Redditer: Getting uncomfortable vibes from a senior leader at work, not sure how to interpret it

[Flibbertigibbet]

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Getting uncomfortable vibes from a senior leader at work, not sure how to interpret it​

This is a bit of a strange situation and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it.

I’m a male and generally keep in good shape. There’s someone in senior leadership at my company (also male) who has recently started giving me what I can only describe as uncomfortable or creepy vibes.

Nothing he has done is blatantly inappropriate or clearly crossing a line. But during conversations I often notice his eyes frequently drifting to my chest or arms instead of normal eye contact. He will also find small excuses to touch my shoulder or tap my arm. Individually those things can be normal workplace behavior, but the way it happens feels forced rather than natural.

He has also made a couple of odd comments in meetings. For example, while I was sharing my screen he joked something like, “Don’t worry, we won’t look into your deep dark secrets.” It was said casually but again the tone felt strange and forced. He has also randomly commented on my physique a few times.

Again, none of this is clearly over the line, which is what makes it hard to interpret. It just gives off a vibe that makes me uncomfortable.

For context, I’m straight AF, but I have been hit on by men before a bunch of times, so I can usually recognize that kind of energy, and this feels somewhat similar.

I’m not sure if I’m reading too much into it, if it is just awkward behavior, or if I should start setting clearer boundaries.

Has anyone dealt with something like this at work? How did you handle it?

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

be careful of gays at work environment ... very revengeful type of people

 

[50000]

trust your Gaydar

 

[True Believer]

be careful of gays at work environment ... very revengeful type of people

Remember the former male CEO of NKF who tried to molest his male junior staff?

 

[True Believer]

Trust your vibes. After my new boss (now ex-boss) joined the company, he noticed that I drove a far more expensive car to work. Almost immediately, he started to show signs of envy and insecurity. He made snide comments about me, and during my first full-year appraisal, nitpicked on minor flaws and refused to acknowledge my positive contributions to the company. He was hellbent on putting me in my place all because he perceived that I was trying to outshine him.

 

[laksaboy]

Lots of homos out there. Be careful, especially if you go to the gym or swimming pool.

 

[True Believer]

Lots of homos out there. Be careful, especially if you go to the gym or swimming pool.

Born queer, live queer and then die queer.

 

[laksaboy]

If you want to exercise but don't want to share space with homos, I highly recommend going to a yoga or pilates class.

Almost of the people there are females: students and instructors.

 

[WangChuk]

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Getting uncomfortable vibes from a senior leader at work, not sure how to interpret it​

This is a bit of a strange situation and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it.

I’m a male and generally keep in good shape. There’s someone in senior leadership at my company (also male) who has recently started giving me what I can only describe as uncomfortable or creepy vibes.

Nothing he has done is blatantly inappropriate or clearly crossing a line. But during conversations I often notice his eyes frequently drifting to my chest or arms instead of normal eye contact. He will also find small excuses to touch my shoulder or tap my arm. Individually those things can be normal workplace behavior, but the way it happens feels forced rather than natural.

He has also made a couple of odd comments in meetings. For example, while I was sharing my screen he joked something like, “Don’t worry, we won’t look into your deep dark secrets.” It was said casually but again the tone felt strange and forced. He has also randomly commented on my physique a few times.

Again, none of this is clearly over the line, which is what makes it hard to interpret. It just gives off a vibe that makes me uncomfortable.

For context, I’m straight AF, but I have been hit on by men before a bunch of times, so I can usually recognize that kind of energy, and this feels somewhat similar.

I’m not sure if I’m reading too much into it, if it is just awkward behavior, or if I should start setting clearer boundaries.

Has anyone dealt with something like this at work? How did you handle it?

Government oredi announced to the world they will close both eyes and ears to LGBTQ and use their shit to cover the existing LAW on unnatural sex ... the LAW industry and enforcers all now blind and deaf to it liao .... no comprain to media oso no use ... only make the International LGBTQ organisations and leagues to swamp to this Pinkie Island for happy living ....

 

[uniboi]

Trust your vibes. After my new boss (now ex-boss) joined the company, he noticed that I drove a far more expensive car to work. Almost immediately, he started to show signs of envy and insecurity. He made snide comments about me, and during my first full-year appraisal, nitpicked on minor flaws and refused to acknowledge my positive contributions to the company. He was hellbent on putting me in my place all because he perceived that I was trying to outshine him.

小人Gollum. Welcome to the 小人at work place club.

 

[uniboi]

If you want to exercise but don't want to share space with homos, I highly recommend going to a yoga or pilates class.

Almost of the people there are females: students and instructors.

Lesbians and butch are well known to give trouble to not welcome any male into their fitness class.