Cathlmg, only now i saw your posting about letting go and understanding where the parents are coming from.
In a way, i really agree, you are full of wisdom, lots to learn from you. My sisters are giving my parents hell
but yet my dad and mum are still bearing with them. Every month, the money i gave them is used to pay for
the electricity bills for their house and my sisters living there don't need to pay.
So i must owe my dad a lot and then he in turns owe them a whole lot too. I don't mind it so much about the
money but every single day my 2 sisters will quarrel and then ask my parents to buy food for them, wash their
clothers etc. Its like what my wife summed up,
2 sparrows had 3 eggs, 1 egg was kicked out of the nest, the little sparrow somehow managed to survive and
become independant, the other 2 molly cuddled sparrows are still somehow wearing diapers.
Wuqi, they are entangled in an endless dungeon called kharma. If you understand the thing about kharma, you will be able to break free yourself. You, and only yourself can break yourself free. These is.... enlightenment!