I’m currently pregnant in the third trimester and it’s my second kid. I know a lot of people say women are progressive and you can be a strong independent woman, but is it wrong to still want my spouse to care for me more..
I stay with my in-laws so they help with the housework. I still try to do my part at the end of the day, but i don’t even see him help with the housework much. When i get leg cramps in the middle of the night i end up dealing with it myself because he looks so done trying to help me. he doesn’t offer to give me a massage he will just say “go for a massage” but i’m the one paying.
When i ask him to help he just does it so mediocrely for a few minutes and stops. I don’t take a single cent of allowance from him, I pay for all my own needs and wants. Sometimes he pays for meals and sometimes i do.
For our wedding anniversary I asked him nicely for flowers, but he didn’t get me any. He treated me to a buffet, but i was sad cause he say it’s more worth it. i only got flowers from him twice. Once when we got married and once when we got into a huge fight. On Mother’s Day this year i cooked for him and he was just yapping on about how father’s day was not as celebrated.
Today my colleague asked me “eh your husband never pick u u from work one ah? not even when you’re pregnant?” i heard it and felt a twinge of sadness.
I don’t get it. Is it wrong to see social media and see what spouses do for their wives and feel neglected? Comparison is the thief of joy, I get it. And when i point out some unhappiness I have my husband will tell me not to compare.
Are these feeling valid or are they just my raging pregnancy hormones stripping me of joy?