Redditer: I am sorry for failing to fit in the traditional Singaporean dream/route of success

[Flibbertigibbet]

​

I am sorry for failing to fit in the traditional Singaporean dream/route of success​

Gossip

I am sincerely sorry for failing to complete my education, get into a local university and get a high-end job. I know I am incapable and incompetent, I am not going to blame my circumstances and trauma. If others Singaporeans can do it, despite all odds.

I know I am a failure, by Singaporean standards. CNY was tough for me, being mocked at and think of as lowly because of me failing to secure a job and other societal materialistic expectations. Words can kill, destroy someone like how it obliterate my soul.

I get it that I am an inferior human being compared to Singaporeans who have a job.

I get it that I am inferior human being compared to Singaporeans who have a will to live.

I get it that I am inferior human being who could not checklist a few common expectations, compared to Singaporeans who can.

In such a traditional conservative superficial mindset, where since young that Singaporean dream of success is etched into me and my peers minds. No room for errors and mistakes, i am treated more like a robot than a human who is naturally flawed. It is all about “face” and superficial checklists, such as job, salary and education. Once you fallen in the cracks of society or go out the norm, you are a failure and the will be a stain on you.

As a Singaporean I wish our country can be more forgiving and less superficial. Not everyone is born on the same playing field, thus I wish Singaporean can be more understanding and empathetic, and not kick someone when they are down. Stop labelling me as a “failure”, “good-for-nothing” and “useless person”. I am human who can bounce back from adversity and your unkind words is never going to help me but just add onto my crumbling mental health. I wish there were more emphasis on “做人（be human).” Emphasis on values and morals to be a decent human being.

Also I wish there were less stigma and taboo on mental health. I am not a monster in society who is already suffering. I don’t deserve to be discriminated and disrespected of my human rights when finding a job.

 

[Dongyi]

I suspect he tio bullied by a very successful ex-ACS boy.

 

[myfoot123]

I suspect he tio bullied by a very successful ex-ACS boy.

Singapore dreams are very very expensive. He is fortunate to realise it earlier than many sinkies.

 

[Dongyi]

Singapore dreams are very very expensive. He is fortunate to realise it earlier than many sinkies.

Lose to 人生胜利组 must admit lah. At least he is honest.

 

[laksaboy]

Google Maps reviews of the Sinkie 1771 'Mindline'.

I was deeply unsettled by the situation. I reached out to discuss my emotional concerns, I was not even suicidal, yet the organization responded by involving police law enforcement at my home during the night. The police brought me to IMH and I was warded and unable to go home. I found this reaction inappropriate and distressing.

The guy who picked up my call this morning 4th Sep, at 10.24am. You did not help at all. I kept asking for advice and received no advice of substance from you. In the initial parts, i was talking and there was no response for a whole spell. I had to tell you to acknowledge so that i know there's someone at the other end of the line. You masqueraded that as if there was a reception issue, when there was none. You wasted my time doing this unecessary troubleshooting when all you needed to do was to display active listening (which was absent). Truly, i did not get anything out of this call which helped me. In fact, it made me even more frustrated that i used nearly 30 minutes of my time to narrate my situation but you offered nothing that i didn't already opine or say, my mental distress is still living in me now.
I'm not impressed by this level of non-help.

texted for help but Tara the counsellor was very unresponsive and not helpful, I’m unsure if the manpower is low but the counsellor seems to be unresponsive possibly due to toggling between multiple chats?

Talked to counsellor Naren and his casual attitude towards my distress made me walk towards oncoming traffic in a bid to prove to him I was in distress. He did not treat my concerns seriously and his tone was as if I was a joke.

I spoken to a counsellor name Seth on the hotline. Midway into the conversation, he suddenly hang up the call. Not recommended. This is not professional.

Shoutout to kunaase, shi shi and Naz for being helpful. The rest of the counsellors I’ve spoken to are so insincere in helping they just ask me to distract myself w activities when I’m in crisis….. what’s the point of calling

 

[nabeifuckpap]

Fuck you and your whole family for voting PAP, reddit and Fuckwarezone are full of such posts from 65% dogs

 

[True Believer]

I suspect he tio bullied by a very successful ex-ACS boy.

TS has been a failure all his life which accounts for his low self-esteem and propensity to adopt different nicknames on this forum.

 

[syed putra]

Hotel 81 owner did not waste time succumb to PAP doctrine. During his time no NS.
At 14 started selling ice cream like me but i started very late.
By 30 own a few shop houses.
Now even educated people use his facilities to relieve stress.

 

[True Believer]

Hotel 81 owner did not waste time succumb to PAP doctrine. During his time no NS. At 14 started selling ice cream like me but i started very late.
By 30 own a few shop houses. Now even educated people use his facilities to relieve stress.

You drink your own "ice cream" cum? That's really disgusting!