Mandi, widows who wish to remarry must choose a man from the same clan as their dead husband to preserve the clan alliance. The only available single men, however, are often much younger men in their late teens. So the custom evolved: a widow would offer one of her daughters as a second bride to take over her marital duties – including sex and child-bearing – when the girl came of age. "It's not common thes
The three-way marital arrangement was fraught as soon as she was officially a co-wife. "It grew tense when Noten began sleeping with me. My mother knew it was inevitable – she pushed me into Noten's bed when I was 15 to consummate the marriage. But he quickly began to prefer me to her." In a whisper – Mittamoni is hovering nearby – Orola relates how her mother once slipped some wild herbs into her food to upset her stomach. "While I was ill, she took the chance to spend the night with Noten."
The rivalry destroyed their mother-daughter relationship. "She stopped being my parent. I couldn't turn to her for advice any more." Orola rebelled against her new role, taking off on solo day trips to the district capital of Madhupur to go shopping and watch Bengali movies. "I used some of the family money to buy gold jewellery. I knew I'd never have a man of my own to buy gifts for me, so I bought some for myself."
This remind me of a story....
A young bull and an old bull were on a hill looking down into the valley and saw a large number of cows. The young bull said, "Why dont we run down and fuck one of them ?" To which the old bull replied," Why dont we walk down and fuck all of them."