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Dear Thelma: Why are all the guys I meet only interested in sex?
THELMA_LOOKING FOR BOYFRIEND_ach
I am a 21-year-old girl studying for a degree. I had always wanted to have a long-term, normal relationship.
Before starting university, I studied in a girls' school for 11 years. I can count the number of my male friends on both hands.
Most of my friends entered into relationships when they were 18 years old and have remained in those relationships till now.
I felt pressured when they said they were eager to know how my boyfriend would look like and they would compare their boyfriends with mine.
I started to use dating apps since I was 19 and slowly began socialising with guys. At first, I was innocent and believed everything they said, and always dreamed of a perfect relationship with the ideal boyfriend.
I hung out with a lot of guys in the past two years but after the first date, everything stopped. The guys would not reach out to me again.
Why is it like that? Is it because I cannot give what they wanted (such as sex, money, other benefits)?
After a while, I got used to meeting any guy just once, so I didn't feel sad anymore.
There is a guy I met online whom l've liked a lot for a year now and I still stalk his social media accounts. We met up three or four times but he didn't seem serious about the relationship; he insisted that he only wanted to have sex with me. I rejected that.
After that, he didn't reply my messages and accept my calls. Do all guys just want a girlfriend to have sex with, and then change girlfriends every few months to try something new?
My friends didn't tell me if they lost their virginity, and I don't want to know. I am tired of guys approaching me to ask if I have been in a relationship before, just to ask if I have lost my virginity. When I say I am a virgin, they continuously pursue me to have sex – and when they can't get what they want, they just disappear from my life.
Why is it so difficult to find a guy to just have a simple relationship?
I believe that sex after marriage is better because I want to give my future husband the gift.
I'm still using dating apps. I am aware of the way they ask me questions as I have met a lot of similar types.
I don't know how to make a real relationship happen.
I think a good age to get married is 33 but people can't believe it when I tell them that. They say that is too old and it's dangerous to have a baby when someone is in their 30s.
Could you help me?
Undefined Life
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THELMA_LOOKING FOR BOYFRIEND_ach
I am a 21-year-old girl studying for a degree. I had always wanted to have a long-term, normal relationship.
Before starting university, I studied in a girls' school for 11 years. I can count the number of my male friends on both hands.
Most of my friends entered into relationships when they were 18 years old and have remained in those relationships till now.
I felt pressured when they said they were eager to know how my boyfriend would look like and they would compare their boyfriends with mine.
I started to use dating apps since I was 19 and slowly began socialising with guys. At first, I was innocent and believed everything they said, and always dreamed of a perfect relationship with the ideal boyfriend.
I hung out with a lot of guys in the past two years but after the first date, everything stopped. The guys would not reach out to me again.
Why is it like that? Is it because I cannot give what they wanted (such as sex, money, other benefits)?
After a while, I got used to meeting any guy just once, so I didn't feel sad anymore.
There is a guy I met online whom l've liked a lot for a year now and I still stalk his social media accounts. We met up three or four times but he didn't seem serious about the relationship; he insisted that he only wanted to have sex with me. I rejected that.
After that, he didn't reply my messages and accept my calls. Do all guys just want a girlfriend to have sex with, and then change girlfriends every few months to try something new?
My friends didn't tell me if they lost their virginity, and I don't want to know. I am tired of guys approaching me to ask if I have been in a relationship before, just to ask if I have lost my virginity. When I say I am a virgin, they continuously pursue me to have sex – and when they can't get what they want, they just disappear from my life.
Why is it so difficult to find a guy to just have a simple relationship?
I believe that sex after marriage is better because I want to give my future husband the gift.
I'm still using dating apps. I am aware of the way they ask me questions as I have met a lot of similar types.
I don't know how to make a real relationship happen.
I think a good age to get married is 33 but people can't believe it when I tell them that. They say that is too old and it's dangerous to have a baby when someone is in their 30s.
Could you help me?
Undefined Life
