My Journal, My Life

[Claire]

Dont be so shallow .... older single BBFAs also can be great loving husbands too .... dont focus on the appearances and look deeper into their qualities .... life can be so much better after marriage, dont waste away your life setting difficult criterias.

She is probably gone by now. She indeed is a legendary figure in SBF.

The insignificant nobody me do agree with her criticisms. Criticisms DO help if taken in the matured & right spirit fashion. As the famous book- Men from Mars & Women from Venus had shed insights to Human behaviors, it is often good to listen to the other side - male or female - as each has different perspectives thru their traditions & upbringing over centuries.

Ultimately, her criticisms is about Personal Grooming, & is correct. Just because one is successful does not mean that what one does freely is RIGHT, more so when it comes to relationships with another.

It is best to share & discuss, & find compromises or necessary changes to appeal to each other for the long journey of precious life, regardless if one is young or old...

Age is only number. It's the care & concern for another that counts....

A good man is wise.

He's smart and he's just.

No matter how many times he falls. he rises back up.

A good man is kind. He's considerate. He's helpful. He's a giver. He isn't gullible.

Those that are left behind in their 50s now probably won’t meet these KPIs.

I guess I have become phlegmatic.

 

[Claire]

Pleasure is all mine

Thanks.

 

[Claire]

not into tinder but almost got scammed on telegram. welcum back!

Still the same or plagued by aging?

 

[Claire]

May 3 2025

Singapore General Elections

He is a powerful virile man.

He's connected to the echelon of elites in political Singapore.

May 3. General Elections night. Awaiting the results.

His wife was in Korea with their adorable children.

He suggested he would be chef for that night.

We were at his Orchard locality penthouse, not his matrimonial home.

I arrived.

All spiffed up in my bootylicious dress, ready for his carnal blitz.

I entrusted him with taking charge for the night.

He was masculine, direct, and pertinacious.

Relentless in pursuing his raison d'être.

I coveted to be his woman for the night.

He compelled me into submission, not for long term, but at least for that awesome night.

He was intransigent.

I allowed him to knead my badonkers and into my vajayjay.

He absolutely shellacked me.

It was exhilarating, comforting and enthralling.

I accept it was a tryst.

A rape with my consent.

Nonetheless, a frabjous one.

An euphoric sense of freedom to be loved, even for just a night.

 

[glockman]

May 3 2025

Singapore General Elections

He is a powerful virile man.

He's connected to the echelon of elites in political Singapore.

May 3. General Elections night. Awaiting the results.

His wife was in Korea with their adorable children.

He suggested he would be chef for that night.

We were at his Orchard locality penthouse, not his matrimonial home.

I arrived.

All spiffed up in my bootylicious dress, ready for his carnal blitz.

I entrusted him with taking charge for the night.

He was masculine, direct, and pertinacious.

Relentless in pursuing his raison d'être.

I coveted to be his woman for the night.

He compelled me into submission, not for long term, but at least for that awesome night.

He was intransigent.

I allowed him to knead my badonkers and into my vajayjay.

He absolutely shellacked me.

It was exhilarating, comforting and enthralling.

I accept it was a tryst.

A rape with my consent.

Nonetheless, a frabjous one.

An euphoric sense of freedom to be loved, even for just a night.

Sounds like you had a good time. But you also seem rather deprived. May I humbly suggest that you lower your expectations? Because there're so many unkers here who would gladly keep you company at a moment's notice. We are virile, wealthy and good looking.

 

[Claire]

Sounds like you had a good time. But you also seem rather deprived. May I humbly suggest that you lower your expectations? Because there're so many unkers here who would gladly keep you company at a moment's notice. We are virile, wealthy and good looking.

I ain't deprived.

I am not the type whom men thinks it's as easy as shooting a fish in a barrel.

I like to maintain healthy expectations when choosing a a man, rather than lowering them.

Lowering expectations can lead to indignation, despondency, and a sense of disconnection in a relationship.

I believe it's more beneficial for me to focus on setting realistic standards for my partner.

For instance, intimacy is very important.

For me, it's the "glue" that holds my relationship with him together.

Do you know that a man's DNA can seamlessly travel to a woman's brain through sex?

When sperm enters me, it swims until it hits a wall and then seeps into my flesh.

If it is in my mouth, it can get into my nasal areas, behind my eyes, and even my inner ear.

It then enters my bloodstream and collects in my brain and spine. I can never get rid of it.

With every man I have a sexual relationship with, I easily absorb his spermatozoa which becomes a part of me forever.

Hence, being with the right man (or men) and whom I have intimacy with is important.

I ain't making this up.

There was a study that autopsied the brain of elderly women, many of whom have been carrying male DNA for more than 50 years. It's a startling discovery and the beginning of understanding the true consequences of sexual intercourse.

Science aside, I wouldn't want a bibliophile type of dude. Neither do I want a corpulent Santa Claus with a jolly grin, or a lounge lizard flattering me, with his deceptive charm.

I am being reasonable and realistic with viable expectations.

Am I not?

 

[glockman]

I ain't deprived.

I am not the type whom men thinks it's as easy as shooting a fish in a barrel.

I like to maintain healthy expectations when choosing a a man, rather than lowering them.

Lowering expectations can lead to indignation, despondency, and a sense of disconnection in a relationship.

I believe it's more beneficial for me to focus on setting realistic standards for my partner.

For instance, intimacy is very important.

For me, it's the "glue" that holds my relationship with him together.

Do you know that a man's DNA can seamlessly travel to a woman's brain through sex?

When sperm enters me, it swims until it hits a wall and then seeps into my flesh.

If it is in my mouth, it can get into my nasal areas, behind my eyes, and even my inner ear.

It then enters my bloodstream and collects in my brain and spine. I can never get rid of it.

With every man I have a sexual relationship with, I easily absorb his spermatozoa which becomes a part of me forever.

Hence, being with the right man (or men) and whom I have intimacy with is important.

I ain't making this up.

There was a study that autopsied the brain of elderly women, many of whom have been carrying male DNA for more than 50 years. It's a startling discovery and the beginning of understanding the true consequences of sexual intercourse.

Science aside, I wouldn't want a bibliophile type of dude. Neither do I want a corpulent Santa Claus with a jolly grin, or a lounge lizard flattering me, with his deceptive charm.

I am being reasonable and realistic with viable expectations.

Am I not?

Ok ok, you're not deprived. And you're definitely not a loose woman too.

You make Herm the sperm sound like a virus. A brain virus!! So do you have the article of the autopsies? Would make for an interesting read.

Here's the story of Herm the sperm:

Once upon a time, there lived a sperm called Herm.

Herm was a sperm with a Purpose. Every day, while the other sperm got fat and lazy, Herm did spermy push-ups, and swam up and down around the track. The other sperm laughed at Herm, but he merely continued with his training regime. He knew that there would only be one winner of the Great Coming.

Days passed, and finally, all the portents and omens came to pass. The Great Coming was nigh! All the sperm jostled for place, and with a great gush, the race was on! Of course, Herm's diligence paid off, and he swiftly pulled ahead of the crowd. Soon, he pulled so far ahead of the crowd, he had disappeared into the distance.

On and on, the other sperm swam, when suddenly, in the distance, they saw Herm swimming furiously back to them. As Herm passed the other sperm, swimming back to the balls, he screamed, "TURN BACK! TURN BACK! IT'S JUST A BLOWJOB!!"

 

[Claire]

Ok ok, you're not deprived. And you're definitely not a loose woman too.

You make Herm the sperm sound like a virus. A brain virus!! So do you have the article of the autopsies? Would make for an interesting read.

Here's the story of Herm the sperm:

Once upon a time, there lived a sperm called Herm.

Herm was a sperm with a Purpose. Every day, while the other sperm got fat and lazy, Herm did spermy push-ups, and swam up and down around the track. The other sperm laughed at Herm, but he merely continued with his training regime. He knew that there would only be one winner of the Great Coming.

Days passed, and finally, all the portents and omens came to pass. The Great Coming was nigh! All the sperm jostled for place, and with a great gush, the race was on! Of course, Herm's diligence paid off, and he swiftly pulled ahead of the crowd. Soon, he pulled so far ahead of the crowd, he had disappeared into the distance.

On and on, the other sperm swam, when suddenly, in the distance, they saw Herm swimming furiously back to them. As Herm passed the other sperm, swimming back to the balls, he screamed, "TURN BACK! TURN BACK! IT'S JUST A BLOWJOB!!"

In Starbucks now and reading your hilarious story on Herm the Sperm.

Thanks for this to start off my long weekend.

I chuckled, but honestly, I wanted to literally laugh out loud but I couldn't. I don't want to stick out like a queer fish in Starbucks.

By the way, I ain't a storyteller propositioning fake news on how a woman may possibly absorb her sex partners' spermatozoa.

Here's a recent 2023 article on the subject matter from Omega Golden Fertility Clinic, Nigeria’s leading provider of high-success fertility treatments.

Previous Sex Partners and Women Reproduction
February 21, 2023 by OmegaGolden

https://omegagoldenfertility.com/previous-sex-partners-and-women-reproduction/

Well in case you cast your doubts on a Nigerian article, Time, a more reputable source for information, also had an article (almost a decade ago in 2014) citing a scientific research done by Angela Crean, a research fellow at the evolution and ecology research center at University of New South Wales in Australia. Reproduced in full for you below...

How Previous Sexual Partners Affect Offspring
By Alice Park
October 3, 2014 2:50 PM EDT

https://time.com/3461485/how-previous-sexual-partners-affect-offspring/

time.com

It’s a long-held belief among animal breeders that pure-bred progeny are best produced by females who have never mated before. Call it puritanical or ridiculous, but in breeding, it’s been a long-standing practice—even though there has never been much science to back it up.

Now, however, researchers at University of New South Wales in Australia believe they may finally have some evidence to give that notion some scientific support.

Working with flies, Angela Crean, a research fellow at the evolution and ecology research center, picked up on her mentor’s work of looking at how male factors can influence offspring outside of the DNA in his semen.

“The genetic tests showed that even though the second male fertilized the eggs, the offsprings’ size was determine by the condition of the first male,” she says of her findings, published in the journal Ecology Letters. “The cool thing is that the non-genetic effects we are seeing are not necessarily tied to the fertilization itself.”

Cool, or really disturbing. The implications of the study are that any mates a female has had may leave some legacy—in the form of physical or other traits that are carried in the semen (but not the DNA-containing sperm)—that could show up in her future offspring with another mate.

While there’s a growing body of work showing that a mother’s diet, her smoking status, and other lifestyle habits can have an influence on her offspring, the data on similar factors on the father’s side is just emerging. With flies it’s known, for example, that males who eat a maggot-rich diet while they’re mere larvae, develop into larger than average adults, and on top of that, sire larger than average offspring as well. Males fed a meager maggot diet tend to be smaller have have smaller progeny.

Eager to learn how this was happening, Crean conducted a series of mating experiments with female flies when their eggs were immature. At that stage, the eggs are more receptive to absorbing factors in semen, but because they aren’t fully developed, they can’t be fertilized and won’t result in baby flies. When she and her colleagues “mated” these females with males who were larger, then allowed the females to actually mate with smaller males once they were mature, the offspring turned out to be large, just like the first males the females had sexual contact with. Genetically, they were the offspring of the second, smaller male, but physically, they resembled the larger males.

The same was true when they reversed the experiment and first exposed the females to smaller flies and then mated them with the larger ones.

To be sure that the was indeed due to something in the semen, Crean repeated the studies with an unfortunate group of male flies who had their genitalia glued down so they could not pass on any semen during their encounters. (“It’s horrifying but seemed nicer than cutting them off,” she says.) When these males, both large and small, were the first “mates” for females, their size did not have an effect on the offspring when the female mated with her second mate and had offspring. In other words, those offspring were large if the second male was large, and small if the second male was small.

Crean says the idea of a female’s previous mates having an effect on their offspring isn’t unheard of. In fact, this very idea, called telegony, was proposed by ancient scholars such as Aristotle but dismissed with the advent of genetics. But new findings about epigenetics — how our behaviors, such as diet, smoking and drinking — can affect our genes and how those changes can be passed on, make the idea of such non-genetic inheritance possible. “This could be seen as a maternal effect [such as diet or smoking] where the mother’s environment are her previous mating partners,” she says. “We have to realize that it’s not just DNA that gets passed on. It opens up the opportunity for all these other pathways that we had excluded.”

And while flies aren’t people, what are the chances that the same phenomenon is occurring in human reproduction? “It’s something we definitely don’t want to speculate about yet with humans,” she says. “There is no direct scientific evidence for that at all.” At least, for now.

 

[Claire]

Sounds like you had a good time. But you also seem rather deprived.

Ok ok, you're not deprived. And you're definitely not a loose woman too.

Well, since you insinuated me as a loose woman, I shall share with you one of my favourite poem by Sandra Cisneros.

She's a fearless woman who defies societal expectations and embraces her power.

And That's Me (or at least I am aspiring to be one).

I am Claire.

The poem explores themes of liberation, defiance, and the power of self-expression.

It encourages women to break free from oppressive norms and celebrate our unique identities.

Whenever I am down or feeling dismal in my workplace, I would often read this poem.

It empowers me. It gives me the strength to carry on as me, myself, Claire.

Here you go...

Loose Woman
by Sandra Cisneros

They say I’m a beast.
And feast on it. When all along I thought that’s what a woman was.

They say I’m a bitch.
Or witch. I’ve claimed the same and never winced.

They say I’m a macha, hell on wheels, viva-la-vulva, fire and brimstone, man-hating, devastating, boogey-woman lesbian.
Not necessarily, but I like the compliment.

The mob arrives with stones and sticks to maim and lame and do me in.
All the same, when I open my mouth, they wobble like gin.

Diamonds and pearl stumble from my tongue.
Or toads and serpents.
Depending on the mood I’m in.

I like the itch I provoke.
The rustle of rumorlike crinoline.