Redditer: Living with my abusive bf and struggling to leave

[Nut]

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living with my abusive bf and struggling to leave​

Friendships and Relationships

I really need some advice.

I’ve been living with my boyfriend in Korea for quite a while now. He has serious anger issues, and whenever we argue he becomes physically and emotionally abusive. He has pushed me around, pulled my hair, kicked me, and tried to start fights with me. When we’re not arguing, he can actually be very kind, and for a long time I kept telling myself I could overlook what happened because of how he was the rest of the time. But I can’t do it anymore.

Last night he got angry over something really small and tried to grab my face. He ended up scratching me down the middle of my face, and I now have a long scratch across it. This isn’t an isolated incident. About two weeks ago he kicked me in the stomach, and there have been many other incidents before that.

A few months ago I realised I needed to leave the relationship. The problem is that I have my cat with me in Korea, and I refuse to leave my cat behind. After researching everything, I found out I have to wait until August for all of my cat’s export documents to be completed before I can take him home with me.

I don’t have enough money to pay for accommodation by myself until then while also paying for my flight home and my cat’s travel costs. Because of that, I made the difficult decision to stay here until August and just try my best to avoid arguments so I could leave safely once my cat’s paperwork is finished.

The problem is that no matter how hard I try to keep the peace, he gets angry over the smallest things. He often blames me for things that aren’t my fault or turns something tiny into a huge argument. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells, and after what happened last night, I don’t know if I can stay here until August.

Has anyone been in a similar situation or know of any resources for foreign women in Korea? Are there any affordable short-term accommodation options, shelters, or organisations that could help? Even if someone has advice about temporary accommodation or what they would do in my situation, I would really appreciate it.

 

[Nut]

This is what happens to a woman when she follows excessive Kpop and Kdrama.

 

[A Singaporean]

I can help. Phone number please.

 

[syed putra]

Maybe the guy wants you to leave. If you tell him you will leave by August, he will not be so angry and maximise love making before it ends

 

[syed putra]

I can help. Phone number please.

Help which pussy? Or both

 

[WangChuk]

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living with my abusive bf and struggling to leave​

Friendships and Relationships

I really need some advice.

I’ve been living with my boyfriend in Korea for quite a while now. He has serious anger issues, and whenever we argue he becomes physically and emotionally abusive. He has pushed me around, pulled my hair, kicked me, and tried to start fights with me. When we’re not arguing, he can actually be very kind, and for a long time I kept telling myself I could overlook what happened because of how he was the rest of the time. But I can’t do it anymore.

Last night he got angry over something really small and tried to grab my face. He ended up scratching me down the middle of my face, and I now have a long scratch across it. This isn’t an isolated incident. About two weeks ago he kicked me in the stomach, and there have been many other incidents before that.

A few months ago I realised I needed to leave the relationship. The problem is that I have my cat with me in Korea, and I refuse to leave my cat behind. After researching everything, I found out I have to wait until August for all of my cat’s export documents to be completed before I can take him home with me.

I don’t have enough money to pay for accommodation by myself until then while also paying for my flight home and my cat’s travel costs. Because of that, I made the difficult decision to stay here until August and just try my best to avoid arguments so I could leave safely once my cat’s paperwork is finished.

The problem is that no matter how hard I try to keep the peace, he gets angry over the smallest things. He often blames me for things that aren’t my fault or turns something tiny into a huge argument. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells, and after what happened last night, I don’t know if I can stay here until August.

Has anyone been in a similar situation or know of any resources for foreign women in Korea? Are there any affordable short-term accommodation options, shelters, or organisations that could help? Even if someone has advice about temporary accommodation or what they would do in my situation, I would really appreciate it.

she sound like asking how to be chicken in korea to earn quick big $$$ .... come back sinkieland cannot earn as much ....

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Hold on... Korean bfs not like this one meh?

 

[superpower]

Korea is a male chauvinist society, even more so than Japan. Women are second-class, face a glass ceiling at work (unless you're the daughter of a chaebol chairman), are generally not allowed to work after marriage, not allowed to travel on their own, and are routinely abused and beaten up by their husbands after a few rounds of soju. Korean trainers of sports teams routinely slap their athletes for poor performance and insubordination. When my sis travelled to Korea on business, her Korean clients were shocked she was allowed to travel - one guy said that he'd divorce his wife if she went overseas alone.

Millions of women have been hoodwinked the fantasy male protagonists in K-dramas. Time for a reality check.