Mdm A, a 50 years old lady. Married with 2 kids and has 2 grandchildren.
I knew her during my admission in ttsh 2016. She is a very sensitive lady. Even though she had been on dialysis for few years but she disliked to let others know.
Even her in law also didn’t know she was on dialysis.
She has a loving Husband. Her Husband loves her very much. I saw her Husband came to visit her everyday during her stay in hiosital.
But she getting weaker and weaker. And keep in and out hospital for various complication. I visited her once during her hospital stay Aug 2017.
And one day in sept, her Daughter whatapps me told me she has passed away. She is not my only lupus friends who has passed away. I didn’t cry as I knew this will come one day for us.
Husband said because she was too pessimistic and not happy in life. So that is why she died.
At first I didn’t plan to do any kidney transpalnt and just wanted to dialysis and even planed to to peritoneal dialysis so that I can live a normal life and continue with my career.
However , 2 month after mdm A passed away. Then my colleague Mother who always dialysis has passed away.
Then I last min decided for the kidney transplant because I want to have a chance to save myself.
Not sure whether this is good decision or not but at least I tried my best to save my life.
I once asked mdm A, why don’t ask your Husband donate you a kidney. Then I think if her Husband donate her a kidney. She may not need to die.
Or maybe this is life. So no matter how much you do, also can’t change the destiny?
