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The dating landscape in Singapore for men
Hear me outI find that the reason why it's so hard for some men to get a girlfriend in Singapore is because of a few phenomenons that I observed:
In schooling days such as JC and Uni, when you try to approach classmates, they act like it's very "dirty" that you are asking them out and act very "conservative" or say that their parents don't allow them to date, they want to focus on studies first. There are some rare few good quality girls that are not like this, but they are quickly snagged up.
After graduating from uni, In workplace, if you try to approach colleagues, either they are already attached/married because they met someone in schooling days, or they have extremely high expectations (expect height, handsome, rich, good career and title), or they spread around that you approached them and you risk your reputation getting affected in the workplace.
If you try to join hobbies/interest groups, it's also hard because it's either sausage fest, or same problem, girls have high expectations, are already attached/married, are much older than you, or have undesirable red flags.
As a Singaporean male that served NS, I serve 2 years and sacrifice and in the end, I feel like I need to go other countries like Vietnam or Thailand to find love and happiness. I feel trapped here, like I'm forced to only work and work and work and don't deserve any love at all, always not good enough. Even working in a stable job for many years already, all I get is discriminated by being "boring", "stable", "middle income only".
These few are the reasons why I feel a lot of SG men are still perpetually single.
