fucking cheebye malay cheapskates.

Btw can you attend malay wedding without giving any money?


I bet the malay colleages would have complained of racism if the host of the wedding mentioned it.

 

[Jah_rastafar_I]

It's not that the guest is Malay. It's that the guest is cheapskate. My friend had a Malay guest (his office peon) who did not turn up and yet gave $80.00.

Unless you have 10 Muslim guests or for that matter 10 vegetarian guests, lagi siong because you pay double - table rate the same but have to pay another $200 for the Muslim meal.

OK wow did not turn up but still have 80 BUT and BUT again is his office peon someone high ranking? Is the wedding a high class wedding? You do know that depending on the wedding $80 when a person doesn't show up is or isn't a big deal. $80 for a no show at a void deck wedding now that's big money not so at a high class hotel.

Then you mention office peon. From the looks of things if he is the peon of your friend he gave the money so that he wouldn't suffer at his job or from the goodness of his heart.


Honestly i wouldn't look at the malay guests actually paying more. Comeon. You know what i say to be true. Yes it costs more cos the food has to be specially prepared but do you think if you invited a table of muslim guests they would actually pay more? I'm actually willing to bet no way UNLESS they happen to be a table of chinese muslims now then the probability increases by a lot.

 

[peppertail]

I would never dream about paying off my wedding bill with gifts received from my guests. As with everything else in life, plan and spend within your means. What's the point showing of with a lavish wedding and then complaining about the costs afterwards?? Weird custom that needs to be abolished...

 

[UnglamBastard]

such events only happen to chinese

next time, if any chinese invites you to any wedding, just reject..waste of time...go their wedding still need to give them $
ask them eat suck on their suckling pigs themselves

 

[cass888]

Not a no-show. An apology for not being able to attend. The friend actually told him no need ang pow come more important. But the peon didn't trust the hotel food as being really halal so he declined but gave the ang pow anyway. The friend had to find a way to return the money in an ang pow during CNY.

OK wow did not turn up but still have 80 BUT and BUT again is his office peon someone high ranking? Is the wedding a high class wedding? You do know that depending on the wedding $80 when a person doesn't show up is or isn't a big deal. $80 for a no show at a void deck wedding now that's big money not so at a high class hotel.

Then you mention office peon. From the looks of things if he is the peon of your friend he gave the money so that he wouldn't suffer at his job or from the goodness of his heart.


Honestly i wouldn't look at the malay guests actually paying more. Comeon. You know what i say to be true. Yes it costs more cos the food has to be specially prepared but do you think if you invited a table of muslim guests they would actually pay more? I'm actually willing to bet no way UNLESS they happen to be a table of chinese muslims now then the probability increases by a lot.

 

[1nottiboy]

The wedding couple are crap for spending above their means. Nowadays, high-end weddings mostly lose money. its expected. how to possibly recoup? unless you dam CB and invite only your rich frens and relatives. even then, I had rich relatives and frens who gave $50 per pax. rich also can be stingy. Furthermore, the groom has to "give" tables to the bride's family. Net loss for me was $10k but it was expected. anyway its a once in a lifetime thing. whats most important is that everyone went home happy.

The friends were also cheapskate for giving $100 only. so what if they are in debt? in sg, almost everyone is in debt. now the whole world knows that they are cheapskate and have no money.

personally, I dislike going to wedding dinners. have to give money and sit with a bunch of ppl I dunno, and still hafta make small talk. waste time. I rather give $100 ang bao, dun go, stay at home and play with my dog. at least, I dun hafta make meaningless small talk.

 

[watchman8]

Speaking of which, can anyone here advise when the tradition of writing names on the ang pow begin?

No idea. I hope this practice don't spread to Chinese New Year ang pow.

 

[watchman8]

The wedding couple are crap for spending above their means. Nowadays, high-end weddings mostly lose money. its expected. how to possibly recoup? unless you dam CB and invite only your rich frens and relatives. even then, I had rich relatives and frens who gave $50 per pax. rich also can be stingy. Furthermore, the groom has to "give" tables to the bride's family. Net loss for me was $10k but it was expected. anyway its a once in a lifetime thing. whats most important is that everyone went home happy.

The friends were also cheapskate for giving $100 only. so what if they are in debt? in sg, almost everyone is in debt. now the whole world knows that they are cheapskate and have no money.

personally, I dislike going to wedding dinners. have to give money and sit with a bunch of ppl I dunno, and still hafta make small talk. waste time. I rather give $100 ang bao, dun go, stay at home and play with my dog. at least, I dun hafta make meaningless small talk.

Don't blame the rich. In fact the more people start giving $50 ang pow for weddings, the more it will put downward pressure on the wedding banquets, which frankly, I think has spiraled out of control.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

It's odd that people don't think twice about giving below $100 for attending wedding dinner. All this noble talk about wedding dinner should not be about making profit is true. But if you are close to the couple, and decided to go, don't embarrass yourself with $50 ang pow.

Ang pows can be a reflection of the person you are. Don't act high and mighty by thinking your mere presence is already sufficient. Disgusting. Must be a Sinkie trait.

 

[Jah_rastafar_I]

Not a no-show. An apology for not being able to attend. The friend actually told him no need ang pow come more important. But the peon didn't trust the hotel food as being really halal so he declined but gave the ang pow anyway. The friend had to find a way to return the money in an ang pow during CNY.

ok it sounds like a good malay but still i have to ask this question. You called him a peon which means he's obviously someone lower down the food chain so does this mean his job is dependent on making the boss happy? I mean he could have given money so as not to offend the boss.