Useless 29 yo abused intern had wanted to suffer in silence

[laksaboy]

It's apparent dumb sinkies don't know their own rights. Only when other people start voicing out, then they suddenly gain enlightenment and start demanding justice to be served when the damage has already been done.

Not only this abuse case, you can also see it from sinkies' reaction to Pap's recent bad policies.

It's probably a case of the 'unquestioning obedience to authority' attitude that had been drilled into Sinkies' minds when they were young. Also, to grin and bear with insults and indignity is widely thought of as a virtue. Christians too, still believe that the meek shall inherit the earth.

There is also an ingrained belief that any form of retaliation, even in self defense, is wrong. The police will catch you and punish you for that. Therefore, it is better to rely on the wonderful Singapore law enforcement and legal systems to give you justice.

 

[laksaboy]

Depends on our job description? I think at Exec level, earning below $4,500 cannot claim OT pay

You have no bloody idea what you're talking about.

Run along now, you ignoramus.

 

[B Man]

Agree.

This has caused the rise of the species of Singaporean "automatons" as some of my foreign friends will call it. The irrational and abject fear of anything that is not given prior permission to do by a higher "authority".

It's probably a case of the 'unquestioning obedience to authority' attitude that had been drilled into Sinkies' minds when they were young. Also, to grin and bear with insults and indignity is widely thought of as a virtue. Christians too, still believe that the meek shall inherit the earth.

There is also an ingrained belief that any form of retaliation, even in self defense, is wrong. The police will catch you and punish you for that. Therefore, it is better to rely on the wonderful Singapore law enforcement and legal systems to give you justice.

 

[tonychat]

Agree.

This has caused the rise of the species of Singaporean "automatons" as some of my foreign friends will call it. The irrational and abject fear of anything that is not given prior permission to do by a higher "authority".

well said... sinkies are a disgraced.

 

[halsey02]

NTUC translated in Chinese is akin to hanging goat head, selling dog meat. They collected workers' monies to open supermart chain (instead of protecting the workers).

It is a co-operative & still is one & their license is that too...they are making obscene profits for taxation is different..that is why they can afford to sprout like mushrooms all over the place. whereas other commercially run supermarket can't.

The initial idea was good, a co-operative supermarket for the workers, to help them cut cost on their daily expenses...they somehow lost the plot, as usual along the way...for GREED OVERTOOK them.

 

[Rogue Trader]

Agree.

This has caused the rise of the species of Singaporean "automatons" as some of my foreign friends will call it. The irrational and abject fear of anything that is not given prior permission to do by a higher "authority".

It's a double edged sword. Singapore is a nice liveable place because sinkies obey rules. Respecting the queue system, first come first serve rule, keeping left at the escalator to make way for moving people, obeying traffic lights, using tissue to chope tables... these behavioural traits keep our society in order. Without them, we end up being chaotic like ah neh land.

 

[tonychat]

It's a double edged sword. Singapore is a nice liveable place because sinkies obey rules. Respecting the queue system, first come first serve rule, keeping left at the escalator to make way for moving people, obeying traffic lights, using tissue to chope tables... these behavioural traits keep our society in order. Without them, we end up being chaotic like ah neh land.

Follow rules and follow unjust rules are totally different

we follow traffic rules... but an independent mind and with balls do not follow unjust rules and will go to protest to make the unjust rule go away and replace by just rules...

 

[Narong Wongwan]

Follow rules and follow unjust rules are totally different

we follow traffic rules... but an independent mind and with balls do not follow unjust rules and will go to protest to make the unjust rule go away and replace by just rules...

Well said tony!
Sinkies can't think so they can't tell the difference.
Sinkies aren't taught to think since young...that's why you see high number of people getting con by sinple scams, CHC followers and the 60.1%.

 

[Rogue Trader]

Well said Tony! That's the most sensible thing you've posted in years!

 

[laksaboy]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness

In the learned helplessness experiment an animal is repeatedly hurt by an adverse stimulus which it cannot escape.

Eventually the animal will stop trying to avoid the pain and behave as if it is utterly helpless to change the situation.

Finally, when opportunities to escape are presented, this learned helplessness prevents any action. The only coping mechanism the animal uses is to be stoical and put up with the discomfort, not expending energy getting worked up about the adverse stimulus.

 

[IamTiong]

Never seen before footage of Abused Intern

[video=youtube;xkLQvmQuOZM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?&v=xkLQvmQuOZM[/video]

 

[bushtucker]

Re: Never seen before footage of Abused Intern

the silly intern should thank his fellow colleague for posting the video footage online, putting him in the limelight and good job offers start pouring in.

 

[Rogue Trader]

Re: Never seen before footage of Abused Intern

Keep quiet & suffer?
By Maureen KohThe New Paper
Tuesday, May 28, 2013

"Which grown man would keep quiet and allow the abuse to go on for three years?" - that's the burning question on the minds of most of the heartlanders this week.

Don't get them wrong.

It's not that they don't sympathise with the young man - believed to be a 29-year-old university graduate - who was repeatedly hit by his supervisor.

But they wonder as more reports emerge after the video of the abuse, which was posted on YouTube and popular forum fuckwarezone, went viral.

Mr Faisal Salleh, 48, a technical officer, says: "It's terrible to think, that if not for the other person who secretly filmed the video, this young man could have continued to suffer in silence.

"I feel that the young man has to shoulder part of the blame for somewhat allowing that to happen. Why didn't he tell someone about it?"

Agreeing with Mr Salleh is his colleague, Mr William Tan, 49, a senior technical officer.

He says: "How can we not stand up for ourselves? By not retaliating, we are saying, it's okay, I don't mind."

Oddly enough, 21 out of the 40 people that this heartland auntie spoke to share the two men's thoughts.

Seriously, you'd expect most of them to cry foul over the bully's actions more so than any other sentiment.

As the other half of those randomly approached point out more accurately: It may be easier to put up with the abuse or bullying than to speak up.

Madam Hoh Leng Ching, 59, a housewife, reckons it will be especially tough if the victim feels the need to keep his job.

"Sometimes, the practical aspect of life takes over," she says in Cantonese. "What if you complain about the boss and you end up losing your job?"

One man, who wants to be known as Jayern, can fully attest to that fear.

In an interview with The New Paper on Sunday last September, the former accounts executive recounted the horror story of how the managing director of an events company allegedly slapped, kicked and punched him, and hit him with PVC pipes and even a golf club every time he made mistakes.

He finally made police reports and filed a magistrate's complaint. The case is still under investigation.

The case came to our attention only after a former colleague tipped us off about Jayern's suffering.

The colleague was angry and didn't know who else to turn to except to inform the press.

His colleagues apparently knew about the abuse and some had even heard his muffled cries and the whacks he received behind closed doors.

One colleague said Jayern was treated worse than an animal.

In a telephone interview on Thursday, the soft-spoken Jayern says he has moved on with his life.

He is now studying part time for a degree and has found a new job.

The diploma holder confesses that he had stayed with the company then because he is an only son and his parents are retirees who live in a two-room flat.

Says Jayern: "If you're an intern or new to work, it's not surprising that you'd keep quiet.

"In the first place, you may not even understand what your rights are. It's worse if your family depends on you to bring the money home and you have your boss threatening you with cutting you from the job."

He adds: "Sometimes you may not even able to tell your colleagues or your HR (human resource) people. It may not help because they may either be scared of the boss or be on his side."

In his case, what has been resolved so far is that there has been restitution of 20 per cent of his overtime pay, the rest seems like a lost cause because he didn't have proper records to show for it.

The police are still investigating his abuse case.

But Jayern admits he is not pursuing that conclusion actively because he has moved on with his life, and he wishes to close that ugly chapter.

The question here is, do victims have to wait until the abuse gets physical and too painful before they complain against the bully?

The reality is, as Jayern has pointed out, it can be difficult at times.

Repercussions from the complaints and "what if no one believes us" or the condition may just get worse - all make it difficult for victims to speak up.

Workplace intimidation can also come in several other forms that include verbal abuse or ridicule, sarcasm and repeatedly bringing up past mistakes and errors which have been dealt with, points out lead psychologist Elizabeth Nair from Work & Health Psychologists.

Dr Nair says that it is important to be clear that such bullying is not acceptable.

"If the subordinate needs to keep his job, and it is his 'boss' who is bullying, I would coach the subordinate how to 'manage' the boss/colleague and the situation/scenarios as they occur at work."

I like what Dr Nair can do, but how many of us can take this first step?

Because even in schools, it can take some time before a child voices out about a bully.

Seamstress Lucy Sng, 50, still remembers the grief her teenage son had to go through in his school.

"We didn't know that the school prefect and his friends had been picking on him, threatening to book him for offences like being late.

The truth is, my son is also not very well-behaved and (being) worried that he may have to be suspended from school (with the number of demerit points), he was bullied into running errands (like buying food) for the group."

When she found out and confronted the school prefect at the school, she was upset that the vice-principal found her complaint "incredulous".

It was only until two of her son's classmates vouched for the story that the school took action against the prefect.

"Honestly, as upset as I was, I couldn't blame the school. It's harder to believe the underdog. Had it not been for my son's classmates, we would have been so maligned."

And that, unfortunately, is true.

Which is why, I feel, it's important that we do our part.

Speak up against bullying, whether it is at work or in school.

Speak up and support each other against abuse. Physical or more insidiously, verbal.

We all need to do our part to help stamp out this scourge, and help people come forward.

You don't know when the victim could well end up being one of your siblings or your children.



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[ray_of_hope]

Re: Never seen before footage of Abused Intern

Just from his pic he looks totally geeky with the buck teeth...

 

[soIsee]

Re: Never seen before footage of Abused Intern

Keep quiet & suffer?
By Maureen KohThe New Paper
Tuesday, May 28, 2013

And that, unfortunately, is true.

Which is why, I feel, it's important that we do our part.

Speak up against bullying, whether it is at work or in school.

Speak up and support each other against abuse. Physical or more insidiously, verbal.

We all need to do our part to help stamp out this scourge, and help people come forward.

You don't know when the victim could well end up being one of your siblings or your children.



Get The New Paper for more stories.

Chee Bye mouth Mauren koh, IF YOU and the rest of the brain dead, BALLESS Sinkie HAD done your part,

The despotic psycho would not have been able to rule for you for 40 over years making you..

Brain dead and your future gen too! LOL