How to ask a friend to pay me back the money she owes me?

[PenAndPaper]

I have this girl friend. I knew her from my sort of long ago part time modelling days. She was very helpful to me and had helped me in the past and prevented me from being bullied by those bitchy and nasty people in the circle. Since I have left the circle long ago, we still keep in touch, maybe like once a month or two for a meal or drinks.

Half a year ago, she called me urgently and asked if I could extend a loan of $7.4k to her. She said she had broken off from her girlfriend of many years and had to move out of their shared rental condo apartment. Without hesitation, I transferred the sum to her account. After a month, she paid me 2.4k (that was in Feb 2023).

We haven't kept in touch since Feb 2023. It seems like she has forgotten about the balance $5k (I think?).

I was having my breakfast just now and just flipping her Insta. Looks like she's in Seoul holidaying with a new girlfriend.

Well, maybe she has genuinely forgotten about the balance $5k. I mean it's not as if it's $50,000 or $100,000. So maybe she's has really forgotten.

I am thinking what's the best way to remind her. I mean gently remind her and not let this money issue cause any acrimonious outcome in our friendship.

How should I approach this? How do guys in general handle such a sensitive subject between friends. Please let me know.

 

[eatshitndie]

some creative artwork on her door may send a signal. like this?

 

[laksaboy]

Watch some older movies, they have plenty of wisdom regarding how to deal with situations in life.

Regarding this situation:

 

[batman1]

U will not get back your loan of $5K. Just write it off as bad debt.

 

[sbfuncle]

I have this girl friend. I knew her from my sort of long ago part time modelling days. She was very helpful to me and had helped me in the past and prevented me from being bullied by those bitchy and nasty people in the circle. Since I have left the circle long ago, we still keep in touch, maybe like once a month or two for a meal or drinks.

Half a year ago, she called me urgently and asked if I could extend a loan of $7.4k to her. She said she had broken off from her girlfriend of many years and had to move out of their shared rental condo apartment. Without hesitation, I transferred the sum to her account. After a month, she paid me 2.4k (that was in Feb 2023).

We haven't kept in touch since Feb 2023. It seems like she has forgotten about the balance $5k (I think?).

I was having my breakfast just now and just flipping her Insta. Looks like she's in Seoul holidaying with a new girlfriend.

Well, maybe she has genuinely forgotten about the balance $5k. I mean it's not as if it's $50,000 or $100,000. So maybe she's has really forgotten.

I am thinking what's the best way to remind her. I mean gently remind her and not let this money issue cause any acrimonious outcome in our friendship.

How should I approach this? How do guys in general handle such a sensitive subject between friends. Please let me know.

This is a good question.
Uncle had been in this kind of situation.
Colleague loan some money and seemed forgotten about it.
Uncle had to find ways to remind and not cause any awkwardness.
Uncle thought over and find the best way is to find a way to send messages to them not directly asking them to return money but messages that contain the words dollars and cents in it.
In uncle's case uncle said he was fined for parking and this indeed rang a bell for him to return the money.
In your case perhaps you can text her asking like holiday in Seoul roughly cost how much ?

 

[A Singaporean]

Send me her photo and phone number. I collect for you.

 

[congo9]

My Chinese friend and malay both asked me for a loan of 3k and 1k.

I loan out to them. Till now no sound no peekture.

 

[syed putra]

In future, just pretend to be poor.

 

[congo9]

You can ask your friend to repay in kind ? Or make her work in your PR agency.

 

[LexLuthor]

In future, just pretend to be poor.

It's very hard for sinkies. Even the poor want to wear Rolex and harbor thoughts of changing to Audemars Piguet.

 

[blackmondy]

Where's part 2 of the breast-touching saga?

 

[jw5]

I have this girl friend. I knew her from my sort of long ago part time modelling days. She was very helpful to me and had helped me in the past and prevented me from being bullied by those bitchy and nasty people in the circle. Since I have left the circle long ago, we still keep in touch, maybe like once a month or two for a meal or drinks.

Half a year ago, she called me urgently and asked if I could extend a loan of $7.4k to her. She said she had broken off from her girlfriend of many years and had to move out of their shared rental condo apartment. Without hesitation, I transferred the sum to her account. After a month, she paid me 2.4k (that was in Feb 2023).

We haven't kept in touch since Feb 2023. It seems like she has forgotten about the balance $5k (I think?).

I was having my breakfast just now and just flipping her Insta. Looks like she's in Seoul holidaying with a new girlfriend.

Well, maybe she has genuinely forgotten about the balance $5k. I mean it's not as if it's $50,000 or $100,000. So maybe she's has really forgotten.

I am thinking what's the best way to remind her. I mean gently remind her and not let this money issue cause any acrimonious outcome in our friendship.

How should I approach this? How do guys in general handle such a sensitive subject between friends. Please let me know.

If it was I who lent her the money and she was very helpful to me in the past, I would consider the $5K as a gift.

 

[syed putra]

If it was I who lent her the money and she was very helpful to me in the past, I would consider the $5K as a gift.

For Sinkie, normally barter trade of this nature involves sexual gratification.

 

[congo9]

Gratification..
Gratification...

 

[Sustanon]

How much commission do I get if I get the loan back for you???

 

[k1976]

some creative artwork on her door may send a signal. like this?
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Wow.. Machiam like Van Gogh leh... Her neighbhour will be impressed by the artwork.... Remember to put signature

 

[blackmondy]

How much commission do I get if I get the loan back for you???

She might let you touch her breast....

 

[k1976]

She might let you touch her breast....

TBH.... Most are Changi Airpork... Maybe sg fengshui is tio cursed by SG highly successful airport

 

[blackmondy]

TBH.... Most are Changi Airpork... Maybe sg fengshui is tio cursed by SG highly successful airport

不管是大胸还是小胸, 只要是美女的胸就是好胸。

 

[Balls2U]

"She said she had broken off from her girlfriend of many years and had to move out of their shared rental condo apartment."

Is she a lesbio?