I love your objectivity as always. though I wish you can be more human in your response.
My biological clock is ticking. I am getting older by the day. I have been pondering zealously about the next direction in my life ∼ to remain single, as in, be in a relationship without "formalities", or just get it over, ie. R.O.M and be over and done with.
This year is 2016, a leap year. Tradition has it that on 29 February of every leap year, a woman "is allowed" to propose to his man without fear or favour. My Irish colleague even told me that she did it 8 years ago and never regretted every single minute of marriage life.
Well, it's afterall an Irish tradition and nothing Chinese about it. It's never easy for a petite Chinese girl like me to be so bold and audaciously "un-chinese".
The whole idea of me proposing to him seems arduous and incredulous. I am unconvinced (at least for now while writing this post) why I should make the first move instead of him.
If I do propose on 29 February, and he doesn't accept, I become the world's biggest nincompoop. Worse, a buffon for sure in future.
And if he does accept, I fear that I will be at the lowest end of "bargaining power" in the future marriage life ∼ ie., his damn ego will be so big and humongous ∼ thinking that he is so damn great and deluding himself that he is an "Alpha male" ∼ which incidentally, I believe is pure crap philosophy and trashy concept borne out of male losers in society.
I broached this idea of proposing on 29 February to my best friend, Sue, last evening, at Brotzeit over wine and sausages. She said I am out of my mind and "cheapening myself", if ever I do so and blah, blah and blah... and the most funny of all, she said women are like good wine, meant to be savoured while men are just sausages, meant to be eaten while they are hot and juicy! Haha!
Well, jokes aside ∼ assuming I change my mind nearer the day ∼ decides to brave and courageous, a couple of questions kept encircling my ever productive brainy thought bubbles...
1. What do I get as a proposal momento? Really an engagement ring? What about for myself???
2. Do I have to kneel down like what men do when proposing? Feels odd and smacks of chauvinism. Yucks!
3. What about flowers? For him? It will certainly looks weird on that egoistic Beast!
Suggestions?
It's your perogative Blackie (given you wish to be addressed as such).
And it's not being over sensitive or whatever you wish to call me. To me, John is simply expressing his opinion, which is neither distasteful, vulgar or inappropriate. The way you snapped at him is beyond reason. If you don't like what he says, just ignore.
Anyway, it's your perogative.
Have a good evening
Hello John.
What you say is nevertheless true. I guess it is "challenging" for him as he is divorced before and have been in many relationships. Perhaps fear has crept in his mind when the word "Marriage" is mentioned.
By the way, I still cannot find your recommended Cara Cara in Cold Storage :(
I wish you all the best in your relationship with him.
Cara Cara is a seasonal orange. I can't find it either for now. But I always keep a lookout for it when it arrives. Then I buy in bulk for the whole family. Very good!
Good afternoon Elder brother Eat
You never fail to amaze me with your creativity. Really good idea.
A 6.9 carat is far too ostentatious and OTT. I think a over 2.5 carat will do for a humble me. In fact, I am more interested in the way the stone is cut rather than how big it is. With a good cut, the diamond can sparkle even more.
Good afternoon Elder brother Eat
You never fail to amaze me with your creativity. Really good idea.
A 6.9 carat is far too ostentatious and OTT. I think a over 2.5 carat will do for a humble me. In fact, I am more interested in the way the stone is cut rather than how big it is. With a good cut, the diamond can sparkle even more.
I wish you all the best in your relationship with him.
Cara Cara is a seasonal orange. I can't find it either for now. But I always keep a lookout for it when it arrives. Then I buy in bulk for the whole family. Very good!
staring at a large piece of carbon at the store is just nudging him silently with a subtle hint, all body language and not a word, and i doubt such a rock exists at a store in sg anyway. 6.9 is my cryptic number. staring at a 0.69 carat stone may also do the trick. yup, not just carat, cut and clarity are also important. that said, diamonds do not a marriage make. if he gets the hint, proposes, and does not get you one, not even a 0.69, appreciate the fact that the true objective is achieved.
if it does not work out and the romance falls apart (hopefully this is not the case), and your biological clock continues to tick, worry not. there are several studs here that would go to the ends of the earth to take his place. they're harassing you shamelessly but deep in their collective groins they wish to get in your pants. they're just pissed that you hold the key and power.
hahaha...
A very good morning to you Elder Brother.
I had a strange thought last nite. Diamonds do not have much resale value unless it is one of those unique ones. Gold on the other hand does retain its worth. Perhaps I should demand for 8kg of gold when I get married.
Just pondering aloud. Certainly shows my greed, hehe
