Need Vs Want

[Claire]

I find that at times, the line of distinction between a "need and want" becomes increasing blurred.

Sometimes, I try to decipher my own "needs and wants" using the analogy in relation to food and water. For example,

"Eat to Live" = Need
"Live to Eat" = Want

At times, it's in relation to mobile phones,

Simple android phone or tablet = Need
Iphone or Ipad = Want

And, sometimes, in relation to handbags,

"Kate Spade", "Coach" or equivalents = Need
"Gucci" "LV" "MuiMui" or equivalents = Want

Even in these examples above, a "need" for me may be a "want" for others or vice versa in relation to a different woman of a even higher income/social status.

At the end of the day, I reckon it is how one defines a "need".

If a "need" is defined narrowly as enough to survive, then food and water are needs and all else becomes a "want". But life is far more complex in the world I live in. It becomes even more a challenge when it comes to "intimacy".

I spend last night with him. This morning, around 7am or thereabouts, he woke me up and after a few hugs and kisses, he said he "needed" intimacy. I asked him whether he "needed" it or "wanted" it. Of course, I was being cheeky and pulling his leg. He did, however, classify "intimacy" as a need. He said he needed to release his "testosteronic energies", otherwise, he would become "sexually obtused" or eventually become erectile dysfunctional due to lack of use. I laughed at his excuses, though I gave in to his so-called "need", notwithstanding I am of the opinion that it is a "want" for him.

Veering a bit off from this topic of "needs" and "wants", I have often wonder why he is always so "intimately active" in the mornings. For me, I always find it a challenge, not that I am not up to it but I find it rather "weird" enjoying "frenching" with a strange foul breath or "popsicling" without brushing my teeth (and vice versa too).

Writing this piece, I guess the "timing dichotomy" in his and my "need/want" intimacy differs. I prefer intimacy in the late evenings while he probably enjoy it more in the mornings

Perhaps Men are really from Mars and Women from Venus.

 

[Leongsam]

I want you and I need you too.

 

[CABcommander]

Chow Chee bye Claire wanting attention. Suay Chee bye Claire needing attention.

 

[STUCK_HERE]

I find that at times, the line of distinction between a "need and want" becomes increasing blurred.

Sometimes, I try to decipher my own "needs and wants" using the analogy in relation to food and water. For example,

"Eat to Live" = Need
"Live to Eat" = Want

At times, it's in relation to mobile phones,

Simple android phone or tablet = Need
Iphone or Ipad = Want

And, sometimes, in relation to handbags,

"Kate Spade", "Coach" or equivalents = Need
"Gucci" "LV" "MuiMui" or equivalents = Want

Even in these examples above, a "need" for me may be a "want" for others or vice versa in relation to a different woman of a even higher income/social status.

At the end of the day, I reckon it is how one defines a "need".

If a "need" is defined narrowly as enough to survive, then food and water are needs and all else becomes a "want". But life is far more complex in the world I live in. It becomes even more a challenge when it comes to "intimacy".

I spend last night with him. This morning, around 7am or thereabouts, he woke me up and after a few hugs and kisses, he said he "needed" intimacy. I asked him whether he "needed" it or "wanted" it. Of course, I was being cheeky and pulling his leg. He did, however, classify "intimacy" as a need. He said he needed to release his "testosteronic energies", otherwise, he would become "sexually obtused" or eventually become erectile dysfunctional due to lack of use. I laughed at his excuses, though I gave in to his so-called "need", notwithstanding I am of the opinion that it is a "want" for him.

Veering a bit off from this topic of "needs" and "wants", I have often wonder why he is always so "intimately active" in the mornings. For me, I always find it a challenge, not that I am not up to it but I find it rather "weird" enjoying "frenching" with a strange foul breath or "popsicling" without brushing my teeth (and vice versa too).

Writing this piece, I guess the "timing dichotomy" in his and my "need/want" intimacy differs. I prefer intimacy in the late evenings while he probably enjoy it more in the mornings

Perhaps Men are really from Mars and Women from Venus.

Why don't you migrate to Australia like Krafty? Fuck off with your bullshit.

 

[yinyang]

...needed to release his "testosteronic energies", otherwise, he would become "sexually obtused" or eventually become erectile dysfunctional due to lack of use. ..always so "intimately active" in the mornings.
.."timing dichotomy" in his and my "need/want" intimacy differs. I prefer intimacy in the late evenings while he probably enjoy it more in the mornings Perhaps Men are really from Mars and Women from Venus.

He's not wrong, with guy's testosterone level highest in mornings. This may help you better understand, his "morning wood" and perhaps to better sync

http://www.upworthy.com/the-hard-facts-about-a-guy-issue-known-as-morning-wood

So no need to be confused...

or freaked out...

 

[Claire]

I want you and I need you too.

Mr Leong???

 

[Claire]

He's not wrong, with guy's testosterone level highest in mornings. This may help you better understand, his "morning wood" and perhaps to better sync

http://www.upworthy.com/the-hard-facts-about-a-guy-issue-known-as-morning-wood

So no need to be confused...

Good afternoon Yin. That's interesting. Nonetheless I am not a morning person for intimacy

 

[eatshitndie]

it's human biology at work. when i was younger i would "need" it 7 times a day with 6 out of 7 "want(s)" in the morning. it would drive my partner mad as she was still snoozing snugly. in the late evening when the mood suited her, she would "want" it coinciding with her "need". i would do it obligingly to get my "need before sleep" off my mind and body and then snooze and snore till the next morning while she cuddled up still whispering in the aftermath. :o

she had to tell her best friend to tell me not to bug her in the morning. :p

 

[PretenderSam]

I want you and I need you too.

well said.

please up your own points on my behalf.

 

[Claire]

it's human biology at work. when i was younger i would "need" it 7 times a day with 6 out of 7 "want(s)" in the morning. it would drive my partner mad as she was still snoozing snugly. in the late evening when the mood suited her, she would "want" it coinciding with her "need". i would do it obligingly to get my "need before sleep" off my mind and body and then snooze and snore till the next morning while she cuddled up still whispering in the aftermath. :o

she had to tell her best friend to tell me not to bug her in the morning. :p

Hello Elder Brother

To be fair to both, such intimate moments should be evenly spread out between mornings and nights.

 

[syed putra]

she had to tell her best friend to tell me not to bug her in the morning. :p

You are lucky. Mine told me to forget about it day or night.

 

[eatshitndie]

Hello Elder Brother

To be fair to both, such intimate moments should be evenly spread out between mornings and nights.

agree with you, sister. the man must sacrifice his urge (need) in the morning and do more of the shiok stuff in the late evenings with wanton wickedness. and at least cuddle close after a series of honorable animal acts to put her to sleep. or watch porn if it becomes a chore to get the gonads going. in fact, while writing this i'm so horny now i must bang bang before going to nap. good night! :p

 

[eatshitndie]

You are lucky. Mine told me to forget about it day or night.

my last one was by sms. :p

 

[chootchiew]

I want you and I need you too.

Please queue behind. I'm in front.

 

[chootchiew]

I'm very clear about my needs and wants.
Except gambling. It looks like a wants but when I win it become a need as it will allow me to have many wants.

 

[Papsmearer]

I find that at times, the line of distinction between a "need and want" becomes increasing blurred.

Sometimes, I try to decipher my own "needs and wants" using the analogy in relation to food and water. For example,

"Eat to Live" = Need
"Live to Eat" = Want

At times, it's in relation to mobile phones,

Simple android phone or tablet = Need
Iphone or Ipad = Want

And, sometimes, in relation to handbags,

"Kate Spade", "Coach" or equivalents = Need
"Gucci" "LV" "MuiMui" or equivalents = Want

Even in these examples above, a "need" for me may be a "want" for others or vice versa in relation to a different woman of a even higher income/social status.

At the end of the day, I reckon it is how one defines a "need".

If a "need" is defined narrowly as enough to survive, then food and water are needs and all else becomes a "want". But life is far more complex in the world I live in. It becomes even more a challenge when it comes to "intimacy".

I spend last night with him. This morning, around 7am or thereabouts, he woke me up and after a few hugs and kisses, he said he "needed" intimacy. I asked him whether he "needed" it or "wanted" it. Of course, I was being cheeky and pulling his leg. He did, however, classify "intimacy" as a need. He said he needed to release his "testosteronic energies", otherwise, he would become "sexually obtused" or eventually become erectile dysfunctional due to lack of use. I laughed at his excuses, though I gave in to his so-called "need", notwithstanding I am of the opinion that it is a "want" for him.

Veering a bit off from this topic of "needs" and "wants", I have often wonder why he is always so "intimately active" in the mornings. For me, I always find it a challenge, not that I am not up to it but I find it rather "weird" enjoying "frenching" with a strange foul breath or "popsicling" without brushing my teeth (and vice versa too).

Writing this piece, I guess the "timing dichotomy" in his and my "need/want" intimacy differs. I prefer intimacy in the late evenings while he probably enjoy it more in the mornings

Perhaps Men are really from Mars and Women from Venus.

I NEED you to stop spamming this forum with your shit threads. I WANT you to jump off a tall building. Those are my needs and wants.

 

[Claire]

I'm very clear about my needs and wants.
Except gambling. It looks like a wants but when I win it become a need as it will allow me to have many wants.

Good afternoon Choot. I think you should kick that gambling habit before it really becomes a need.

 

[Claire]

agree with you, sister. the man must sacrifice his urge (need) in the morning and do more of the shiok stuff in the late evenings with wanton wickedness. and at least cuddle close after a series of honorable animal acts to put her to sleep. or watch porn if it becomes a chore to get the gonads going. in fact, while writing this i'm so horny now i must bang bang before going to nap. good night! :p

Errr...elder brother... spare me the details. Being open in discussing about sexuality matters is a fine line from soft porn. I am perfectly fine with the former, definitely not in favour of the latter unless it is a need to be said.

 

[yinyang]

Morning calls best, from a woman's perspective :p

13 Reasons Why Morning Sex Will Always Be The Best Sex

Laura Argintarin DATING

There are some small moments in life that are really great. Turning on the television at the exact moment Robin Williams is giving his moving “Dead Poet’s Society” speech.​

Unexpectedly learning that your entire purchase has been discounted 30 percent at checkout.
Glancing down at your phone to see a surprising text from a potential mate. All these instances make us feel like the universe is on our side.

The same goes for sex. While getting laid is always good, there are some choice encounters that qualify as really, really great.

In the morning haze, when you’re at your most vulnerable and still easing into the day, nothing beats the feeling of having someone next to you wrap his arms around you and make you feel wanted.

Morning sex is like eating chocolate cake for breakfast — it’s decadent, indulgent and comforting. Plus, who doesn’t want to linger in bed just a little longer?

The benefits extend to more than just being uncharacteristically nice to everyone for the rest of the day. Multiple studies have shown that individuals who engage in morning sex are healthier and happier people. Your post-coital glow that others are noticing isn’t totally bogus.

Waking up to an eager partner sure as hell beats waking up to an alarm clock.
Here are all the reasons morning sex is the best sex.

1. Because you’ll actually remember it.
This is a win for you and your girlfriends, who will appreciate the fully detailed recap later.
Normally you can’t recollect anything save a few fragments, “I think it was um, good?”; “He was hot, right? You guys saw him?” But now you’ll be able to fill in all the good stuff.

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2. You’re guaranteed to wake up on the right side of the bed.
Sex in the morning gets you — and the day — off right. Researchers from theUniversity of Cincinnati found that morning sex is a natural stress-reliever and these effects can last for at least seven days, meaning your early Monday romp could ease those Sunday Blues.

Morning sex also increases levels of IgA, an antibody that helps to fight against infection, according to Dr. Debby Herbenick, an American research scientist and author of “Because It Feels Good.” It’s like taking your daily vitamins… only way more pleasurable.

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3. You can skip the gym.
It’s a way better alternative to a morning workout before hopping into the shower. Scientists confirm that an hour of sex burns almost as many calories as a 30-minute jog.
After an hour, men and women burn an average of 240 calories and 180 calories, respectively.
While that length of straight thrusting might be wishful thinking (unless you’re of the jack-hammer variety), like any good exercise routine, at least you’ll have something to work up to.

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4. Who doesn’t want to begin the day with an orgasm?

It’s like Christmas morning — there’s a package waiting for you to enjoy. And everyone scores.

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5. Because your clothes are already off.
This does make for a speedier process, which is key for weekday mornings.
Heed the advice of great philosopher and first man to state the obvious, Aristotle, ”If everyone is naked, it only follows then that we should have sex.” Wise guy.

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6. You can carpool after.
Who needs to drive to work when you’re already riding dirty?

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7. It’s more intimate.
The few minutes we have to ourselves after first opening our eyes are special. Most people who you’re in regular contact with have no idea what you look, sound, smell and feel like first thing in the morning. It’s a rare moment to others that’s all to yourself.
Fill that moment in with another person and it becomes a shared secret privy to only you two. That’s what makes morning sex so intimate.
It’s stripped of everything — clothes, makeup, the weight of a day’s events, toothpaste, priorities — and somehow leaves you feeling fuller.

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8. Because shower sex just doesn’t cut it.
The water in your face, the slippery surfaces (especially where feet are concerned!), the soap in places that can’t support life with soap — shower sexis like the sh*tty water park version of intercourse you indulge in when you have nothing better to do over the summer.
Morning sex is the more fun, cooler theme park. Better than Disney.

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9. It affirms that you two are still interested in each other sober.
Any sex that is not drunk and sloppy means there’s hope. When the lights are on, it’s even better getting off.

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10. Because you love an excuse to gloat at work.
Coworker 1: How was your night?
You: I had amazing morning sex.
Coworker 2: I’m so stressed.
You: Morning sex could fix that. I would know.
Coworker 3: Where do you want to go for lunch?
You: Some place where they sell morning sex all day.

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11. It’s a better replacement for coffee.
Sex gets you going first thing in the morning. A poke in the back jolts you awake in a way that caffeine can’t.
If you become addicted, we understand.

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12. You leave on a high.
Morning sex is ending the night on a good note. Especially in more “foreign” bedrooms, post-morning sex acts as an inoffensive cue to exit. We f*cked. Now SCRAM!

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13. There’s nothing like a good c*ck rooster to wake you up.
Exposed early breath, post-coital glow, natural daylight to contour your face — morning sex makes waking up early totally worth it.

http://elitedaily.com/dating/morning-bang-session/866402/

 

[Claire]

Morning calls best, from a woman's perspective :p

Yin, let me test if the reasons are true.

1. Because you’ll actually remember it.

Sort of, but not always.

2. You’re guaranteed to wake up on the right side of the bed.

Quite true, I feel livelier since doing these morning "exercises".

3. You can skip the gym.

This is true. While I don't really gym, I run in the morning. I do skip my runs after morning intimacy.

4. Who doesn’t want to begin the day with an orgasm?

I am fine without. This is probably more a reason for man.

5. Because your clothes are already off.

Err.. not really, because I still have my camisole top on in the morning.

6. You can carpool after.

Don't understand this reason at all.

7. It’s more intimate.

This is probably true as I am most vulnerable and have less inhibitions.

8. Because shower sex just doesn’t cut it.

I am sure this is just an excuse. Shower intimacy can be as fun too. So this reason does not fit the bill.

9. It affirms that you two are still interested in each other sober.

Sort of. I agree.

10. Because you love an excuse to gloat at work.

This is a man's reason. Definitely for sure I don't talk about this in office unless I am with my best friend Sue.

11. It’s a better replacement for coffee.

Not true. I still need my coffee.

12. You leave on a high.

This is probably true. haha

13. There’s nothing like a good c*ck rooster to wake you up.

As I said in my pioneer post in this thread, I do enjoy it save for the bad breath and un-brushed teeth.