Redditer: genuinely scared of what will happen to my family when im in NS

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genuinely scared of what will happen to my family when im in NS​

Question

hello yall. currently awaiting NS in april. however, im kinda terrified of what will happen once im in

to keep it short, my dad was an abusive bastard, cheated on my mum, but hes no longer in my life. however, my mum as a result took out a lot of her anger on me, but later after my little sister got older she took it out on her too. now shes also pretty much out of the equation, but since she left too, its been our grandmother taking care of us. quite frankly, i dont think she has it in her to take care of a teenage daughter whos not..the most emotionally stable and well adjusted to put it lightly, plus she doesnt earn much, so ive been working and being as good of an older bro as i can be to her

but now with NS, idk how she will cope. im already pes c9 excused stay in, but considering how far kranji camp is from my current residence, for convenience sake staying in makes more sense. but if i stay in, idk how her and my grandmother will cope on nsf allowance and without me for most of the weekdays to help with school and make sure she doesnt get into any more trouble. ive talked to my sister about me being in the army soon, and while she has reassured me shes gonna be alright, i kinda think she just wants her older bro to be at ease

i guess my main questions rn are

1. financial assistance schemes?
2. how is leave/off handled? like, do i qualify for any leave besides annual leave?
3. just general advice on how to deal with this situation

if it were up to me, id just pes F. but unfortunately, mindef has decided im still fit enough to serve in some capacity

 

[Sustanon]

NS exists to enrich the JLBs boomers' enterprises that capitalize on your misery. You think those businesses owned by boomers that profited massively from the NS gives a fuck about you as an individual when their incentives are in line with the continuation of conscript? An industry is literally built around NS. Of course they strongly encourage and even recite the mantra on the benefits of doing NS.

 

[VanDick]

How old is the sister?