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Just got out of a situationship and it’s so painful
Tldr, we started off as friends, got closer, he started saying that he wants something casual, which I brushed it off then because I didn’t have feelings for him, but subsequently I did and became clearer with my intentions. He pretended not to notice, and we continued our couple stuff until I realised how deeply I’ve fallen, so I spoke to him.
I shared that I’ve liked him too much to just keep things casual, and also acknowledged that he was clear with his intentions in the beginning so I wanted it out. I wanted to focus on other things in life since he wasn’t ready. He seemed shocked at the convo, shared that he did like me more than as a friend, always thought that I was also dating around for fun. Anyway he still want things casual.
We ended up kissing. Before we parted, he spoke about wanting to keep things casual again, until a time when we both find someone else. I told him I can’t. It became awkward. He sent me to the drop off point, I asked him to go home first, and he just…. Left.
I’m really sad. Honestly I can’t help but feel that men over 30s have issues, this isn’t the first time I’ve come across a situationship. A part of me really wanted to agree to his request to keep things casual, but the other part of me is terribly afraid that he will just find someone and leave me.
It’s really heartbreaking to know that you’re not enough for someone that you like so much.
