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Ex party girl here from an era before most of you here. Gone through all the same things of becoming invisible to males after crossing a certain age and having no suitors when I wanted to quit the party scene. Same grating CNY questions, same getting wedding invites and being jiemei over and over again until I was the only unmarried one left.
Had all the same rationalisations that you are having now, blamed everyone for such an unfair system, tried to convince myself I was happy and complete unlike all my friends shackled to marriage and kids. Yes I was also one of those you-don't-deserve-me-if-ya-can't-handle-me-at-my-worst girls. Guilty as charged.
It starts slowly at first and maybe denial has a part to play, but one day you will notice how your FWBs have moved on and ended up in LTRs, thereafter getting happily married (yes it's unfair but that's how it is). ONSes will dry up because the clubbing men are all flocking to younger girls who look like what you used to. Your clubbing pals who weren't as havoc wreaking start dropping out one by one as they settle down and you will feel like the person who couldn't secure a chair when the music stopped playing. The tattoos you got then to show how hip and sexy you were will start to look silly years later and you will spend more time convincing yourself how it was a good idea instead of admiring them.
You will still attempt to get into LTRs but you mainly only know how to hook up with uncommitted men who just string you along until one day you get "the talk" about how things aren't working out. Even that devoted nice guy you friendzoned back then and now consider reconnecting with out of desperation is happy attached and sends you his wedding invite. You bite your lip with every failure experienced.
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Had all the same rationalisations that you are having now, blamed everyone for such an unfair system, tried to convince myself I was happy and complete unlike all my friends shackled to marriage and kids. Yes I was also one of those you-don't-deserve-me-if-ya-can't-handle-me-at-my-worst girls. Guilty as charged.
It starts slowly at first and maybe denial has a part to play, but one day you will notice how your FWBs have moved on and ended up in LTRs, thereafter getting happily married (yes it's unfair but that's how it is). ONSes will dry up because the clubbing men are all flocking to younger girls who look like what you used to. Your clubbing pals who weren't as havoc wreaking start dropping out one by one as they settle down and you will feel like the person who couldn't secure a chair when the music stopped playing. The tattoos you got then to show how hip and sexy you were will start to look silly years later and you will spend more time convincing yourself how it was a good idea instead of admiring them.
You will still attempt to get into LTRs but you mainly only know how to hook up with uncommitted men who just string you along until one day you get "the talk" about how things aren't working out. Even that devoted nice guy you friendzoned back then and now consider reconnecting with out of desperation is happy attached and sends you his wedding invite. You bite your lip with every failure experienced.
More at https://tinyurI.com/y496rfdn
