[–]_MirrorMask_ 150 points 7 hours ago
I am Catholic and got married to my husband who is Muslim via ROM (i.e civil marriage). The complication depends on how religious the Muslim’s family are. Other than that is the legal complications such as inheritance and such. Other things like raising children will depend on the couple. At this day and age, there isn’t much problems about being shunned by the public and such.
My advise though is that the couple must really sit down and have a serious talk regarding on how much they are willing to compromise. You can DM me if you have more questions. Always willing to listen to others who struggle with Inter-faith relationships.
[–]_MirrorMask_ 78 points 4 hours ago
There’s no issues on my side as my family is quite open-minded.
My husband’s side was the issue. They kept forcing me to convert hence why we tried out the conversion course at Arqam. Things went downhill fast when we told them we have decided to go through civil marriage even after taking the course. His mom even threatened my life (I wasn’t there but my husband told me and luckily also recorded the conversations). We then used the recordings as evidence then sent a Cease and Desist letter to his mom through a lawyer. Ended up settling the matter by his family agreeing not to contact me anymore. He still goes to visit them and sleep over at his parents once a week. Still very rocky on their end and toxic whenever he comes over. It puts a lot of stress on him but he said we made the right decision because at the end of the day, his parents shouldn’t get to dictate how we live our lives.
[–]basilyeoShocker cyborg 68 points 7 hours ago
Hi, 33m here and my mom is Muslim and my dad is Taoist. They got married in 1987 via civil marriage. What I’ve learnt is that there is no compulsion, but teachings and family practices may differ. Ultimately it depends on whether the Muslim side of the family is able to accept a member of their family marrying outside the religion. My late maternal grandfather (bless his soul) did not forbid it.
I’m Taoist by birth certificate (probably just hospital staff “following father”) but I don’t practise the rites or follow much of it, only participate in ancestral prayers during CNY. I’ve been curious about Christianity (I went to a Christian boys’ school) and Islam, in my late teens and early 20s, but I eventually decided any form of religion is not for me. Never ever been pressured by either of my parents to follow their specific religions either.
For additional context, my mom doesn’t really practice either, the most Muslim thing I’ve ever seen her do is puasa during Ramadan.
[–]wwabbbitt 63 points 7 hours ago
Religion on birth certificate is the stupidest thing ever. Why should people be compelled to a particular religion at birth instead of making their own choices after having grown up and be in a position to make a decision on what religion they want to follow?
[–]basilyeoShocker cyborg 6 points 5 hours ago
Totally right on the money
[–]CloudDevelic 1 point 4 hours ago
This should be enforced as a strict law, under freedom of religious beliefs. I see this as the true rights to freedom of speech and beliefs honestly, and should be guarded and protected as so.
MiloPengAlsoCan 11 points 7 hours ago
If you’re asking for secular rules, then what many have said here should suffice.
If you’re asking about Islamic law on marriages: - a Muslim man can marry a Muslim, Christian, or Jew (what’s also termed People of the Book) woman, the woman does not need to convert to Islam - a Muslim woman can only marry a Muslim man
While registering your marriage is a secular solution, from an Islamic perspective, the marriage is not valid if you do not convert, based on the above. She would be living in (major) sin from the time of marriage. Any child born during this marriage, again from an Islamic perspective, is considered a child out of wedlock. When you pass, she can’t inherit from you (from an Islamic perspective, and this is not just applicable to such a union). There’s probably only rules as well but these are the top of mind.
To go into this deeper would require a much longer post which takes us off topic, since you’re only looking for the rules.
