Redditer: My friend (M) is attractive and rejects 90% of his dating matches. What do you think of his checklist?

[Tree]

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My friend (M) is attractive and rejects 90% of his dating matches. What do you think of his checklist?​

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My friend (lets call him B ) rejects like 90% of the girls he receives likes from and its honestly quite insane. He has somewhere around 300+ likes on Bumble and gets ~5 likes from Hinge every day.

He is mid 30s, above average height, above average income and good looking.

These are the girls he rejects:

1. Girls looking for money / financial slave
   
   • So basically there are a lot of girls (on Hinge especially) that imply they are looking for someone with high earning power
   • They have things like "The way to win me over is to buy me a coffee on the first date" or "Looking for someone that buys me a gift every other day" or "looking for someone to support me financially"
   • What he said: "Instant reject, I want someone to date me for me and not for my money. These materialistic people are usually looking for like a financial slave and they expect the guy to pay for everything"
2. Too many travel pics
   
   • I think its controversial but he swears by it
   • What he said: "If 5 of the 6 profile pictures are basically travel pics, it implies the girl probably has no personality"
3. Solo travelling
   
   • What he said: "if you're independent enough to solo travel often then I don't think you will make a good partner. Why are you even looking for a relationship?"
4. University level
   
   • What he said: "Not an instant reject but I prefer someone who values education. Doesn't matter what uni tbh, got uni can liao"
5. People that use abbreviations for their names:
   
   • If they use something like "S", "A", "B" for their name, etc
   • What he said: "They're the biggest time wasters on the app. They expect to text for long periods of time before committing to a date."
6. People who mention height expectations or height preferences
   
   • What he said: "gross af, people can't change their height"
7. People who take too long to reply
   
   • He told me 24 hour maximum for a response
   • What he said: "you can spend your day doing whatever but at least respond within 24 hours. If you don't, you're probably not looking for a partner seriously so it's a pass from me."
8. Too old
   
   • What he said: "Not a hard reject if she's a bit older BUT if she is older and has some of the other red flags I mentioned then its an instant reject."
9. People who say they are ambitious (usually doctors and lawyers from his experience)
   
   • What he said: "these people damn intense. Also, why the fuck do you want me to date you if you're going to put your career above me?"

Closing thoughts

What he said: "IDK man, I think dating is hard especially in SG. Some of these girls that try to match me genuinely lack self awareness and put ridiculous things in their profile. Oh well, I would rather be single then have a bad partner"

IMO, some of his criteria are quite controversial but what do you guys think? I think the dating market is fucked LMAO

 

[eatshitndie]

how cum no virginity criterion?

 

[Tree]

how cum no virginity criterion?

Because virginity is no longer needed. In fact, it's a liability

 

[eatshitndie]

Because virginity is no longer needed. In fact, it's a liability

will need ai to find lobang and hymen?

 

[no_faith]

Ur friend is attractive right? You like his attractiveness right?
Ok just let him fuck
Doesn't matter the Redditor is male or female

 

[Dongyi]

how cum no virginity criterion?

If a man is dating primarily for sex rather than with marriage in mind, then virginity is hardly an asset from his perspective. He is seeking sexual access, not a lifelong commitment. You're conflating fornication with marriage, when they operate according to very different incentives.

The reality is that many fornicators do not apply the same standards to casual relationships as they do to marriage. A man may willingly engage in casual sex, yet still prefer a wife with little or no sexual history. You may view that as hypocritical, but it remains a common distinction. The standards people use when choosing a sexual partner are often not the same as those they use when choosing a spouse.​

 

[Balls2U]

Show us a photo of his fuck face first.

 

[tobelightlight]

What about vaccination status? This one I reject 95% of them.

 

[syed putra]

how cum no virginity criterion?

Uni level very difficult. Need to go school level if it's imposed.