how long does a guilt last?

[leetahbar]

when u done something wrong - whether terrible wrong or just a unwitting wrong - how long does the guilt stay with you?

how does one compromise with it and move on from there? what if one doesn't know how to overcome it? how would life be drastically changed?

i think this forum should be a platform for sharing, learning and overcoming one's predicament.

guilt is something we regret deeply after committing it. then again, it's also a learning process. u ve done, hurt is created. the next step would be HEALING PROCESS. some just continue to dwell in it and amplify the HURT and getting more people negatively affected by it. some do not regret it and continue to excerbate and enhance it. but ultimately, the final process would be HEALING.

to initiate healing, one must first learn to embrace it, accept it, then healing can begin......

 

[krafty]

i ever hurt a girl, i swear it was unintentional. after a few months, i decided not to continue and she went on with my friend and later she became his wife, causing my friend to break up with his girlfriend. me causing the girl heartache and indirectly causing another heartache on my friend's girlfriend. the truth is i never want this to happen but maybe i was young then.:o:(

 

[karmabear]

If you are to grow, you will have to explore and venture in all aspects of life. With venture, there will be mistakes and failures. And unless you are a hermit, inevitably there will be other parties involved. So people will get hurt but its part and parcel of life. Move on, don't make the same mistakes.

 

[Lian9]

Very Simple : As long as you can remember...Over time, you will be consumed by so many other stuff happening in your life that you forgot about this...

when u done something wrong - whether terrible wrong or just a unwitting wrong - how long does the guilt stay with you?

how does one compromise with it and move on from there? what if one doesn't know how to overcome it? how would life be drastically changed?

i think this forum should be a platform for sharing, learning and overcoming one's predicament.

guilt is something we regret deeply after committing it. then again, it's also a learning process. u ve done, hurt is created. the next step would be HEALING PROCESS. some just continue to dwell in it and amplify the HURT and getting more people negatively affected by it. some do not regret it and continue to excerbate and enhance it. but ultimately, the final process would be HEALING.

to initiate healing, one must first learn to embrace it, accept it, then healing can begin......

 

[leetahbar]

i ever hurt a girl, i swear it was unintentional. after a few months, i decided not to continue and she went on with my friend and later she became his wife, causing my friend to break up with his girlfriend. me causing the girl heartache and indirectly causing another heartache on my friend's girlfriend. the truth is i never want this to happen but maybe i was young then.:o:(

look at the brighter side. at least u broke up before then after married and worst having brood of kids to deal with. matters would be even more complex and the hurt is further enhanced.

we must understand AFFINITY. if it comes, it comes. if it has to go, it goes.... ATTACHMENT to hurt shall not solve any problem. it only stymies ur enjoyment in living a better wholesome life. so the wisest way is : TO LET GO and set yourself free.

 

[leetahbar]

whenever u know or feel a nasty pricking on your conscience. it could be good if the action has not been executed. that's the PRE-guilt nagging at u. however, if action has already been executed and damage is done, the POST-guilt is more difficult and tedious to deal with.

instead of letting such a POST guilt consumes u, one must learn to embrace it. yes, embrace it instead of being negatively manifested by it and let it control n ruin your life. once u embrace the guilt, u r facing it str8 in the face like a foe. u need to pacify it and gradually understand it. once u undertood, the guilt would eventually dissipate and u shall be set free.

in simple terms, LET GO, set free and BE FREE.

 

[myfoot123]

You can ask PAP about guilt and its lifespan. The evil of all men dwell inside PAP camp, they know best and probably can overcome it within few hours after looking at their bank statement and shouted: "I feel richer everytime I look at it". Sound familiar?

Than there is another gutter politician who threw the poor 3 options: You want meal in hawker, foodcourt or resturant - Without even batting an eyelid.

The so-called living cow took the cake: the old and poor can consider leaving Singapore and stay in JB or Batam because they cannot afford to stay in Singapore when they are old and sick. He even cursed his opponents to go to hell during election and threaten youngster that they will lose their jobs and wages depressed if they don't support PAP policies.

Collectively, PAP negative aura became even more prounounced: You don't vote for me, you wll not get your lift upgraded and I don't care if you are old or mobility challenged, I will make you repent.

Asked any ruling politician what they think of the above, they will smile at you as if guilt is not in their dictionary and than award you with something unflaterring: get out of my uncaring elitist face, lesser mortal!.

 

[leetahbar]

political guilt? too complex. let's just share guilt at a personal level.

 

[diversifyx2]

Whatever personal guilt strike my head, i point the arrow to PAP.

 

[Agoraphobic]

It helps if one is able to forgive. Including forgiving oneself.

Cheers!

 

[middaydog]

i ever hurt a girl, i swear it was unintentional. after a few months, i decided not to continue and she went on with my friend and later she became his wife, causing my friend to break up with his girlfriend. me causing the girl heartache and indirectly causing another heartache on my friend's girlfriend. the truth is i never want this to happen but maybe i was young then.:o:(

Can you put A, B, C on each character, it will make it easier to follow and understand the story

 

[Lucian Darth]

It helps if one is able to forgive. Including forgiving oneself.

Cheers!

Yah I agree with u. Sometimes we have to learn how to forgive ourselves and move on. I used to like to suan ppl alot, till one day I hurt A, A was quite a good frd and I crossed the line. I kept saying sorry and tried to patch things up with him. I tried everythg to save the frdship, I even stopped suaning ppl altogether. But A still ignored me, that was when I realized the ball is in his court. Today I dun feel guilty towards him anymore, coz I did my best to preserve the frdship. But I do feel sad abt losing a frd and of course regrets. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't 'suan' him for a million dollar!

 

[drifter]

i dont understand why ppl feel gulit in the first place . if you done nothing wrong ..you dont have to regret ..

 

[leetahbar]

i dont understand why ppl feel gulit in the first place . if you done nothing wrong ..you dont have to regret ..

interesting. if ppl don't feel guilt, then they have lost their conscience. i always don't understand why christians always call themselves "sinners". isn't that a form of guilt? if repentance could erase their sins with the idea of "born again" mentality, then perhaps most christians should be very good people. but in reality, are there really "good god people " or just like many of us - plain hypocrites?

guilt is a good way to guide our actions. only good people feel that they ve done wrong when they unwittingly commit something bad which might not be seen. guilt is there even though no one sees the default action.

i think if we lose we lose guilt, we lose our soul.

 

[drifter]

interesting. if ppl don't feel guilt, then they have lost their conscience. i always don't understand why christians always call themselves "sinners". isn't that a form of guilt? if repentance could erase their sins with the idea of "born again" mentality, then perhaps most christians should be very good people. but in reality, are there really "good god people " or just like many of us - plain hypocrites?

guilt is a good way to guide our actions. only good people feel that they ve done wrong when they unwittingly commit something bad which might not be seen. guilt is there even though no one sees the default action.

i think if we lose we lose guilt, we lose our soul.

in my own view ...using emotions to judge things are the worst ...see how religions and charity organisation targets those ppl ?

 

[zeddy]

interesting. if ppl don't feel guilt, then they have lost their conscience. i always don't understand why christians always call themselves "sinners". isn't that a form of guilt? if repentance could erase their sins with the idea of "born again" mentality, then perhaps most christians should be very good people. but in reality, are there really "good god people " or just like many of us - plain hypocrites?

guilt is a good way to guide our actions. only good people feel that they ve done wrong when they unwittingly commit something bad which might not be seen. guilt is there even though no one sees the default action.

i think if we lose we lose guilt, we lose our soul.

Putting religion aside, I used to know of this person who wont hesistate to cheat and deceive people of their money..
But strangely, this person does not feel guilty at all... maybe too much evil had penetrated inside the heart of this fella until there's no more conscience left in that bugger..

 

[Lucian Darth]

Putting religion aside, I used to know of this person who wont hesistate to cheat and deceive people of their money..
But strangely, this person does not feel guilty at all... maybe too much evil had penetrated inside the heart of this fella until there's no more conscience left in that bugger..

Guilt is actually taught, it hardwired into our head ware and heart ware since we were young. So the area that they were not successfully taught, is the area that they would fail and feel no guilt at all. That's y u see the current China, after cultural revolution, all the values were abolished and none passed down, so we have an entire generation who would just do anythg for money.

 

[leetahbar]

Putting religion aside, I used to know of this person who wont hesistate to cheat and deceive people of their money..
But strangely, this person does not feel guilty at all... maybe too much evil had penetrated inside the heart of this fella until there's no more conscience left in that bugger..

and there is a runaway desperate housewife who still yayapapaya what a "virtuous" bitch she is. after wrecking gay lawyer lover's blissful marriage, she dumps him and went camel humping with a fattie married pagan in egypt. now that is one patriotic virtue SDP is endorsing.

 

[krafty]

most christians are hypocritical sinners. dun believe me, just go to church and observe. a good thing they drove me away the last time. oh and yes thanks to lee kuan yew and his cronies. really a bunch of fuckers! if there is no karma, i worry!

interesting. if ppl don't feel guilt, then they have lost their conscience. i always don't understand why christians always call themselves "sinners". isn't that a form of guilt? if repentance could erase their sins with the idea of "born again" mentality, then perhaps most christians should be very good people. but in reality, are there really "good god people " or just like many of us - plain hypocrites?

guilt is a good way to guide our actions. only good people feel that they ve done wrong when they unwittingly commit something bad which might not be seen. guilt is there even though no one sees the default action.

i think if we lose we lose guilt, we lose our soul.

 

[leetahbar]

most christians are hypocritical sinners. dun believe me, just go to church and observe. a good thing they drove me away the last time. oh and yes thansk to lee kaun yew's cronies. really a fucker!

most people - that includes almost everyone of us here - are HYPOCRITES and not just christians alone. as long as u r human, it's easy to be hypocrite than to be honest. what draws the line here is a hypocrite would put the blame of GUILT on another person he conveniently targets while a honest chap would embrace that guilt, acknowledge it....and at times even to broadcast it. so u see the difference here?

a hypocrite broadcast his achievements even though it might not really be credited to him while a honest chap is bold enough to broadcast his guilt.

name one person here who dares to do that broadcasting his guilt and i shall name u 10 others who proudly and hypocritically broadcast their warped achievements.