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[Yuletide]

Sending parent to nursing home​

General

I am probably going to get roasted for this, but all my life, my mum has never cared about my feelings. It was always her way, what she think is best for me.

So on the same token, can I just send her to a nursing home when she is old? After all, I do not need to care about her feelings (learning from example), and according to what I think is the best care (again learning from example). She would be well taken care of in a nursing home.

No kids for me to model behavior to, because having grown up in abuse made me not want kids.

Edit: Thanks for your input everyone. I am not staying with her and am thinking ahead to a time where my dad is gone and she is not able to take care of herself physically. I have a mentally distressed sibling (which is probably caused by her abuse) who is still staying with my parents. She has been showing signs that she will move overseas permanently & not take on the care (not that I disagree with her plans because my mum is insufferable). So based on the feedback here, my course of action would be:

1. Hire a helper to stay with her. If she abuses the helper, and the helper is unable to carry on, then
2. Nursing home.

 

[syed putra]

The father also kena abused? Or because father not to expectation, mum take revenge on children.

 

[Yuletide]

The father also kena abused? Or because father not to expectation, mum take revenge on children.

Many Singaporean women grow old become siaolang

 

[OYK]

never cared about his feelings = abuse? LMFAO

 

[GOD IS MY DOG]

Sending parent to nursing home​

General

I am probably going to get roasted for this, but all my life, my mum has never cared about my feelings. It was always her way, what she think is best for me.

So on the same token, can I just send her to a nursing home when she is old? After all, I do not need to care about her feelings (learning from example), and according to what I think is the best care (again learning from example). She would be well taken care of in a nursing home.

No kids for me to model behavior to, because having grown up in abuse made me not want kids.

Edit: Thanks for your input everyone. I am not staying with her and am thinking ahead to a time where my dad is gone and she is not able to take care of herself physically. I have a mentally distressed sibling (which is probably caused by her abuse) who is still staying with my parents. She has been showing signs that she will move overseas permanently & not take on the care (not that I disagree with her plans because my mum is insufferable). So based on the feedback here, my course of action would be:

1. Hire a helper to stay with her. If she abuses the helper, and the helper is unable to carry on, then
2. Nursing home.

M'sians have all the luck................last time they just bring their old folks here and ''set free''................