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My time back in the land I was born

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Currently on vacation in Singapore and catching with people after so many years of absence.

It will be a long visit, some to say long overdue farewells, some to say goodbye to lost friends and family, some to welcome the new additions and some to welcome them to a new stage in their lives.

How things have changed. Singapore is indeed packed to the rafters. I could not walk from Taka to Ion without bumping into at least a dozen people. Ion itself is impressive, though a bit confusing while inside. So many years in Singapore that I lived and not once did I step into a designer boutique, but on that day, there I was, picking up a nice watch, purse, wallet and some ties. All the more joy in shopping in these places wearing my work issue safety boots, bermudas and a simple polo tee, relishing every moment of the spending power a strong aussie dollar gave me.

Singaporeans indeed have prospered, the young I see seem to have so much more disposable income, more youngsters I see driving nice (parents) cars, and even a lot more 5 series BMW and Mercs (>200E) that I see on the road compared to my relatively cheap 335 rental that I arranged with a private owner; It must be the cheap credit available nowadays, but perhaps a lot more risk-taking bankers and lawyers than the financially clueless Engineers from bygone days like me.

But as seductively glamourous as the facade was, so easy it was to expose the bleakness just under the surface.

After a satisfying dinner at Redhill, I had my fill and was sitting back soaking up the heat with a cold glass of sugarcane. An elderly man, frail and feet shuffling slowly came walking up our row of tables, begging for some money. As he reached our table, my hand went for my pocket to grab a few coins to give him to let him be on his way without bothering us. My friends stopped me and said, "forget it lah, this kind of people surely got mental problem, drunk or gamble all his money away before".

So I held back, and when he reached my table, I waved him off, and not once made eye contact. Against my conscience, I rationalised that perhaps I should not spoon feed these "type" of people.

10 minutes later as I was walking back to the car, I heard a commotion a few rows away. As it was along the way, I wondered what in the world was happening, so I made a slight diversion. In front, I saw the same old man facing a hawker, hands clasped and occasionally bringing his fingers to his mouth, as if begging for mercy and a morsel of food. The hawker (a local, from the accent and vulgarities used) was berating him for not having money to pay for his food. The old man looked into his purse, and all I saw was a few coins, not amounting to a dollar. The hawker was impatient, demanding and abusive. All the while the old man was literally begging for sustenance, to fill his stomach for just one more meal...

My heart broke into bits. I saw other patrons either sitting down ignoring the commotion with their heads stuck in their food, or nonchalantly sitting and watching as spectators. My friends were pulling me away, telling me to ignore it, no point staring...but this time my feet were rooted on the ground. I was not angry with the stallholder hurling abuse at the old man and I was not disgusted at the sight of the old man begging. I was...how should I say...guilt striken and crying inside that this is the Singapore I thought I would never see.

Just then, the stall holder opposite from the one I was at, came out with a packet filled with some rice, meat and veggies. He handed it to the old man and muttered some words that I just managed to pick up the accent (From China) and words to the effect, "Don't need to pay, this I give you free."

What happened seemed to be as if time slowed down. My hand reached in and pulled out my wallet. I paid the abusive stallholder a note and grabbed the packet the old man could not pay for and handed it to him. I walked to the good samaritan stallholder and gave him another and asked him to take it; he deserved to know that he was not alone in his actions. I looked at the old man and grabbed whatever remaining notes (quite a substantial sum) in my wallet and thrust them into his open purse.The old man grabbed my hand, clasped them with his, bowed his head towards it, and repeatedly said, "God bless you, God bless you, thank you."

I thanked him but could find no more words to say. The onlookers began to sink back to their food and my friends by now were patting me on my back saying, "well done, well done".

But all this could not take the weight off my mind that this was a forgotten Singaporean, and it was Singapore that has discarded such old folk and could not afford them a spoonful of dignity in their old age. Surely the interest alone derived from the taxes garnered from the thousands of Porsche, Lambo, Ferrari, BMW, Merc owners and young kids driving flash cars could feed the less fortunate for the remainder of their lives. Elderly folk like him should not have had to resort to begging for food, they should be taken care of, given the best that Singapore has to offer. How could so many people just stand and gawk at the scene, to be so close to desperation but yet so distant??

I wish someone here could tell me what I could do to help. Money alone cannot be the only means, the emotional void to support our elderly destitute, to empathise, sympathise and perhaps empower should be filled, or else, how can we look at a mirror and say that we have lived a good life...

Perhaps this is why I wrote what I did today, in this forum, in this section.

Thanks for listening.
 
Really moving Bro. Thanks for sharing.

Until 1990, there was active mobile team with the Ministry of Community Development that will act on tips from members of public and the Police and pick up the disabled, the homeless etc and send them Woodlands Home. I visited the Home and it was very well run. They all had decent beds, foods and amenities. One of the resident is a well read and educated Eurasian gentleman who lost his retirement savings to a business scheme. Out of pride he did not want to impose on his relatives. Instead he chose to contribute despite being a resident and not required to do anything. He handled on a voluntary basis the after-hours paperwork, admin and other things. All he asked for is a packet of cigarettes

The Ministry was also very active in handling cases referred by MPs etc. Interestingly up to then no MP had to plead on behalf of the poor. Even Lily Neo if she had been there would not have raised an issue.

Sadly it was not to be. No place to build homes for the needy but got place to build golf courses.
 
was in sg a couple of weeks ago but had to vacate before christmas eve as i had to head home for the holidays. while there watched a recent cna documentary about old folks buying hdb flats together. these poor folks have no kids and few friends and relatives. whatever close acquaintances they have had passed away. to cut cost on housing they share old tiny flats....as strangers. some of these couples of convenience can't get along and never communicate at all. a few hundred bucks of cash to any is a great amount, and there was one old man who claimed he lost them in his apartment....with the camera moving to the other old man. even in a dying hellhole, there is subterfuge, shenaniganery, sabotage and may be a slugfest. sinkies are selfish solitary socialess showboaters, but in times of poverty and pridelessness, they can still conveniently bond together for the slightest gain. the two old men sharing a flat came to terms with one other and accepted each other's presence. would like to hear their story one year from now.
 
Thank you for providing your perspective as someone visiting Singapore after a long period of absence. What you related about your experience was spot on.

I deplored at what we all had become, not surprisingly, as our attitude towards life has changed somewhat. Singaporeans nowadays are more stressed, the sudden influx of foreigners has made the streets more crowded. We are experiencing growing pains and the sudden changes to our environment does not make it easy to adapt.

We are told that no one should be left behind, there are no beggars or anyone without a roof over their heads in Singapore. I believe that was the case before you left for good, but 20 years ago we were much better of individually. I see a few beggars and I am sure not all are locals and they too will throw your 50 cents away as they want a minimum of $1. Some handicapped individuals play instruments and sing and these people may actually be wealthier than most who parted away some of their hard-earned money to give to them. We have become inured to the sight of beggars in Singapore brought by the likes of NKF and our government's take on welfare.

Privately we do give to houses of worship, to charity organisations and many of us are volunteers and donors to NGOs. What you experienced does not tell the entire story as Singaporeans are less wont to make a display of emotions in public.
 
>I could not walk from Taka to Ion without bumping into at least a dozen people. Ion itself is impressive, though a bit confusing while inside. So many years>

A dozen only? on weekends there are hordes of them in Little India, wall to wall, same goes with Lucky Plaza & the back Nutmeg Road, now a new 'ponding' of people, Peninsular Plaza, Aung San Suu Kyi brethen...then go to, any office blocks, Raffles Place, Suntec etc.., wall to wall you know what...very sorry, you missed the SINgaporeans that are sweeping the floors, cleaning tables & washing the latrines, or being slaves to the FT that are living here...welcom to Planet of the Apes, SINgapore version...you should love the progress..we welcome you back to Our Shores... ha ha ha ha
 
Currently on vacation in Singapore and catching with people after so many years of absence.

It will be a long visit, some to say long overdue farewells, some to say goodbye to lost friends and family, some to welcome the new additions and some to welcome them to a new stage in their lives.

How things have changed. Singapore is indeed packed to the rafters. I could not walk from Taka to Ion without bumping into at least a dozen people. Ion itself is impressive, though a bit confusing while inside. So many years in Singapore that I lived and not once did I step into a designer boutique, but on that day, there I was, picking up a nice watch, purse, wallet and some ties. All the more joy in shopping in these places wearing my work issue safety boots, bermudas and a simple polo tee, relishing every moment of the spending power a strong aussie dollar gave me.

Singaporeans indeed have prospered, the young I see seem to have so much more disposable income, more youngsters I see driving nice (parents) cars, and even a lot more 5 series BMW and Mercs (>200E) that I see on the road compared to my relatively cheap 335 rental that I arranged with a private owner; It must be the cheap credit available nowadays, but perhaps a lot more risk-taking bankers and lawyers than the financially clueless Engineers from bygone days like me.

But as seductively glamourous as the facade was, so easy it was to expose the bleakness just under the surface.

After a satisfying dinner at Redhill, I had my fill and was sitting back soaking up the heat with a cold glass of sugarcane. An elderly man, frail and feet shuffling slowly came walking up our row of tables, begging for some money. As he reached our table, my hand went for my pocket to grab a few coins to give him to let him be on his way without bothering us. My friends stopped me and said, "forget it lah, this kind of people surely got mental problem, drunk or gamble all his money away before".

So I held back, and when he reached my table, I waved him off, and not once made eye contact. Against my conscience, I rationalised that perhaps I should not spoon feed these "type" of people.

10 minutes later as I was walking back to the car, I heard a commotion a few rows away. As it was along the way, I wondered what in the world was happening, so I made a slight diversion. In front, I saw the same old man facing a hawker, hands clasped and occasionally bringing his fingers to his mouth, as if begging for mercy and a morsel of food. The hawker (a local, from the accent and vulgarities used) was berating him for not having money to pay for his food. The old man looked into his purse, and all I saw was a few coins, not amounting to a dollar. The hawker was impatient, demanding and abusive. All the while the old man was literally begging for sustenance, to fill his stomach for just one more meal...

My heart broke into bits. I saw other patrons either sitting down ignoring the commotion with their heads stuck in their food, or nonchalantly sitting and watching as spectators. My friends were pulling me away, telling me to ignore it, no point staring...but this time my feet were rooted on the ground. I was not angry with the stallholder hurling abuse at the old man and I was not disgusted at the sight of the old man begging. I was...how should I say...guilt striken and crying inside that this is the Singapore I thought I would never see.

Just then, the stall holder opposite from the one I was at, came out with a packet filled with some rice, meat and veggies. He handed it to the old man and muttered some words that I just managed to pick up the accent (From China) and words to the effect, "Don't need to pay, this I give you free."

What happened seemed to be as if time slowed down. My hand reached in and pulled out my wallet. I paid the abusive stallholder a note and grabbed the packet the old man could not pay for and handed it to him. I walked to the good samaritan stallholder and gave him another and asked him to take it; he deserved to know that he was not alone in his actions. I looked at the old man and grabbed whatever remaining notes (quite a substantial sum) in my wallet and thrust them into his open purse.The old man grabbed my hand, clasped them with his, bowed his head towards it, and repeatedly said, "God bless you, God bless you, thank you."

I thanked him but could find no more words to say. The onlookers began to sink back to their food and my friends by now were patting me on my back saying, "well done, well done".

But all this could not take the weight off my mind that this was a forgotten Singaporean, and it was Singapore that has discarded such old folk and could not afford them a spoonful of dignity in their old age. Surely the interest alone derived from the taxes garnered from the thousands of Porsche, Lambo, Ferrari, BMW, Merc owners and young kids driving flash cars could feed the less fortunate for the remainder of their lives. Elderly folk like him should not have had to resort to begging for food, they should be taken care of, given the best that Singapore has to offer. How could so many people just stand and gawk at the scene, to be so close to desperation but yet so distant??

I wish someone here could tell me what I could do to help. Money alone cannot be the only means, the emotional void to support our elderly destitute, to empathise, sympathise and perhaps empower should be filled, or else, how can we look at a mirror and say that we have lived a good life...

Perhaps this is why I wrote what I did today, in this forum, in this section.

Thanks for listening.

I only regret that i need to share points around with others before i can up your points again. Well written, too many of Singaporeans lost their ability to feel for others. Just too ready to be crabs in a bucket these days. Kudos to you and may the powers that be shine your path in life.
 
I was at a food centre in Singapore many years ago. I went around asking for serviettes instead of tissue. Must have gotten the aussie lingo even back then. An old lady came about and smiled and introduced herself to be a pensioner from aussieland and "retiring" in Singapore. Can't really remember the reason why she was there. She mentioned that even in the nursing homes in Singapore she can tell how different it was compared to Australia, how even the old folks here have a very pathetic, small mindedness to them. However, what she mentioned next was kind of revealing as well. She mentioned in Australia pensioners are treated like Gold, while in Singapore they are treated like copper. I never quite understood what she meant then. Having read what TS said, I suppose it is inevitable that this has happened in Singapore. If you are in Australia, and you take a weekday off, go to the city and you'll see crowds of pensioners around shopping. Its cheaper for pensioner to travel during off peak period. The pensioners, not all of them lives in nursing homes and usually hang out in groups. They also smile a lot and are a joy to talk to. At night, they'll congregate at RSL club playing a bit of pokkies, drinking and enjoying their evening. How many pensioners do you see doing the same thing in Singapore? Its the environment, the culture that causes this from happening in Singapore.
 
When I return to Sg on vacation, I go visit wet markets.

Everywhere in the world, there are some who make it big (whether happy or not, I don't know) and there are others who get left out (society can be cruel). What is more important for the masses is the bell-curve for wealth distibution, and how the better-off helps the down-and-out.

Cheers!
 
Thanks to everyone who posted their thoughts here and also all the gracious remarks via PM.

It's been a while since I've typed something sensible in the forum, I know, and from what I see in my walk around SG, most people are too busy or stressed to be able to "entertain" such thoughts in their mind.

I see a lot of focus on the youth in SG and perhaps these are the low hanging fruits that the politicians know are most susceptible and gullible.

Ironic how the old man's cohort would have the very same idealistic youth cheering wildly for LKY as PAP ascended to power, but look where some of them are now.

I found some sites in sg that do have volunteer opportunities starting from:

http://www.nvpc.org.sg/pgm/others/nvpc_f_default_public.aspx
http://www.sgcares.org/public/other/SGCares_P_Home.aspx

I might just do something about it...
 
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good read. Being kind to strangers in need is a trait i admire in people. And kudos to the china guy too for helping the old dude despite being detested by many locals.

I will be returning soon for cny holiday next month, will be curious to see how are things now.
 
You the same QXD in this forum years ago? Remember me reminding you to take your medicine regularly?
 
You must be referring to the debunked misanthrope "QXP" aka Bin Hee Heng aka NLB door chainer.

No I am not him.
 
You must be referring to the debunked misanthrope "QXP" aka Bin Hee Heng aka NLB door chainer.

No I am not him.

oops a thousand apologies. Must be getting old - though I realise it AFTER I posted. Welcome home.
 
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