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Is it okay to rely on your partner to provide for you?
Is it okay to rely on your partner to provide for you if they are in a better position financially than you are and/or hold a steady job with decent income?
I have a cousin whose partner has not held a proper job for years, and relies on my cousin to take care of majority, if not all, of their expenses. I think that’s acceptable if you at least contribute in other ways, like taking care of the house or being of some value add to your partner’s life. But his partner does not take care of the house. Instead, she creates mess around the house and he has to be the one to tidy up. She does not plan to get a proper job and insists that she runs a sustainable online business selling stones.
I have a friend whose brother (in his early 20s) did not even complete tertiary education. He has been unemployed for a long time and has not held a proper job ever, especially given his lack of education. He has a partner who is still a student, and he relies on his partner to pay for every single thing. His partner receives a generous allowance from the parents every month, and this amount of money is being used to pay for their food / travels / entertainment / alcohol / cigarettes. He does not contribute in any way at home, doesn’t lift his finger to do a single chore. All he does is eat, sleep, drink, smoke. His parents do not care and have never once told him off for pretty much being a useless bum. They’re not even ashamed that he’s leeching off his younger partner.
I was told that it is something to be envious of, to be able to stay home and not work if you have a partner who can provide for you and is willing to.
I understand that there are people who are willing to completely provide for their partner. But shouldn’t the partner be at least of some value add? As an adult, wouldn’t you feel a sense of responsibility?
Was wondering if this is normal? Would you be okay if your partner relies on you to take care of everything but does nothing to value add to your life? Would you be able to accept if your child was with someone like that?
