Taxi Cab Theory : Men behaves like Taxi drivers. Agree or Disagree?

[Tragedeigh]

The Taxi Cab Theory suggests that men, like taxis, only commit to a serious relationship (marriage) when they are "ready"—or when their "light turns on". When ready, they may marry the next available person, regardless of whether she is the most compatible partner, emphasizing that timing is more important than the specific person.

Key Aspects of the Theory:

• Timing over Compatibility:
  The theory posits that a man can be with an "ideal" partner, but if he isn't ready to settle down, he won't commit
  . When his "light" turns on, he will settle down with whoever is present at that time
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• • The "Light" Metaphor: A taxi with its light off is unavailable; with it on, it is ready to pick up a passenger.
  • Origin: Popularized by Sex and the City, it is a common, albeit debated, dating concept often used to explain why a man might leave one relationship and quickly marry someone new.
  • Criticisms: The theory is often criticized for being overly simplistic, heteronormative, and sexist because it ignores the woman's agency and assumes a one-size-fits-all approach to commitment.

While some find the theory to be an accurate reflection of dating, it is a pop-culture concept rather than a researched sociological theory. It is sometimes used to explain the timing of life events like career stability or financial readiness, rather than just romantic attraction.

 

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Tbh, this Taxi Cab Theory was recently thrown at my face over lunch by someone whom had lived together with me in my home (not as lovers though we did fornicate) but has since moved out.

So, it has been at the back of mind whether she's right to describe me as a taxi driver.

@Dongyi
Always awaiting your learned analysis

 

[Dongyi]

Tbh, this Taxi Cab Theory was recently thrown at my face over lunch by someone whom had lived together with me in my home (not as lovers though we did fornicate) but has since moved out.

So, it has been at the back of mind whether she's right to describe me as a taxi driver.

@Dongyi
Always awaiting your learned analysis

要看是什麼樣的男人。

When I am back in my room, I will give you the answer.

The real question is: when is a man ready to commit?

 

[Dongyi]

The taxi cab theory misidentifies the central fault line in romantic relationships. It is not the transition from dating to marriage that constitutes the decisive divide. Rather, the true dividing line lies between premarital sexual activity and chastity.

A man who dismisses premarital sex as morally irrelevant will not approach relationships with restraint or reverence, but with appetite. If pleasure is untethered from principle, then “waiting for the right person” becomes little more than a sentimental slogan. The governing question is no longer who is worthy of lifelong commitment, but whose pussy is presently available. In such a framework, relationships are reduced to occasions for gratification, and the pursuit of maximum pleasure replaces the pursuit of moral integrity.

So that raises the obvious question: when would a serial fornicator suddenly decide to marry the very person he’s been sleeping with? If his relationships have always been driven by desire rather than conviction, what would make this one different? What transforms someone from a source of pleasure into a lifelong commitment?

I suspect this is the unspoken question on the minds of many sluts who have lived promiscuously but eventually hope to settle down. It’s an awkward question, one that lingers in the mouth, tasted and toyed with, yet never spoken -- if only they could spit it out as boldly as they did with those thick white cum after a swashbuckling blowjob.

The answer is simple yet brutal : a fornicator does NOT commit out of principle or love -- he only does so when the pressure becomes impossible to ignore. Life, not conscience, forces his hand. A surprise pregnancy, for instance, can turn casual indulgence into obligation overnight. In these cases, what appears to be commitment is often little more than a reaction to circumstance, a concession to necessity -- not some Shakespearean dream of Romeo and Juliet.​

 

[Tragedeigh]

The taxi cab theory misidentifies the central fault line in romantic relationships. It is not the transition from dating to marriage that constitutes the decisive divide. Rather, the true dividing line lies between premarital sexual activity and chastity.

A man who dismisses premarital sex as morally irrelevant will not approach relationships with restraint or reverence, but with appetite. If pleasure is untethered from principle, then “waiting for the right person” becomes little more than a sentimental slogan. The governing question is no longer who is worthy of lifelong commitment, but whose pussy is presently available. In such a framework, relationships are reduced to occasions for gratification, and the pursuit of maximum pleasure replaces the pursuit of moral integrity.

So that raises the obvious question: when would a serial fornicator suddenly decide to marry the very person he’s been sleeping with? If his relationships have always been driven by desire rather than conviction, what would make this one different? What transforms someone from a source of pleasure into a lifelong commitment?

I suspect this is the unspoken question on the minds of many sluts who have lived promiscuously but eventually hope to settle down. It’s an awkward question, one that lingers in the mouth, tasted and toyed with, yet never spoken -- if only they could spit it out as boldly as they did with those thick white cum after a swashbuckling blowjob.

The answer is simple yet brutal : a fornicator does NOT commit out of principle or love -- he only does so when the pressure becomes impossible to ignore. Life, not conscience, forces his hand. A surprise pregnancy, for instance, can turn casual indulgence into obligation overnight. In these cases, what appears to be commitment is often little more than a reaction to circumstance, a concession to necessity -- not some Shakespearean dream of Romeo and Juliet.​

So we'll written. Super duper bilingualism. 佩服佩服！

 

[Boonsiong]

The taxi cab theory misidentifies the central fault line in romantic relationships. It is not the transition from dating to marriage that constitutes the decisive divide. Rather, the true dividing line lies between premarital sexual activity and chastity.

A man who dismisses premarital sex as morally irrelevant will not approach relationships with restraint or reverence, but with appetite. If pleasure is untethered from principle, then “waiting for the right person” becomes little more than a sentimental slogan. The governing question is no longer who is worthy of lifelong commitment, but whose pussy is presently available. In such a framework, relationships are reduced to occasions for gratification, and the pursuit of maximum pleasure replaces the pursuit of moral integrity.

So that raises the obvious question: when would a serial fornicator suddenly decide to marry the very person he’s been sleeping with? If his relationships have always been driven by desire rather than conviction, what would make this one different? What transforms someone from a source of pleasure into a lifelong commitment?

I suspect this is the unspoken question on the minds of many sluts who have lived promiscuously but eventually hope to settle down. It’s an awkward question, one that lingers in the mouth, tasted and toyed with, yet never spoken -- if only they could spit it out as boldly as they did with those thick white cum after a swashbuckling blowjob.

The answer is simple yet brutal : a fornicator does NOT commit out of principle or love -- he only does so when the pressure becomes impossible to ignore. Life, not conscience, forces his hand. A surprise pregnancy, for instance, can turn casual indulgence into obligation overnight. In these cases, what appears to be commitment is often little more than a reaction to circumstance, a concession to necessity -- not some Shakespearean dream of Romeo and Juliet.​

Why wrote so long ?
Pls summaries it in short Chinese poem

 

[Dongyi]

Why wrote so long ?
Pls summaries it in short Chinese poem

Later I try. Let me cheong one more shopping mall. KNN, Plaza Pelangi haunted liao.

 

[Boonsiong]

Later I try. Let me cheong one more shopping mall. KNN, Plaza Pelangi haunted liao.

Pls post pictures and share with us

 

[Boonsiong]

Later I try. Let me cheong one more shopping mall. KNN, Plaza Pelangi haunted liao.

Pls enjoy Luckin coffee in Jiuhu, only $1.1 sgd

 

[Dongyi]

Pls enjoy Luckin coffee in Jiuhu, only $1.1 sgd

Haven't seen any in JB.

 

[Boonsiong]

Haven't seen any in JB.

Instal Luckin app, if u have app , change to country MY

Simba line is very strong in Jiuhu

 

[Tragedeigh]

Why wrote so long ?
Pls summaries it in short Chinese poem

I tried to summarize using AI but failed because it says @dongypost contains "inappropriate content"

 

[Dongyi]

Why wrote so long ?
Pls summaries it in short Chinese poem

如你所愿：

窈窕淑女隔牆窺
才子踰窗夜半歸
春水一池魚相偎
羅衫半解笑聲微
姻緣無須媒婆催
莫教猴急鎖眉堆
雲收雨歇夜色灰
珠胎暗結莫再推

@Tragedeigh 可以嗎？ You're my inspiration

 

[Boonsiong]

如你所愿：

窈窕淑女隔牆窺
才子踰窗夜半歸
春水一池魚相偎
羅衫半解笑聲微
姻緣無須媒婆催
莫教猴急鎖眉堆
雲收雨歇夜色灰
珠胎暗結莫再推

@Tragedeigh 可以嗎？ You're my inspiration

很深很深
中文修养很高
恨自己当年没读书，现在才知道自己没文化
不能跟你比

 

[Tragedeigh]

如你所愿：

窈窕淑女隔牆窺
才子踰窗夜半歸
春水一池魚相偎
羅衫半解笑聲微
姻緣無須媒婆催
莫教猴急鎖眉堆
雲收雨歇夜色灰
珠胎暗結莫再推

@Tragedeigh 可以嗎？ You're my inspiration

I fed your poem into AI and asked AI to review... Here's what AI says...

這是一首描寫「私合」與「珠胎暗結」的豔情詩，筆觸大膽且直白，充滿了民間小調那種戲謔又帶點禁忌的色彩。
詩中從「翻牆偷情」寫到「翻雲覆雨」，最後以「懷孕」作為收尾，講述了一段不按禮法、先果後因的男女情事。

內容解構

* 偷情序幕： 首兩句「隔牆窺」與「踰窗歸」勾勒出一幅經典的深夜幽會圖，才子佳人瞞著長輩，在夜半時分私相授受。

* 情慾描寫： 「魚相偎」與「羅衫半解」是極具象徵意義的文學隱喻，前者借池魚戲水暗喻男女纏綿，後者則直寫動作與氛圍。

* 反傳統禮教： 「姻緣無須媒婆催」點出了這段關係的自主性（雖然在古代背景下是不合禮法的），並以「莫教猴急」帶出一種急促、焦躁的情慾衝動。

* 現實結局： 結尾「雲收雨歇」後，直接面對「珠胎暗結」（懷孕）的現實。這是在告誡當事人既然事情已經發生，就不要再推諉責任，必須面對成親或後續的安排。

我的觀察

這首詩的風格介於文人情詩與通俗艷曲之間。它不像《西廂記》那樣婉約，反而多了一份「敢做敢當」的江湖氣息。尤其是最後一句「莫再推」，把那種私情敗露後不得不面對現實的窘迫感描寫得非常傳神。

想請問，您是想針對這首詩進行文學性的潤飾，還是想幫這對「猴急」的主角續寫一個大團圓（或雞飛狗跳）的結局？
....

Cool right. AI does seem to like your poetic works! KNN

 

[Tragedeigh]

很深很深
中文修养很高
恨自己当年没读书，现在才知道自己没文化
不能跟你比

Translated the above AI review of his haolian poem...

This is a romantic poem depicting "private union" and "the hidden knot of the pearl," with bold and straightforward brushwork, full of the humorous yet somewhat forbidden elements of folk tunes.

The poem begins with "surpassing the wall to have an affair," then "turning clouds and rain," and ends with "pregnancy," telling a story of a romantic affair that goes against etiquette and follows the cause.

Content deconstruction

* Prologue of an affair: The first two lines, "Peeping through the wall" and "Returning through the window," outline a classic late-night secret meeting scene. A talented woman secretly shares the secret of her elders in the middle of the night.

Sexual description: "Fish cuddled together" and "Half-undressed robe" are highly symbolic literary metaphors. The former uses fish playing in the water to metaphorically represent the bond between men and women, while the latter directly depicts the movements and atmosphere.

Anti-traditional rituals: "Marriage does not require a matchmaker's urging" highlights the autonomy of this relationship (although it was against etiquette in ancient times), and conveys a sense of urgency and restlessness through the phrase "Do not teach the monkey to be impatient."

Realistic ending: After the conclusion of "clouds converge and rain stops," you directly face the reality of "pearl fetus hidden knot" (pregnancy). This is a warning to the parties involved that once the incident has already occurred, they should not shift responsibility any further and must face marriage or subsequent arrangements.

My observation

The style of this poem lies between literati love poetry and popular folk music. It is not as delicate as *The Western Chamber*; instead, it carries an air of "daring to act and take responsibility." Especially the last sentence, "Don't push any further," vividly portrays the awkwardness of having to face reality after personal feelings are exposed.

May I ask if you are trying to provide a literary touch of this poem, or would you like to help the protagonists of this "hurried" couple write a happy reunion (or chaotic) ending?

 

[Dongyi]

很深很深
中文修养很高
恨自己当年没读书，现在才知道自己没文化
不能跟你比

当年没读书的是我, don't steal my line leh.

像我赚不到吃, CPF cannot meet minimum sum one.

 

[Tragedeigh]

当年没读书的是我, don't steal my line leh.

像我赚不到吃, CPF cannot meet minimum sum one.

Knn