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dying alone

eatshitndie

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already happening in sg and sbf. if you don't hear from me, i have died alone on my mattress.

https://sg.yahoo.com/news/dying-alone-worlds-most-populous-city-040552882.html

Dying alone in the world's most populous city
Hiroshi HIYAMA,AFP News Wed, 29 Nov 8:05 PM GMT-8
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"Kodokushi" or "dying alone" is a growing trend in ageing Japan
The stench of flesh rotting on a sultry day fills the air as cleaner Hidemitsu Ohshima steps into a tiny Tokyo apartment where a dead man lay decomposing for three weeks.

The man, believed to be in his 50s, died alone in a city he shared with tens of millions of other people but no one noticed, making him the latest victim of "Kodokushi" or "dying alone" -- a growing trend in ageing Japan.

Decked out in a white protective suit complete with rubber gloves, Ohshima lifts up a futon mattress soaked with the dead man's bodily fluids, only to uncover a writhing mass of maggots and black bugs.

"Ugh, this is serious," he says. "You wear protective suits to defend yourself from bugs that may or may not be carrying diseases."

Kodokushi is a growing problem in Japan, where 27.7 percent of the population is aged over 65 and many people are giving up trying to find partners in middle age, opting instead for a solitary existence.

Experts say a combination of uniquely Japanese cultural, social and demographic factors have compounded the problem.

- Lonely death -

There are no official figures for the number of people dying alone who stay unnoticed for days and weeks but most experts estimate it at 30,000 per year.

Yoshinori Ishimi, who runs the Anshin Net service that cleans up afterwards, believes the true figure is "twice or three times that."

Modern Japan has experienced sweeping cultural and economic changes in recent decades but demographers say the country's social safety net has failed to keep pace -- with the burden still on the family to look after the elderly.

"In Japan, family has long served as the strong foundation of social support of all kinds," said Katsuhiko Fujimori, a well-known expert on welfare issues.

"But now things are changing with the rise of single people and the size of the family becoming smaller," added Fujimori, chief research associate at Mizuho Information and Research Institute.

In the past three decades, Japan has seen the share of single-occupant households more than double to 14.5 percent of the total population, the rise driven mainly by men in their 50s and women in their 80s and older.

Marriage rates are also dropping, with experts saying many men fear their job is too precarious to settle down and start a family and more women entering the workforce and no longer needing a husband to provide for them.

One in four 50-year-old Japanese men has never been married. By 2030, the figure is estimated to rise to one in three.

- Isolation -

The problem is exacerbated by a deep-rooted Japanese cultural tendency to turn to family rather than neighbours in times of trouble.

In a bid to be polite, elderly Japanese people fear to disturb their neighbours even to ask for help in the most trifling matters, resulting in a lack of interaction and isolation, expert Fujimori said.

Some 15 percent of elderly Japanese people living alone report having only one conversation a week, compared to five percent of their peers in Sweden, six percent in the US and eight percent in Germany, according to a Japanese government study.

And families increasingly live away or do not have the resources to help elderly relatives in tough economic times.

Fujimori advocates raising taxes to provide better social care for the elderly and financial assistance for childcare, freeing up working-age adults to return to the workforce.

"If family can no longer play the roles it has been playing, society must build a framework that responds to that need," said Fujimori.

"If nothing is done, we'll see more solitary deaths," he added.

- No pictures, no letters -

Aside from the anguish for relatives when they realise their loved-one has lain undiscovered for days, there is a practical element as these cases tend to cause apartment prices to plunge.

Cleaning firm boss Ishimi says Japan needs to educate young people about the issue and the lack of dignity suffered by the isolated elderly.

"How does one wish to die? Society as a whole must think about this," he said.

Meanwhile, back at the Tokyo apartment, Ohshima and his team keep the windows closed to prevent the noxious stench from spreading through the densely populated neighbourhood.

The room is filled with signs of the frugal, clean living of a music and movie lover who kept a vast collection of CDs and DVDs but not much else. No pictures. No letters.

Most items are thrown out but Ohshima and his two colleagues methodically go through the man's belongings for valuables in case his family eventually comes forward and wishes to see whatever he left behind.

"Police are looking for his relatives," said Ohshima.

"But no luck so far."
 

Dark Knight

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How many of you guys here are in your late 40s, single, no gf, don't have a career, not much $$$ and not many siblings?
There comes a day when we will be sick, too old and not enough $$$ to go see doctor.
Your siblings have their own family commitment and they can't take care of you often.
Are you prepare to live in your own tiny rented apartment and eventually move on to the next world?
Nobody knows, nobody cares and nobody bothers until the smell is too unbearable for your neighbors to call the police.
 

eatshitndie

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the list on sbf is immense.

ramseth (age unknown) gone
equalisation (>69) gone
eatshitndie (69) going
drifter (<69) somewhere selling exotic pets
tfbh (<69) still alive and fucking
chon (<69) overcame sickness and death
jah (<69) hopefully still alive
johnny (<69) still looking for best deal in every country
froggy (<69) most active
alamaking (<69) hopefully still alive
alamakinky (<69) still kicking
tonychat (<69) millionaire tutor
narong (<69) still strong
papsmearer (<69) foul mouth will continue to live
sam (~69) going?
and more....

too many here will die alone. hope this thread keeps track of us the lonely.
 

sweetiepie

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my uncle say some people marry due to they scare to die alone. He say his old time friend did that and now he realised if his wife die first he also will die alone.
 

zhihau

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my uncle say some people marry due to they scare to die alone. He say his old time friend did that and now he realised if his wife die first he also will die alone.

Your uncle's friend didn't have any children?
 

taksinloong

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PAP minister must be so PROUD that Singaporeans did not died alone recently. MOTHER & SON DIED SUICIDED TOGETHER! HUAT AH!

http://www.theindependent.sg/decomposing-bodies-of-mother-and-son-found-hanging-in-tampines-flat/


Decomposing bodies of mother and son found hanging in Tampines flat
November 29, 2017
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The deceased mother's son in law stumbled upon the gruesome scene on Monday

The decomposing bodies of 66-year-old Lee Gek Lan and her 27-year-old son Toh Boon Siong were discovered hanging in a locked bedroom in their apartment at Block 727, Tampines Street 71 on Monday, in what appears to be a double suicide.

According to the Chinese daily, the gruesome scene was discovered by Lee’s son-in-law when he returned to the flat after a three-day stay at the hospital for an operation.

Paramedics who arrived at the scene after 4pm on Monday, along with the police, pronounced the mother and son dead. No foul play is suspected at this time.



It is believed that Toh was suffering from severe depression but it is unclear if his depression is linked to their deaths.


Neighbours have told reporters that the family who moved into their Tampines flat two years ago were quiet and rarely seen. One neighbour, Madam Ho who has lived in the block for over 20 years, said, “Their door is always closed and we rarely see them.”

Another neighbour, a 59-year-old packer named Madam Gina, said she regularly walks past the unit but has never seen the deceased mother and son before: “The family is very quiet. We don’t know much about them.”




http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/mother-son-found-dead-in-apparent-suicide

Mother, son found dead in Tampines flat in apparent suicide
Published
Nov 29, 2017, 5:00 am SGT
Ng Huiwen


A 66-year-old woman and her 27-year-old son were found dead in their flat on Monday, in what appeared to be a double suicide.

Madam Lee Gek Lan and Mr Toh Boon Siong were found hanged in a bedroom in their flat in Block 727, Tampines Street 71.

The police received a call at 4.21pm that day and paramedics who arrived at the scene pronounced them dead.


The Straits Times understands that no foul play is suspected.

The decomposing bodies were found in a locked bedroom by Madam Lee's son-in-law, who had returned home after a three-day hospital stay for an operation, according to Chinese evening daily Lianhe Wanbao.

Mr Toh is understood to have been suffering from severe depression, Lianhe Wanbao quoted a close friend of the victims as saying. However, it is not clear if his condition was linked to their deaths.


Neighbours told The Straits Times yesterday that the family moved into the five-room flat about two years ago, but that they did not know who else lives in the unit.

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A neighbour who lives on the same floor, and who wanted to be known only as Madam Ho, said the family members often kept to themselves. "Their door is always closed and we rarely see them," said Madam Ho, who has lived there for more than 20 years.

Another neighbour, a 59-year-old packer who identified herself as Madam Gina, said she often walks past the unit but had never seen Madam Lee or her son before.

"The family is very quiet. We don't know much about them," she said, adding that the police were at the block until past 9pm on Monday.



Peasants pse DIED TOGETHER, NOT ALONE!
 

JohnTan

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Many are single because they are too negative in their outlook. Always the wet blanket, always having nothing positive to say. People avoid them, and if they are still lucky enough to get married, have very few kids or no kids because they over think the costs of raising kids or their negativity affects their fertility.

You will be more positive about life if you support the PAP. Oppies are perpetual whiners and losers, just like terrorists. The good desi from smrt described oppie singletons aptly.
 

sweetiepie

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Your uncle's friend didn't have any children?
my uncle say his friend got 1 daughter that already married to a faraway place have like don't have. But my uncle say he told him die alone or die together also not much difference. He say die liao how to know.
 

johnny333

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Anyone know where LKY was staying in the twilight of his years?

Wife was gone. Daughter living in Oxley Road, LHL & Ho Ching have their own home. So was LKY staying alone at the Istana with maids, body Guards, ...etc
 

Hangover

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Many are single because they are too negative in their outlook. Always the wet blanket, always having nothing positive to say. People avoid them, and if they are still lucky enough to get married, have very few kids or no kids because they over think the costs of raising kids or their negativity affects their fertility.

You will be more positive about life if you support the PAP. Oppies are perpetual whiners and losers, just like terrorists. The good desi from smrt described oppie singletons aptly.


Old liao join RC and visit macik when free right?

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JohnTan

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That's a good idea! It beats joining the oppies. They have much fewer grassroots activities, spend too much time complaining and sometimes get arrested for unlawful activities like public disorder.

Old liao join RC and visit macik when free right?

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