- Joined
- Jul 19, 2011
- Messages
- 27,896
- Points
- 113
Why Singapore is still my home
By Dominic Ho
My Paper
Wednesday, Feb 20, 2013
SINGAPORE - I am 25 this year, have not lived in Singapore for over a decade and always find it ironic to see the words "Welcome Home" flash when I'm at airport immigration.
Since 2001, I've spent six of my most formative years in Hong Kong, two more serving national service here, and another four years after that pursuing a higher education in Sydney, Australia. I will be graduating by year end.
Still, I come back at least once a year.
Through all this, my immediate family lived in Shanghai, so I do have trouble figuring out where my home really is.
To make things worse, I found out on my current trip here that the country's population could hit nearly seven million by 2030, and The Economist Intelligence Unit said Singapore is now the sixth most-costly city in the world to live in, up from ninth last year.
Like some Singaporeans, I first took this as a sign that it's time to pack up and leave for good.
The population increase could spell tougher competition in getting a job. I'm also uncertain if Singapore would become less crowded, despite more houses and train stations being built.
And, to be honest, having experienced life overseas, I'd be very content staying in the so-called "greener pastures" for good.
I like that I have more friends in Hong Kong. This means it's easier for me to find people to chill out with or call for help on work matters.
I like that taxis there fight for your patronage, rather than the other way round, as I've experienced here time and time again.
In Sydney, I love that the city's lifestyle and culture are more laid-back. I like that many things there - such as the shorter work hours, the weather and the hipster cafes - make living in Sydney seem like one extended holiday.
These are just a fraction of the things that I just can't find here.
Furthermore, Singapore's physicality changes so fast that I feel rather disoriented every time I come back. And, when you feel like a tourist in the city you were born in, you know it's time to go.
But, in recent months, something has changed.
My immediate family has moved back, probably for good. And, with my time in university coming to a close, I've had to do some soul searching about where home is, and where I really want to be at the end of the day.
This Chinese New Year, I caught up with many relatives, some of whom I haven't seen in years, and realised that while Singapore might be more crowded in the future, my family will always be here for me.
These ties run much deeper than what any city can offer.
I know, deep down, that my parents always felt guilty about letting me live independently, and constantly worried about me. So, the least I can do is be around to support them as they supported my decision to live overseas.
I also have pleasant memories of my childhood here, which won't change no matter how much Singapore does.
And I guess you can call it a sentimental attachment, but there has to be a reason why, for the last four years, I've been coming back for internships every summer and winter break, when I could work anywhere else.
I'm anchored here and this is where I will probably settle down, despite the flaws I see in Singapore.
Besides, while Hong Kong is less dense than Singapore population-wise, it feels more crowded.
Sydney, while spacious, is now the third most-expensive city in the world to live in.
Living in Australia did feel like an extended holiday. Maybe that's just what the last 10 years have been for me, and it's time to come home.
By Dominic Ho
My Paper
Wednesday, Feb 20, 2013
SINGAPORE - I am 25 this year, have not lived in Singapore for over a decade and always find it ironic to see the words "Welcome Home" flash when I'm at airport immigration.
Since 2001, I've spent six of my most formative years in Hong Kong, two more serving national service here, and another four years after that pursuing a higher education in Sydney, Australia. I will be graduating by year end.
Still, I come back at least once a year.
Through all this, my immediate family lived in Shanghai, so I do have trouble figuring out where my home really is.
To make things worse, I found out on my current trip here that the country's population could hit nearly seven million by 2030, and The Economist Intelligence Unit said Singapore is now the sixth most-costly city in the world to live in, up from ninth last year.
Like some Singaporeans, I first took this as a sign that it's time to pack up and leave for good.
The population increase could spell tougher competition in getting a job. I'm also uncertain if Singapore would become less crowded, despite more houses and train stations being built.
And, to be honest, having experienced life overseas, I'd be very content staying in the so-called "greener pastures" for good.
I like that I have more friends in Hong Kong. This means it's easier for me to find people to chill out with or call for help on work matters.
I like that taxis there fight for your patronage, rather than the other way round, as I've experienced here time and time again.
In Sydney, I love that the city's lifestyle and culture are more laid-back. I like that many things there - such as the shorter work hours, the weather and the hipster cafes - make living in Sydney seem like one extended holiday.
These are just a fraction of the things that I just can't find here.
Furthermore, Singapore's physicality changes so fast that I feel rather disoriented every time I come back. And, when you feel like a tourist in the city you were born in, you know it's time to go.
But, in recent months, something has changed.
My immediate family has moved back, probably for good. And, with my time in university coming to a close, I've had to do some soul searching about where home is, and where I really want to be at the end of the day.
This Chinese New Year, I caught up with many relatives, some of whom I haven't seen in years, and realised that while Singapore might be more crowded in the future, my family will always be here for me.
These ties run much deeper than what any city can offer.
I know, deep down, that my parents always felt guilty about letting me live independently, and constantly worried about me. So, the least I can do is be around to support them as they supported my decision to live overseas.
I also have pleasant memories of my childhood here, which won't change no matter how much Singapore does.
And I guess you can call it a sentimental attachment, but there has to be a reason why, for the last four years, I've been coming back for internships every summer and winter break, when I could work anywhere else.
I'm anchored here and this is where I will probably settle down, despite the flaws I see in Singapore.
Besides, while Hong Kong is less dense than Singapore population-wise, it feels more crowded.
Sydney, while spacious, is now the third most-expensive city in the world to live in.
Living in Australia did feel like an extended holiday. Maybe that's just what the last 10 years have been for me, and it's time to come home.