You are the man, therefore if your wife cheats YOU are to be blamed. YOU caused her to do it. You neglected her or did not fulfill her emotional needs. You need to MAN UP and forgive her, and then take more responsibility to strengthen your marriage.
The above is what you will likely hear should you ever have the misfortune to go for marriage counselling, be it of a secular type or a religious type.
are u a misogynist?