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Is God powerless?
StrugglingMy husband (married for 7yrs no kids no fights) cheated on me and he was a church leader. He cheated with a divorced woman who has a daughter. She confessed her love to him and he said he took advantage to sleep with other woman. The woman, who is also Christian for her whole life, knew my husband was married, but she wanted my husband to be her boyfriend. He told me that he did not love her but loved himself and enjoyed her attention.
I asked him, did your belief ever stopped you or made you feel guilty at some point? How come you could not stop even if you knew it is written in the bible that it is wrong to sleep with other woman as a married man?
He said he thought about it but could not stop himself to go all the way to the end. He was christian for his whole life and yet nothing could not stop him from cheating.
I never knew about this for 3months during his cheating until he decided to tell me everything. He could not cut ties with the woman so he came to me and I helped him to end the relationship.
He does not want to end our marriage and telling me sorry everyday, telling me it was a mistake etc etc. I am heart broken but the more I talk to him I get more confused.
I became christian about 10yrs ago and every Sunday we hear sermons about Sins and how we should protect our hearts. I have learnt that even if we cannot do with our strength, if we pray and seek help, the God will help us through. But in reality that does not happen.
Even if we prayed and practiced the words of God, God did not stop him or her from sinning. Does this means that God wants our marriage to be over?
Adultery is in the 10 commandments. I have all the right to divorce him but I cannot understand why God who has all the power and glory, but then allow man to sin with his free will, wait him to destroy everything and let others suffer?
I do not hate my husband. I just feel like he made really stupid decisions and i feel like I need to kill myself to love a person who betrayed me.
I consulted with a pastor and he said Jesus went through the same pain and may be God tries to teach me how to Really love a person Despite their sins.
he told me that Jesus also got betrayed by his followers and suffered until death, but returned with reconciliation.
Does this mean being a christian you will end up go through suffering until your death if you want to follow Jesus? All you can do is just choose love not hate and kill your self respect and self love?
I feel like you cannot live without tears to survive this world as a Christian.
