Redditer : We (23M and 23F) may have mismatched sexual drives.. what do we do?

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We (23M and 23F) may have mismatched sexual drives.. what do we do?​

I need advice!

So with some context, me (23M) and my partner (23F) have been together for 3+ years, and we have yet to do any penetration. Additionally, I feel we have largely mismatch sexual drives where I would have a higher drive and she has a lower drive, on a scale of 1-10 I am a 8 and she is a 3.

When we first started dating (1st year), we would sometimes be more adventurous and do things more frequently (heavy petting, oral etc). But as time goes on, it has been really stale to the point where it’s been almost 3 weeks since any action and whenever i try to make any advances she would just say she isn’t feeling it and that our drive is different.

For some further context, we have been on a rough patch the past year or so with constant fighting, so i’m sure that plays a part in it too. Additionally, we are both Singaporeans, so we don’t have our own space currently else we go to a hotel. Is there any way to improve this as I feel quite trapped inside on this as I have brought this up many times to her on my needs and wants but it always leads to something south. I used to be someone who jerks off to porn but she is not supportive of that and i understand so.. but i have my needs

Advise would be grately appreciated

EDIT: To clarify on the penetrative, we have been attempting to as well, but is also tough as i would say i have a bit of a bigger tool than average in SEA, and she is a petite size (5ft), and we is both our first time attempting anything aka both virgins.