Redditer: How to initiate intimacy? I need advice!

[metanoia]

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How to initiate intimacy?​

I need advice!

need some advice bc my brain going in circles already lol

situationship in ns, damn tired all the time which i get la. but when it comes to intimacy, it’s always me initiating and he’ll be like “later can” or “another day” or “today very shag”. he’s not in a very demanding unit either, or at least i think

lowkenuinely making me overthink so much

is he legit just tired from ns

or his sex drive damn low

or he losing interest

or worst case cheating

or he asexual and idk about it??

everything else is ok, we still talk, still cuddle, still normal couple stuff. just this part feels very one-sided and it’s lowkey affecting my self-esteem.

idk how to initiate without feeling like i’m forcing him, and idk whether i should just tahan and be understanding or actually talk to him properly. also scared if i bring it up he’ll think i’m unreasonable bc ns already so tiring.

 

[metanoia]

Academic-Bat1963
•5h ago

As a guy here, can be, depending on what you do in NS.

And 'not very demanding' can be different, can be physically not demanding but brain drain, even from doing nothing.

Or the 'sian'-ness of NS carrying over and makes him feel tired. (This one more of mental/mindset.)

And especially if it's smth new, like just got into unit or switching over to smth else that he hasn't gotten used to yet.

Also a commenter replied no guy is tired intimacy...

It depends on what your 'intimacy' is, if it sex, then yes guys can be too tired, if it's like cuddling/spooning and sleeping after a long day, (unless you got body odor or mismatching body temp), I don't see why any guy wouldn't want that. Unless the only way they sleep is freeform nothing touching em.

 

[nabeifuckpap]

Dumb sinkie bitches don't know how to cook good food unlike their mothers and jiuhubus and wonder why their man got problem getting erections

 

[A Singaporean]

Please provide contact number.

 

[VanDick]

Its clear that her FB prefers to fuck with guys.

 

[tobelightlight]

Another Reddit post by glockman? Glockman very active nowadays.

 

[eatshitndie]

some sinkies don’t know how to initiate. some don’t know the anatomy enough for coitus to happen. some get cringey when touched. some lock up genitals when partners gabra and fumble. some even enter wrong lobang. sg needs a skills future course to help young couples in intercourse. many unkers (and lau horny virgins) will sign up.