Obviously expectations have been set to unrealistic levels. Just look at the growing numbers of single women.
Spore guys are already hampered by NS & reservist commitments. Now they are expected to meet these high expectations. Its unsurprising they are looking elsewhere for companionship.
I notice that you didn't mention the importance of traits like caring partners, loyalty, etc.... If the guys have to provide the 5Cs what are the girl bringing into the partnership
thats a double standard. just because males in singpore have to deal with NS and reservist doesnt give them an exemption from being at the same level that women are. i dont know if you're talking in general, but imo, if all a guy cares about is the 5Cs i deem HIM superfical. same goes for women. i'm not saying that emotional bonds such as care/loyalty/love is something that is totally out of the equation. i'm merely saying that whilst women have been placed aganist such high expectations, men too have to be measured aganist the same yard stick.
If you want to get emotional attachments into the equation, the simple thing is that everyone - not just men or women have to learn the value of human relationships. everyone is so fixated on material things that when relationships breakdown we simply seek to blame the other party for it. The truth of the matter is that everyone has to take into account their own behviours and attitudes. i cannot speak for everyone because everyone is different - so really. this thread is really very redundant. we're discussing something that is so subjective that there will never be any resolution to.
But beside that point, there is more than one reason for high levels of single women, you cant just say "the reason why there're so many single women is because women have unrealistic expectations on men". Other factors play into it as well. factors such as upbringing, individual attitudes to family and work, personal preferences based on attraction, location in which the statistics have been taken from etc etc and then there is the 'man drought' - there is a gender imbalance all around the world. there isnt enough GOOD men. when i say 'good' i dont simply refer to his ability in terms of wealth to provide for his wife and family. i also refer to his attitude towards family, his piorities in life and how he treats others in general. Is he kind and compassionate? is he a chauvinistic pig? does he treat women as though they are lesser people?
I am in no way defending selfish closed minded women - because well i dont think those women deserve good men. i am however defending women who DO excell in their careers, and who expect respect and equality within a relationship.
Who does not take their partners for granted. Women bring into the relationship the same things the men have to bring into the relationship. both parties have to have similar values and ideals, who want to work for the same things. It does not matter if it is the woman who brings in the money and the man stays home to be a 'stay at home dad' or if its the other way around. Either role will work out perfectly fine if both people have developed their relationship on trust, love and respect. Its no longer about if women are selfish bitches, but rather the fact that both men and women have to treat each other fairly.
In short:
Singporean women have to stop being so fixated on material goods and start noticing personality traits. Its all fine and good if a University graduate refuses to date someone who hasnt even finished highschool - because the fact of the matter is, the person who hasnt even finished highschool will have standards much lower than the person who is a university graduate. it does not matter if the university graduate is a man or the university graduate is a woman, standards between a university graduate and a person who didnt even finish highschool will be VASTLY different.
While saying that,
Singporean men have to stop blaming their inability to 'pick up' singporean women on the 'expectations' that women have placed on them. stop being a whinger, get your butt to university, expand your way of thinking, stop treating women as lesser people (which if you do, you will see well educated women as a threat), and get some balls.
Side note: "
A marriage agency owner told a radio interviewer how some of the girls had, on the first date, plied the men with questions like: What is your degree and earnings? Do you own a condo? “And they’re surprised when they didn’t get a second date,” she said.
Any woman who asks about a man's income on the first date doesnt deserve to have a good man.