Redditer: I feel like I have failed my parents. How do I do right by them besides allowance money?

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I feel like I have failed my parents. How do I do right by them besides allowance money?​

General

Hi all,

I'm Chinese 32F. I really don't want to get into the details but basically I was a high-flying student, got a good job upon graduation (approx 7 years ago), and started contributing $500 to my parents money like we agreed upon.

Unfortunately, my mental and physical health spiraled a lot after that and I struggled to keep a job because of that. Even when I got a salary, it went immediately to paying bills. I couldn't contribute to my parents (I thought temporarily) and they were very understanding and said ok. They even transferred me money around $500-$1000 on a few occasions to help me when my husband and I had bad debts from paying housing mortgage, insurance etc.

The problems got worse though. Recently I got hospitalised after an accident left me unable to walk. My father took time to bring me to the hospital appointments since I was in a wheelchair. I couldn't help but notice that my father's hair is completely grey now, and he has a bit of difficulty walking even though he is the one pushing me.

I don't have a job right now because of the injury and I don't think it will be easy to get one anytime soon because of the job market. I feel like a completely failed daughter who can't even take care of her parents in their old age. I don't want to stand at their funerals and regret letting their lives pass me by.

I am really bad with emotional and sentimental things...I got bullied in school and to this day I am very socially awkward. My family is also quite emotionally distant in general. Besides giving allowance money which I can't do at the moment, what can I do to express that I love my parents and want to create good times with them?

Please, any and every suggestion will help. Thank you so much

 

[Dongyi]

Like me, give my CDC and SG60 vouchers to them.

 

[Sustanon]

Like me, give my CDC and SG60 vouchers to them.

I literally heard a woman selling her CDC vouchers to her father on a wheelchair in the supermarket.... the woman told her father that she will pay his groceries with her CDC and then the father will pay her back in cash later.

 

[The Crow]

I literally heard a woman selling her CDC vouchers to her father on a wheelchair in the supermarket.... the woman told her father that she will pay his groceries with her CDC and then the father will pay her back in cash later.

Sell CDC? Sell CB better ...

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

Like me, give my CDC and SG60 vouchers to them.

I literally heard a woman selling her CDC vouchers to her father on a wheelchair in the supermarket.... the woman told her father that she will pay his groceries with her CDC and then the father will pay her back in cash later.

My mother gives all her CDC vouchers to me. When my ex SVP was still in Singapore regional office, she also gives all her CDC vouchers to me.

 

[A Singaporean]

Coolie gene Sinkies no hope.

 

[True Believer]

Coolie gene Sinkies no hope.

The CDC vouchers are from taxpayers' money, so most of us are paying for our own vouchers.

 

[nabeifuckpap]

The CDC vouchers are from taxpayers' money, so most of us are paying for our own vouchers.

Sounds like some Tiong money laundering scheme

 

[Dongyi]

My mother gives all her CDC vouchers to me. When my ex SVP was still in Singapore regional office, she also gives all her CDC vouchers to me.

世上只有妈妈好

 

[Sikodolaukazzz]

The parents will always care for their children at every instance.
After all the children came to this world through them as preordained.

In old age many children want to take care of their parents.
If a child can afford then it is good.
If the child cannot it is also fine.

It is the thoughts that count and finally the love she has shown for her parents is more important than monetary assistance.
The bottome line is love.
The parents love her very much and she also loves her parents very much.

 

[Sikodolaukazzz]

Here see the immense collective love the public has shown towards this little baby

https://www.asiaone.com/singapore/c...erral&utm_campaign=A1+trending&utm_content=c1

'Relief, gratitude and hope': Family hits $2.4m crowdfunding goal to save baby from rare genetic disorder​

Faziq, born in June 2025, will turn 10 months in April. His parents have managed to secure $2.4 million for his medical treatment.
PHOTO: Norhaziqah Rosli

 

[True Believer]

The PAP has disappointed S'poreans

 

[syed putra]

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I feel like I have failed my parents. How do I do right by them besides allowance money?​

General

Hi all,

I'm Chinese 32F. I really don't want to get into the details but basically I was a high-flying student, got a good job upon graduation (approx 7 years ago), and started contributing $500 to my parents money like we agreed upon.

Unfortunately, my mental and physical health spiraled a lot after that and I struggled to keep a job because of that. Even when I got a salary, it went immediately to paying bills. I couldn't contribute to my parents (I thought temporarily) and they were very understanding and said ok. They even transferred me money around $500-$1000 on a few occasions to help me when my husband and I had bad debts from paying housing mortgage, insurance etc.

The problems got worse though. Recently I got hospitalised after an accident left me unable to walk. My father took time to bring me to the hospital appointments since I was in a wheelchair. I couldn't help but notice that my father's hair is completely grey now, and he has a bit of difficulty walking even though he is the one pushing me.

I don't have a job right now because of the injury and I don't think it will be easy to get one anytime soon because of the job market. I feel like a completely failed daughter who can't even take care of her parents in their old age. I don't want to stand at their funerals and regret letting their lives pass me by.

I am really bad with emotional and sentimental things...I got bullied in school and to this day I am very socially awkward. My family is also quite emotionally distant in general. Besides giving allowance money which I can't do at the moment, what can I do to express that I love my parents and want to create good times with them?

Please, any and every suggestion will help. Thank you so much

Easy peasy. Renounce your citizenship as its easier to get jobs as a foreigner.