Yah guys, I know it's funny sometimes when we give people stupid advice or just being silly.
But assuming this story is real, we should be mindful of the guy's feelings. These are tough economic times, and if you are a parent, you would understand the trauma the TS goes through when fighting these custody battles as well as try to make a living.
As a teacher, I've taught children who come from divorced families. Sometimes you cannot see the trauma on the child's daily behaviour, ie the child will still appear like normal on a day to day basis.
However, talk to the child and you will know that he or she can feel lonely and abandoned, or neglected.
It is not easy for a child who loves his parents, or at least close to one parent, to have to go through a living arrangement where you don't see one of them. Worse, you see both of them fighting.
Have you guys any idea what goes through the head of an eight year old girl? She is lost and confused and trying to be brave at the same time! If you think that being a grown up is tough in these tough times, have you guys spared a thought for the little girl's feelings if her dad goes nuts??
Shame on you for telling TS to tell his daughter to lie. This is very bad for her character development. I don't care even if I get zapped for this. Because this is not a thread to talk nonsense on!
I do feel for the guy, but this solution is not good. There may also be times when he feels like whacking the other guy, but should he let his daughter see this?
I hope you get custody of your child when she grows up. Also, although it's none of my business, you should think very carefully about the next woman you want to spend your life with. Choose a good stepmom to her, especially if her own mother isn't the modicum of good behaviour.
You are a man, so it may be difficult for you to understand this, but an emotional and value system of a girl can be compromised if she does not get the right guidance from a mom growing up. As a father, I hope you spend time talking to your girl about being "proper" after she grows up. You don't have to badmouth your wife, in fact, no matter how much you hate her, don't badmouth her in front of your daughter. It's tough on you I know. Just teach her some values and share with her your life values.
Please be brave and hope everything works out for you. Sorry if this is really long, but I'm kind of worried about your child, with her being so young.
