Facebook Birthday Greetings & Likes

[Claire]

It's a quiet Wednesday. My lunch "kakis" have all taken leave and abroad with their men and kids. Munching a Subway Melt and reading this Forum and writing this thread ~ specifically on my disgust on some posts in Facebook which I read earlier today.

First, I do have a Facebook account but I rarely post after its creation yonks ago. It is more a social necessity in this fictitious friendship world where after a few conversations with another human being, men and women will send a Friendship Request, thinking in their whimsical brain that they have another friend in a metrosexual popularity contest.

As a result, I have more than 700 "supposed" friends, about 99% of which are mere acquaintances who requested that I add them as friends, be it colleagues - past and present - to people whom I have met in the workplaces, gym, clubs, overseas travel and so on.

This morning, he picked me up and while on the way to work in his car, I just didn't feel like conversing as I am a wee-bit dismayed on the issue about his past women whom he still keeps in contact for lunches and also on his Facebook.

I am at two minds about it ~ I do appreciate his honesty in telling me he is having lunch with her but at the same time, jealousy and possessiveness are matters I need to overcome in myself, otherwise, it will become a prickly issue with no resolution in sight.

My conclusion is that if I love him, I must never seek to "cramp" his style nor should I restrict who he is meeting subject of course to the principle of faithfulness.

I decided the best is to keep quiet and login into my Facebook account and read, which is what I want to write about now.

Upon login, the next thing I see on my mobile is ~ it’s so and so birthday today and then a long “crocodile” queue of others will be wishing her Happy Birthday with all sorts of well wishes, emoticons and pictures.

It all seems strange to me. That few colleagues who sent the birthday well wishes were just bitching about the birthday girl the other day ~ about how flat chested she is, ugly legs, blah blah blah ~ when I bumped into them at the office pantry!!!

Somehow, all these birthday well wishes make a mockery of everything I know about genuine friendship.

Has friendship become so "cheap" and “artificial” these days? If I want to wish a good pal happy birthday, I will never use Facebook. I will either give them a call, send them a WhatsApp, fix a time, have a meal with them or even spend time in a spa session.

Why does one need to be "pressured" to send birthday well wishes through Facebook and announce to the whole world that they have wished that person Happy Birthday?!?

Next, there are also another group of Facebook "friends" who will "like" everything that their friends have posted even if they don't.

For instance, I know a "friend" (A) who has always been bitching about another "friend" (B) and how ill-behaved B's kids are. Next thing I see on Facebook ~ A posted a picture of her kids and B has liked it.

For heaven's sake, is friendship so "cheap" these days?

 

[Leongsam]

I don't use facebook. I suggest you abandon it too.

All my friends are real and of course that means I don't have 700. I have about 5 who live within driving distance and another 3 overseas.

When their birthday comes round, I give them a call and offer to buy them lunch or dinner. If they are overseas, I skype to find out how life is treating them.

A couple of my friends are dying. They may not have more than 1 or 2 more birthdays max. Real life is a lot more sobering than facebook life.

 

[yellowarse]

I don't have any Facebook or Twitter account, but I don't find that I'm missing anything in life. I have a bunch of closely knit friends, a slightly bigger group of more distant friends that I keep in touch with once in a while, and my family. Good enough for me. Don't need 700 virtual friends.

 

[Leongsam]

I don't have any Facebook or Twitter account, but I don't find that I'm missing anything in life. I have a bunch of closely knit friends, a slightly bigger group of more distant friends that I keep in touch with once in a while, and my family. Good enough for me. Don't need 700 virtual friends.

Samuel Leong has a facebook and twitter account.

https://twitter.com/sammyboyfor

https://www.facebook.com/leong.sammyboy

However I don't have either.

 

[Thick Face Black Heart]

Upon login, the next thing I see on my mobile is ~ it’s so and so birthday today and then a long “crocodile” queue of others will be wishing her Happy Birthday with all sorts of well wishes, emoticons and pictures.

It all seems strange to me. That few colleagues who sent the birthday well wishes were just bitching about the birthday girl the other day ~ about how flat chested she is, ugly legs, blah blah blah ~ when I bumped into them at the office pantry!!!

Somehow, all these birthday well wishes make a mockery of everything I know about genuine friendship.

Has friendship become so "cheap" and “artificial” these days? If I want to wish a good pal happy birthday, I will never use Facebook. I will either give them a call, send them a WhatsApp, fix a time, have a meal with them or even spend time in a spa session.

You said it right, facebook is full of superficiality. Like this forum, I never take it seriously. My friends and I interact offline in the real world where it is more meaningful.

Facebook is the tool used by socialites, internet celebrities, star bloggers, and politicians (note that they are all cut from the same cloth) to attract attention. Their supporters will go in en masse to like and repost their wall postings. Who gets more likes and more reposts is deemed more popular and hence more successful. I ask you, is this mindless self-absorbed behaviour?

 

[tonychat]

you bunch of pathetic old fart here..

facebook isn't about friends. it can be use as a tool for news update such as The Online citizen, the state times review or health tips..etc..

Do not post personal stuffs on facebook.. that is stupid.

 

[Leongsam]

You said it right, facebook is full of superficiality. Like this forum, I never take it seriously. My friends and I interact offline in the real world where it is more meaningful.

How dare you compare this forum with facebook. There is far more honesty here than you'll ever see anywhere else in cyberspace.

 

[Claire]

How dare you compare this forum with facebook. There is far more honesty here than you'll ever see anywhere else in cyberspace.

Honesty is never appreciated in this forum.

Instead, you are the chief hoodlum who partake and encourage negative behaviours here like those repulsive Guess the Race threads.

 

[Claire]

You said it right, facebook is full of superficiality. Like this forum, I never take it seriously. My friends and I interact offline in the real world where it is more meaningful.

Facebook is the tool used by socialites, internet celebrities, star bloggers, and politicians (note that they are all cut from the same cloth) to attract attention. Their supporters will go in en masse to like and repost their wall postings. Who gets more likes and more reposts is deemed more popular and hence more successful. I ask you, is this mindless self-absorbed behaviour?

Thick, I agree.

 

[Claire]

I don't have any Facebook or Twitter account, but I don't find that I'm missing anything in life. I have a bunch of closely knit friends, a slightly bigger group of more distant friends that I keep in touch with once in a while, and my family. Good enough for me. Don't need 700 virtual friends.

Yellow, I agree wholeheartedly as well

 

[Leongsam]

Honesty is never appreciated in this forum.

Instead, you are the chief hoodlum who partake and encourage negative behaviours here like those repulsive Guess the Race threads.

I can assure you that the racists here are real racists but they wouldn't make the same derogatory remarks with a real facebook account.

 

[Claire]

Do not post personal stuffs on facebook.. that is stupid.

Tony, your written sentence does not make any sense.

You are saying it is stupid not to post personal stuff on Facebook.

 

[Leongsam]

Tony, your written sentence does not make any sense.

You are saying it is stupid not to post personal stuff on Facebook.

He's saying not to post personal stuff that is stupid. Personal stuff that sensible is OK. :p

 

[Claire]

I can assure you that the racists here are real racists but they wouldn't make the same derogatory remarks with a real facebook account.

Every race, religion and culture has it's share of bad apples. It all depends on educational level of the folks from that race, religion and culture. It is meaningless pinpointing which race, religion or culture has more or less.

Those who partake in such topics should have their brains examined.

 

[steffychun]

It's a quiet Wednesday. My lunch "kakis" have all taken leave and abroad with their men and kids. Munching a Subway Melt and reading this Forum and writing this thread ~ specifically on my disgust on some posts in Facebook which I read earlier today.

First, I do have a Facebook account but I rarely post after its creation yonks ago. It is more a social necessity in this fictitious friendship world where after a few conversations with another human being, men and women will send a Friendship Request, thinking in their whimsical brain that they have another friend in a metrosexual popularity contest.

As a result, I have more than 700 "supposed" friends, about 99% of which are mere acquaintances who requested that I add them as friends, be it colleagues - past and present - to people whom I have met in the workplaces, gym, clubs, overseas travel and so on.

This morning, he picked me up and while on the way to work in his car, I just didn't feel like conversing as I am a wee-bit dismayed on the issue about his past women whom he still keeps in contact for lunches and also on his Facebook.

I am at two minds about it ~ I do appreciate his honesty in telling me he is having lunch with her but at the same time, jealousy and possessiveness are matters I need to overcome in myself, otherwise, it will become a prickly issue with no resolution in sight.

My conclusion is that if I love him, I must never seek to "cramp" his style nor should I restrict who he is meeting subject of course to the principle of faithfulness.

I decided the best is to keep quiet and login into my Facebook account and read, which is what I want to write about now.

Upon login, the next thing I see on my mobile is ~ it’s so and so birthday today and then a long “crocodile” queue of others will be wishing her Happy Birthday with all sorts of well wishes, emoticons and pictures.

It all seems strange to me. That few colleagues who sent the birthday well wishes were just bitching about the birthday girl the other day ~ about how flat chested she is, ugly legs, blah blah blah ~ when I bumped into them at the office pantry!!!

Somehow, all these birthday well wishes make a mockery of everything I know about genuine friendship.

Has friendship become so "cheap" and “artificial” these days? If I want to wish a good pal happy birthday, I will never use Facebook. I will either give them a call, send them a WhatsApp, fix a time, have a meal with them or even spend time in a spa session.

Why does one need to be "pressured" to send birthday well wishes through Facebook and announce to the whole world that they have wished that person Happy Birthday?!?

Next, there are also another group of Facebook "friends" who will "like" everything that their friends have posted even if they don't.

For instance, I know a "friend" (A) who has always been bitching about another "friend" (B) and how ill-behaved B's kids are. Next thing I see on Facebook ~ A posted a picture of her kids and B has liked it.

For heaven's sake, is friendship so "cheap" these days?

fucking is better than facebooking. Amos Yee said so.

 

[Thick Face Black Heart]

How dare you compare this forum with facebook. There is far more honesty here than you'll ever see anywhere else in cyberspace.

Just yanking your chain. "Honesty"??? That's very subjective. Most views expressed here are done so under the cloak of anonimity, and after a while, what started off as honest dialogue quickly becomes polarizing and extreme because people revel in the emotional high of the game. Its like giving a man a few drinks and then asking him his darkest secrets. Sure he may blare it all under the influence of the bottle, but is that the real him? I don't think so. The real person is somewhere in between - best discovered in the offline, real world, not in cyberspace where multiple nicks, false personas, and personal agendas are superimposed on the cacophony of chatter taking place.

 

[Froggy]

I don't have a Facebook account either, this world is dangerous enough, no need to add anymore dangers into your life.

 

[wikiphile]

I don't have a Facebook account either, this world is dangerous enough, no need to add anymore dangers into your life.

That is correct, my mother taught me not to talk to strangers online. Say do i even know you at all Froggy?

 

[zhihau]

I have about 5 who live within driving distance and another 3 overseas.

That's a lot of friends already. Lucky you.

 

[Jah_rastafar_I]

Every race, religion and culture has it's share of bad apples. It all depends on educational level of the folks from that race, religion and culture. It is meaningless pinpointing which race, religion or culture has more or less.

Those who partake in such topics should have their brains examined.

man stfu cunt.