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Ladies (guys feel free to chime in too), how do you deal with misogynistic colleagues in your workplace?
GeneralLately, I've been dealing with 2 extra misogynistic colleagues. They feel the need to jump into every conversation with their own experience, and many times the experience are just "NS experience". I'm not saying NS is not a proper workplace, but I hate it when they generalise the entire company of proper mature adults with what they experienced amongst testosterone filled 18 year old.
Majority of the times, the misogynists aren't even part of the conversations. They just insert themselves in and feel the need to give advice. Advice nobody asked for. Things like "wah lucky you never meet my encik" or things like "if you think it's hard, you haven't seen NS" or even "aiya XXX (always a female they can't get along with) is just lazy".
What ticks me off especially is how the bosses like the misogynists. Because they are seen as extra helpful and has strong leadership qualities. Always volunteering to guide a colleague (even if they colleague did not ask for help). The misogynists also feel the need to dominate the team and instruct the team when everyone could have done their part perfectly without an extra "leader".
We are probably at a point where all the ladies just avoid them, and fellow guys have given up on them as well (many nice guys in the team have told them off for their ego but were met with condescending snide remarks). We thought the loneliness will make them realise that ego doesn't pay off, but they just started hanging out with the bosses instead
Need some good comebacks or methods to deal with misogynists bros.
Edit: Going to add some misogynistic behaviour below which I omitted previously to not give my workplace away.
-They would make comments like "females who put on makeup at work are not suitable in our industry"
-They only specifically man-splain to the ladies.
-Feel the need to check the work when it's done by a female colleague. So our job requires collaboration. Whenever a female colleague does her part, they will need to "check" and give comments despite them being from a different department and not knowing what her part entails.
-Making comments like "XX is lazy and weak (specifically women)"
-Whenever a female colleague talks to a fellow lady, they feel the need to cut in and give their take/advice. Always starting with "ladies..."
-Super condescending tone. Can't describe much but even the guys noticed and told them off.
-Basically the comments they make. "A female getting IPPT gold is different from us getting that. Female standards so weak" or "I only want guys on my team" or "Sorry ladies, not letting you help because I want to be efficient"
And the award winning statement...
"eh period only what. Don't weak leh"
