Couples fight over clean cups and instant noodles

More wives are cheating on their husbands.

And more men are going for counselling to save their marriages.

Divorce lawyers and marriage counsellors in Singapore cite a 20 per cent jump in the number of adultery cases involving unfaithful wives.

While some family service centres showed that the number of men seeking marriage counselling has doubled over the years.

But what's surprising is that it's not the big issues like a communication breakdown or extramarital affair that drive men to seek counselling.

It can be the little things, like washing of dishes, leaving the toilet covers up or down, and how to cook instant noodles, says marriage counsellor, Mr Klein Tan.

So what are the different reasons and expectations between men and women who go for counselling?

Ms Tan Soh Hian, counselling manager for Focus on the Family Singapore, says for women, it is usually because they don't feel loved.

She attributes that to the different way in which men express love, which is not what women expect.

While for men, they complain of neglect because their wive spend a lot of time with the kids.

Said Mr Tan, the men usually go for counselling as a "last resort", while wives are more willing to seek help early on.

It's better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

Proverbs 21:19

Women want fried ice

http://omegavirginrevolt.wordpress.com/2010/11/16/women-want-fried-ice/

With Christmas coming up he’s trying to find a way to navigate the maze coming up to keep his girlfriend. The problem is that there is no solution. Anything he does will be wrong in some way. The only thing he can do is find a new woman. That’s not a big deal for him. He’s not married and knows better than to get married so all things being equal he will be fine.

Married men don’t have his luxury. Their wives have got them by the balls because their wives can divorce them whenever they feel like for whatever reason they feel like and profit significantly from it. Married men who believe in game are simply delusional. They refuse to admit to themselves they have come up against the problem of women wanting fried ice and believe that they are successful navigating women because their wives have not divorced them yet.

Regardless of their delusion one way or another the divorce slaughterhouse awaits most of them particularly the younger they go. No matter what they do they can’t produce fried ice.

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Let me guess...they are Sinkies.

"It can be the little things, like washing of dishes, leaving the toilet covers up or down, and how to cook instant noodles, says marriage counsellor, Mr Klein Tan."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

tonychat said:

Let me guess...they are Sinkies.

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"Said Mr Tan, the men usually go for counselling as a "last resort", while wives are more willing to seek help early on. " quote

You are right on the SINkees...they have no balls, big enough to complain, whereas the women are AWARE that they go and complain..it is the SINkees man that have to pay & pay & pa..very soon!

I don't understand this toilet seat thing. America women like to make a big deals out of it.

ThugSin said:

"It can be the little things, like washing of dishes, leaving the toilet covers up or down, and how to cook instant noodles, says marriage counsellor, Mr Klein Tan."

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Focus on the Family is a Christian organization with the agenda of using marital and sexual issues to promulgate their religious doctrine.

Stay away from them and do not quote them in sbf outside the religious folder.

laksaboy said:

Women want fried ice

http://omegavirginrevolt.wordpress.com/2010/11/16/women-want-fried-ice/

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They always get fried by me.

HellBoy said:

I don't understand this toilet seat thing. America women like to make a big deals out of it.

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They even did research on this issue:

http://metroseksualny.blox.pl/resource/deska.pdf

I think women who harp on this issue are testing the manhood of the man she's with. To win the game, he should do opposite of whatever she wants.
She wants the seat up, you leave it down.
She wants the seat down, you leave it up.

Hawkeye1819 said:

Focus on the Family is a Christian organization with the agenda of using marital and sexual issues to promulgate their religious doctrine.

Stay away from them and do not quote them in sbf outside the religious folder.

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It's a secular charity.

http://www.caritas-singapore.org/smc2010/Speakers.html#TanThuanSeng



Tan Thuan Seng

Thuan Seng is the Chairman Focus on the Family Singapore Ltd, a local charity set up 2001 and now leading advocate and provider of family life education in Singapore. An accountant by training, Thuan Seng has more than 20 years of senior management experience with MNCs such as Shell, BP and Norcos Plc, rising to regional CEO. He also serves on board of several companies and NPOs. Thuan Seng completed his Cross-Road's Training with the University of the Nations in 1997, and has been a trainer and facilitator of family life education for 20 years in 1992, he founded Bright Arrows, a social enterprise which presently has projects operating successfully in eight developing countries.

laksaboy said:

They even did research on this issue:

http://metroseksualny.blox.pl/resource/deska.pdf

I think women who harp on this issue are testing the manhood of the man she's with. To win the game, he should do opposite of whatever she wants.
She wants the seat up, you leave it down.
She wants the seat down, you leave it up.

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Women are a nuisance. No problem then go and create problem.

laksaboy said:

They even did research on this issue:

http://metroseksualny.blox.pl/resource/deska.pdf

I think women who harp on this issue are testing the manhood of the man she's with. To win the game, he should do opposite of whatever she wants.
She wants the seat up, you leave it down.
She wants the seat down, you leave it up.

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To solve this, you must sit when peeing. That way, the toilet seat will be clean from urine droplets. It a hygiene thing.

syed putra said:

To solve this, you must sit when peeing. That way, the toilet seat will be clean from urine droplets. It a hygiene thing.

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No thank you. I prefer to pee standing. It's a biological advantage, just like not having to bleed every month.

Again, if women are concerned about urine droplets, wash and wipe the seat themselves before using the toilet. Don't nag in my face, I have zero tolerance for nagging.

laksaboy said:

It's better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

Proverbs 21:19

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lianbeng shocked that u r so holy!

BuiKia said:

It can be the little things, like washing of dishes, leaving the toilet covers up or down, and how to cook instant noodles, says marriage counsellor, Mr Klein Tan.

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lianbeng agrees: toothpaste squeeze from centre or back? Colgate or Darkie better?

lianbeng said:

lianbeng shocked that u r so holy!

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Even if you don't believe the Bible, many idioms and sayings in the English language are derived from it. For example, 'doubting Thomas', 'as strong as Samson' etc.

The predominant religion of a region will affect its culture and language. I'm sure you can think of a few Chinese proverbs derived from Buddhism.

do sinkie couples quarrel over using or not using the condom?

lianbeng said:

lianbeng agrees: toothpaste squeeze from centre or back? Colgate or Darkie better?

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Darlie, Darlie not darkie...but don't tell those Ang Moh that don't understand that "hak yen ar go" is DARKIE TOOTHPASTE... ha ha ha

I dont see why women should complain when its the wife's job to do the cooking, cleaning and other wifely duties. Since its their job and duty, there should be no complaints about this is not clean etc etc. Cos its their job to do the cooking and cleaning.