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Feel guilty for making things awkward at bf’s house
I need advice!I feel like I’m ruining my boyfriend’s relationship with his family and I don't know if I'm just being over sensitive or if my feelings are valid.
I (22F) have been dating my BF (24M) for over a year. Recently I started going over to his place more often to study or just chill. The problem is his uncle moved in recently due to family issues
I’m quite into fitness and I gym 5 times a week, so naturally my body is a bit more defined and I’m quite well-endowed. Every time I’m at the house, I feel his uncle’s eyes on me. Not just a normal hello look, but like he’s scanning me especially at my chest and legs. I’ve started feeling so self-conscious that I stopped wearing all my favorite or casual clothes. I used to wear baby tees, sundresses, or even just my shorts after gym. But now I only wear my oversized UNIQLO airism shirts and longer pants. Even then, I still feel him watching me when I walk to the toilet or kitchen. Last week it got so bad. I was in the kitchen getting water and he walked past and made some remarks about my looks and body. I didn't tell my BF immediately because I didn't want to cause a dispute or commotion. When I finally told my BF, he got so protective and angry, and now the atmosphere at his home is so tense. His parents are wondering why we are being so quiet and cold to the uncle. I feel like I had led to this. I feel so guilty that my BF is now arguing with his family because of me. I’m even thinking of just not going there anymore. I feel like I'm spoiling their family peace. Pls tell me what to do. I feel so lost and honestly quite scared to go back there.



