29 February 2016 ∼ Should I?

[Claire]

My biological clock is ticking. I am getting older by the day. I have been pondering zealously about the next direction in my life ∼ to remain single, as in, be in a relationship without "formalities", or just get it over, ie. R.O.M and be over and done with.

This year is 2016, a leap year. Tradition has it that on 29 February of every leap year, a woman "is allowed" to propose to his man without fear or favour. My Irish colleague even told me that she did it 8 years ago and never regretted every single minute of marriage life.

Well, it's afterall an Irish tradition and nothing Chinese about it. It's never easy for a petite Chinese girl like me to be so bold and audaciously "un-chinese".

The whole idea of me proposing to him seems arduous and incredulous. I am unconvinced (at least for now while writing this post) why I should make the first move instead of him.

If I do propose on 29 February, and he doesn't accept, I become the world's biggest nincompoop. Worse, a buffon for sure in future.

And if he does accept, I fear that I will be at the lowest end of "bargaining power" in the future marriage life ∼ ie., his damn ego will be so big and humongous ∼ thinking that he is so damn great and deluding himself that he is an "Alpha male" ∼ which incidentally, I believe is pure crap philosophy and trashy concept borne out of male losers in society.

I broached this idea of proposing on 29 February to my best friend, Sue, last evening, at Brotzeit over wine and sausages. She said I am out of my mind and "cheapening myself", if ever I do so and blah, blah and blah... and the most funny of all, she said women are like good wine, meant to be savoured while men are just sausages, meant to be eaten while they are hot and juicy! Haha!

Well, jokes aside ∼ assuming I change my mind nearer the day ∼ decides to brave and courageous, a couple of questions kept encircling my ever productive brainy thought bubbles...

1. What do I get as a proposal momento? Really an engagement ring? What about for myself???

2. Do I have to kneel down like what men do when proposing? Feels odd and smacks of chauvinism. Yucks!

3. What about flowers? For him? It will certainly looks weird on that egoistic Beast!

Suggestions?

 

[Jah_rastafar_I]

Propose? Took you 4 days to consider it I think you better BTW has he test driven you already?

 

[eatshitndie]

dear sister, you can give him a hint by suggesting that the 29th is a rare opportunity for wild alpha males to get domesticated and turn the table on him. if he gets the drift and proposes, it will relieve you of "cheapening" yourself and coming across to him as desperate to beat the biological clock. if he fails to get it or pretends not to get it, drag him to a jewelry store and stare at a 6.9 carat diamond. :p

 

[Thick Face Black Heart]

(i) My Irish colleague even told me that she did it 8 years ago ... Past performance is not indicative of future returns

(ii) nothing Chinese about it ... Why let cultural dogma dictate your life choices?

(iii) petite Chinese girl like me ... I thought you are over 170cm?

(iv) he doesn't accept, I become the world's biggest nincompoop ... Veiled sexism. Man gets rejected - the gal doesn't know how to treasure. Women get rejected - she is a nincompoop. So its always the woman's fault.

(v) his damn ego will be so big and humongous ... Absolutely agree and I am with you on this. This is a paternalistic and patriarchal society, so men (like me included) will definitely use this to our advantage. It doesn't matter if women secretly despise this, because society is structured to give us an overall advantage and there are enough women out there will be quietly swallow it. We men are playing the numbers game here.

(vi) Do I have to kneel down like what men do when proposing? ... No, but it may cause an instant hard-on if you do.

 

[GoldenDragon]

(i) My Irish colleague even told me that she did it 8 years ago ... Past performance is not indicative of future returns

(ii) nothing Chinese about it ... Why let cultural dogma dictate your life choices?

(iii) petite Chinese girl like me ... I thought you are over 170cm?

(iv) he doesn't accept, I become the world's biggest nincompoop ... Veiled sexism. Man gets rejected - the gal doesn't know how to treasure. Women get rejected - she is a nincompoop. So its always the woman's fault.

(v) his damn ego will be so big and humongous ... Absolutely agree and I am with you on this. This is a paternalistic and patriarchal society, so men (like me included) will definitely use this to our advantage. It doesn't matter if women secretly despise this, because society is structured to give us an overall advantage and there are enough women out there will be quietly swallow it. We men are playing the numbers game here.

(vi) Do I have to kneel down like what men do when proposing? ... No, but it may cause an instant hard-on if you do.

how are you mark andrew yeo?

 

[Claire]

dear sister, you can give him a hint by suggesting that the 29th is a rare opportunity for wild alpha males to get domesticated and turn the table on him. if he gets the drift and proposes, it will relieve you of "cheapening" yourself and coming across to him as desperate to beat the biological clock. if he fails to get it or pretends not to get it, drag him to a jewelry store and stare at a 6.9 carat diamond. :p

Good afternoon Elder brother Eat

You never fail to amaze me with your creativity. Really good idea.

A 6.9 carat is far too ostentatious and OTT. I think a over 2.5 carat will do for a humble me. In fact, I am more interested in the way the stone is cut rather than how big it is. With a good cut, the diamond can sparkle even more.

 

[Claire]

(i) My Irish colleague even told me that she did it 8 years ago ... Past performance is not indicative of future returns

(ii) nothing Chinese about it ... Why let cultural dogma dictate your life choices?

(iii) petite Chinese girl like me ... I thought you are over 170cm?

(iv) he doesn't accept, I become the world's biggest nincompoop ... Veiled sexism. Man gets rejected - the gal doesn't know how to treasure. Women get rejected - she is a nincompoop. So its always the woman's fault.

(v) his damn ego will be so big and humongous ... Absolutely agree and I am with you on this. This is a paternalistic and patriarchal society, so men (like me included) will definitely use this to our advantage. It doesn't matter if women secretly despise this, because society is structured to give us an overall advantage and there are enough women out there will be quietly swallow it. We men are playing the numbers game here.

(vi) Do I have to kneel down like what men do when proposing? ... No, but it may cause an instant hard-on if you do.

Good afternoon Thick

As usual, as forthright response from you as usual, leaving no stones unturned.

Well, I may be tall but still "petite" as it not huge. Cheers

 

[GoldenDragon]

Good afternoon Thick

As usual, as forthright response from you as usual, leaving no stones unturned.

Well, I may be tall but still "petite" as it not huge. Cheers

hope you arent jw5 in disguise, sis.

 

[tonychat]

dear sister, you can give him a hint by suggesting that the 29th is a rare opportunity for wild alpha males to get domesticated and turn the table on him. if he gets the drift and proposes, it will relieve you of "cheapening" yourself and coming across to him as desperate to beat the biological clock. if he fails to get it or pretends not to get it, drag him to a jewelry store and stare at a 6.9 carat diamond. :p

What type of biological clock does a gaylord has?

 

[Claire]

hope you arent jw5 in disguise, sis.

Hello Goldie. I have absolutely no interest in your turf wars here

I have read some of those egoistical posts from you men (seriously, do you guys behave like thugs in real life) and have absolutely no idea what you guys are blabbering about.

PS : Sorry for calling you Goldie. I hope you don't mind I prefer shorter names rather than long, multiple syllable ones

 

[GoldenDragon]

Hello Goldie. I have absolutely no interest in your turf wars here

I have read some of those egoistical posts from you men (seriously, do you guys behave like thugs in real life) and have absolutely no idea what you guys are blabbering about.

Yes sis, I am a thug. That's why I find it hard to deal with a girlish man.

You should read more. Narong's post summarises the history well. I have never been confrontational.

Since I have time to spare recently, I figured it may be interesting to give my doggie some body rubs. Good day, sis.

 

[Claire]

Yes sis, I am a thug. That's why I find it hard to deal with a girlish man.

You should read more. Narong's post summarises the history well. I have never been confrontational.

Since I have time to spare recently, I figured it may be interesting to give my doggie some body rubs. Good day, sis.

Goldie, I really have no interest in all these stuff.

To me, this place is for crowd sourcing for different views. If you do not know my "style" by now, I absolutely ignore all provocative and nonsensical posts. They are unbefitting for me to read and respond. Well, it is a free expression forum. They can continue to do what they like while I am free to ignore them

There are always nice ones like my Elder brother Eat, S.N.A.G Charlie, Wunder, Thick, and a couple more that gave me fantastic views. Additionally, there are jovial ones like Long and R2D2 that can make me laugh while reading their "innovative" responses to my posts.

Have a great day ahead

 

[harimau]

This one sure works!

 

[Thick Face Black Heart]

how are you mark andrew yeo?

I'm fine, thank you. Felt I had to respond to Claire as there were lots of social issues involved.

By the way, Mark says he has reduced his stake in CitySpring. The annual report was not up to date. Some junior clerk must have cocked up

Mark's dog says hello as well

 

[rocket]

Where is ah meng?

 

[kulgai]

Good afternoon Elder brother Eat

You never fail to amaze me with your creativity. Really good idea.

A 6.9 carat is far too ostentatious and OTT. I think a over 2.5 carat will do for a humble me. In fact, I am more interested in the way the stone is cut rather than how big it is. With a good cut, the diamond can sparkle even more.

hmmm.. that depends on how he perceive your worth. Will 2.5 carat turn out to be a humbling experience instead? hmmm...

 

[JohnTan]

You should hint to him to propose. Maybe he already wants to propose, but fears being rejected. You hinting to him would help ease the tension. If he's not keen to marry you but wants to keep you as long-term gf with no formal responsibilities, he basically has little faith in the viability of the relationship.

 

[GoldenDragon]

This one sure works!

Good taste. My type of vege.

 

[GoldenDragon]

I'm fine, thank you. Felt I had to respond to Claire as there were lots of social issues involved.

By the way, Mark says he has reduced his stake in CitySpring. The annual report was not up to date. Some junior clerk must have cocked up

Mark's dog says hello as well

How on earth can I say hello to myself?

That junior clerk? Let me think ......... the one who carries a plastic water bottle after work? Is he known as the Jamban Warrior in office?

 

[GoldenDragon]

Where is ah meng?

Several Mengs in this forum. Just ask, where is Jamban Warrior?