The salacious affair of David and Wendy last night has generated a huge deliberation between us. As we watched the story unfolding on mainstream and social media, our discussion eventually centred around him and his ex-wife, whom he divorced some years back.
I have never asked him why he divorced his wife, all this while, who coincidentally, share the same first name as the female protagonist in the public saga now.
As the gossips on social media tapered later last night, I eventually plucked my courage to ask him why his marriage had failed. He was reluctant to share the specifics and said what was over “is history” and preferred not to trigger unpleasant memories.
He then embraced me tightly, cuddling me, attempting to smoulder my lips with his and started an intimacy attempt. At this juncture, I refused and shoved him aside. He must have gotten a rude shock as this was the first time that I had rejected his advances.
By the way, I often find him rather nifty and shrewd whenever he gets into a dead end in his arguments. Each time when he has done something wrong or made me extremely irate, he would always attempt intimacy and thereafter, my pleasure, exhilaration and gratification would eclipse any pre-intimacy anger that I had, succumbing to him, mind, body and soul. But last night, I was determined not to give in to his sensual disposition. I am not sure what gave me the courage, but I said to him "NO", unless and until he makes a full and frank disclosure. He relented.
According to him, his marriage with Wendy lasted for only a few years. Wendy was his childhood sweetheart whom he eventually married. He said she "changed" considerably after their marriage and the frequent tensions and squabbles became excruciatingly unbearable for him. As a result, he would often work late in office, to avoid Wendy and all the matrimonial spats.
A couple of months from those late nights in the office, he eventually fell for one of his younger and supposedly more empathetic female subordinate. For privacy reasons, I shall refer to her as "Saseko".
His intimate affair with Saseko went on for a couple of months until one day, Saseko demanded that he divorced Wendy. He said at that time, he finally realised that he had made an error of judgment.
He added that before he could even come clean to Wendy, Saseko had already SMS-ed Wendy, requested for "showdown" talks ~ all done without his knowledge. To his shock and horror, from Wendy’s affidavits filed in the divorce courts, Saseko had even met Wendy privately many times without his knowledge and revealed all ~ to the extent of even showing pictures of them “making out” during business trips. The next thing he knew, Wendy threw him out of their matrimonial home. He was so upset that he ended the relationship with Saseko as well. He said he couldn't continue with such a "fucking" slut.
After his divorce, he said he went to lead a life of dating and new relationships, cautiously not committing himself until he met me. He said he courted me enthusiastically as he believes I am the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He reckons that I have the maturity in thought, not found in many women he has met. He further believes I know what a man wants, plus, I am able to appreciate his "me-time" and not one who will "cage" him like a zookeeper.
He said to show his sincerity and love, he has in fact made a will (which he showed me) naming me as the sole beneficiary of his assets. He even showed me his latest CPF nomination form with my name as beneficiary as well.
I was really touched by his actions and words and I finally relented physically and emotionally to him (yes, yet again my heart triumphed over my brain).
This morning I woke up at 6am, as usual, I went for my morning run again ~ during which my brain became clearer than me heart. As I sprinted, a couple of startling questions bothered me. I could feel that my thoughts were in a whirlwind of activity, striding faster than my legs.
First, he cheated on Wendy. Second, he dumped Saseko. Third, he went on with a few other women, like Cocotte. Fourth, he can always make a fresh will and CPF nomination, disposing me altogether. Last but not least, I gave in to him yet again. Arghhh! :( I think I am getting paranoid from what I read on the public saga now.
I hope he is the right one for me. I am sure he is. I am not one who falls for sweet talk. I am Claire. I will make sure our relationship succeed.
Most importantly, I must ensure he will never, never, ever, become a David.
PS :
Wish me luck, cos as I pen this piece right now, I have momentarily run out of ideas :( .
I have never asked him why he divorced his wife, all this while, who coincidentally, share the same first name as the female protagonist in the public saga now.
As the gossips on social media tapered later last night, I eventually plucked my courage to ask him why his marriage had failed. He was reluctant to share the specifics and said what was over “is history” and preferred not to trigger unpleasant memories.
He then embraced me tightly, cuddling me, attempting to smoulder my lips with his and started an intimacy attempt. At this juncture, I refused and shoved him aside. He must have gotten a rude shock as this was the first time that I had rejected his advances.
By the way, I often find him rather nifty and shrewd whenever he gets into a dead end in his arguments. Each time when he has done something wrong or made me extremely irate, he would always attempt intimacy and thereafter, my pleasure, exhilaration and gratification would eclipse any pre-intimacy anger that I had, succumbing to him, mind, body and soul. But last night, I was determined not to give in to his sensual disposition. I am not sure what gave me the courage, but I said to him "NO", unless and until he makes a full and frank disclosure. He relented.
According to him, his marriage with Wendy lasted for only a few years. Wendy was his childhood sweetheart whom he eventually married. He said she "changed" considerably after their marriage and the frequent tensions and squabbles became excruciatingly unbearable for him. As a result, he would often work late in office, to avoid Wendy and all the matrimonial spats.
A couple of months from those late nights in the office, he eventually fell for one of his younger and supposedly more empathetic female subordinate. For privacy reasons, I shall refer to her as "Saseko".
His intimate affair with Saseko went on for a couple of months until one day, Saseko demanded that he divorced Wendy. He said at that time, he finally realised that he had made an error of judgment.
He added that before he could even come clean to Wendy, Saseko had already SMS-ed Wendy, requested for "showdown" talks ~ all done without his knowledge. To his shock and horror, from Wendy’s affidavits filed in the divorce courts, Saseko had even met Wendy privately many times without his knowledge and revealed all ~ to the extent of even showing pictures of them “making out” during business trips. The next thing he knew, Wendy threw him out of their matrimonial home. He was so upset that he ended the relationship with Saseko as well. He said he couldn't continue with such a "fucking" slut.
After his divorce, he said he went to lead a life of dating and new relationships, cautiously not committing himself until he met me. He said he courted me enthusiastically as he believes I am the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He reckons that I have the maturity in thought, not found in many women he has met. He further believes I know what a man wants, plus, I am able to appreciate his "me-time" and not one who will "cage" him like a zookeeper.
He said to show his sincerity and love, he has in fact made a will (which he showed me) naming me as the sole beneficiary of his assets. He even showed me his latest CPF nomination form with my name as beneficiary as well.
I was really touched by his actions and words and I finally relented physically and emotionally to him (yes, yet again my heart triumphed over my brain).
This morning I woke up at 6am, as usual, I went for my morning run again ~ during which my brain became clearer than me heart. As I sprinted, a couple of startling questions bothered me. I could feel that my thoughts were in a whirlwind of activity, striding faster than my legs.
First, he cheated on Wendy. Second, he dumped Saseko. Third, he went on with a few other women, like Cocotte. Fourth, he can always make a fresh will and CPF nomination, disposing me altogether. Last but not least, I gave in to him yet again. Arghhh! :( I think I am getting paranoid from what I read on the public saga now.
I hope he is the right one for me. I am sure he is. I am not one who falls for sweet talk. I am Claire. I will make sure our relationship succeed.
Most importantly, I must ensure he will never, never, ever, become a David.
PS :
Wish me luck, cos as I pen this piece right now, I have momentarily run out of ideas :( .
