more like an introvert chalking up a wall of excuse. This is not call ideal, its call "sucking up" all the time. in other words low self esteem. Yes, this is ideal only if the woman is the soft type. He married the woman who dont love him that much but gave in becos of his "overdrive sucking up". He is not honest enough to face the reality that he should find a more compatable woman that suits his soft character.
either that or change now and be a punk

its never too late to grow long hair even at 39.