Woman ordered by judge to hand over her NUDE 'boudoir album' to her ex-husband in divorce because he wanted to keep it for 'memory's sake'
Lindsay Marsh said that she commissioned the photos in the early years of her marriage, and wrote 'loving' and intimate messages to him inside the album.
But, when she filed for divorce in April 2021 after 25 years together, her ex-husband Chris Marsh said that he wanted to keep the album, for the memories.
'It's violating and it's incredibly embarrassing and humiliating,' she said.
'The only way I can hopefully protect someone else from going through the same situation is to tell my story and expose that these are the types of things that he thinks are OK.'
But Judge Michael Edwards, sitting in the 2nd district court, sided with her ex-husband.
As a gesture, he said Marsh should take the book back to the original photographer, and have a copy made, with her body edited out.
Marsh went to the photographer, but the photographer refused, arguing that the images were art which should not be altered.
The judge then ruled, in August this year, that Marsh must hand the album to a third party, who would themselves edit the images.
'That person is to do whatever it takes to modify the pages of the pictures so that any photographs of [Lindsay Marsh] in lingerie or that sort of thing or even without clothing are obscured and taken out,' he wrote in a ruling shared with The Salt Lake Tribune.
'But the words are maintained for memory's sake.'
Marsh said the thought of handing the book over to a stranger was even more traumatic, and rang the judge's clerk to ensure she hadn't misunderstood the ruling.
'I just want to clarify,' she recalled saying. 'The judge has ordered me to give nude photos of my body to a third party that I don't know without my consent?'
'That's even violating,' said Marsh.
'Because these are things that were sensual and loving that I wrote to my husband that I loved. You're my ex-husband now.'
Lindsay Marsh is legally required to keep the originals until December, in case her ex objects to any of the edits.
She then plans to hold a burning party, and throw them into the fire.
'It's going to be amazing,' she said.
Chris Marsh told The Tribune the books were full of memories, inscriptions and photos, stressing they were not 'inappropriate-type books.'
He said: 'I cherish the loving memories we had for all those years as part of normal and appropriate exchanges between a husband and wife, and sought to preserve that in having the inscriptions.'
He said their case raises wider questions for society.
'As boudoir photography becomes a more common way for a couple to share intimacy, where is the line of appropriateness when they split up?'
Source:https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...DE-boudoir-album-ex-husband-memorys-sake.html
- Lindsay Marsh filed for divorce from her husband Chris in April 2021, after 25 years together
- He presented a list of items he wished to keep from the marriage, including a series of nude boudoir photographs she took years ago
- The judge ordered that she hand over the book: she complained, and won the right to edit the photos to hide her body
- She said she felt violated by the judge's ruling, and intends to burn the original photo album
Lindsay Marsh said that she commissioned the photos in the early years of her marriage, and wrote 'loving' and intimate messages to him inside the album.
But, when she filed for divorce in April 2021 after 25 years together, her ex-husband Chris Marsh said that he wanted to keep the album, for the memories.
'It's violating and it's incredibly embarrassing and humiliating,' she said.
'The only way I can hopefully protect someone else from going through the same situation is to tell my story and expose that these are the types of things that he thinks are OK.'
- Lindsay Marsh told The Salt Lake Tribune she was shocked when a judge ordered she hand over her intimate photo album to her ex-husband, as part of their divorce
But Judge Michael Edwards, sitting in the 2nd district court, sided with her ex-husband.
As a gesture, he said Marsh should take the book back to the original photographer, and have a copy made, with her body edited out.
Marsh went to the photographer, but the photographer refused, arguing that the images were art which should not be altered.
The judge then ruled, in August this year, that Marsh must hand the album to a third party, who would themselves edit the images.
'That person is to do whatever it takes to modify the pages of the pictures so that any photographs of [Lindsay Marsh] in lingerie or that sort of thing or even without clothing are obscured and taken out,' he wrote in a ruling shared with The Salt Lake Tribune.
'But the words are maintained for memory's sake.'
Marsh said the thought of handing the book over to a stranger was even more traumatic, and rang the judge's clerk to ensure she hadn't misunderstood the ruling.
'I just want to clarify,' she recalled saying. 'The judge has ordered me to give nude photos of my body to a third party that I don't know without my consent?'
- Judge Michael Edwards ruled that Marsh had to hand over the images to her ex, but said her body could be edited out of them
'That's even violating,' said Marsh.
'Because these are things that were sensual and loving that I wrote to my husband that I loved. You're my ex-husband now.'
Lindsay Marsh is legally required to keep the originals until December, in case her ex objects to any of the edits.
She then plans to hold a burning party, and throw them into the fire.
'It's going to be amazing,' she said.
Chris Marsh told The Tribune the books were full of memories, inscriptions and photos, stressing they were not 'inappropriate-type books.'
He said: 'I cherish the loving memories we had for all those years as part of normal and appropriate exchanges between a husband and wife, and sought to preserve that in having the inscriptions.'
He said their case raises wider questions for society.
'As boudoir photography becomes a more common way for a couple to share intimacy, where is the line of appropriateness when they split up?'
Source:https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...DE-boudoir-album-ex-husband-memorys-sake.html
